there's this guy that's madly in love with me, but I can't date until I’m 18, and if I don't love him back he'll kill himself or do something worse, as in columbine 2!
He has enough weapons knowledge to disarm a nuclear bomb with a screwdriver! And he’s only 16! He’s a complete nerd and everyone in the school is scared of him. Mom and dad want me to get rid of him and I think that it’s best that way, but how do I tell him I can’t be his girlfriend gently enough so I don’t push him over the edge, but firm enough that he’ll get the message (I’ve already told him ‘’no’’ 3 times via e-mail and twice to his face, and he still didn’t get it!) Please someone help me! I truly don’t know what to do. Its not harassment or threatening, it's just that ''I can't go on without you'' type things. My parents know all about it already but just don't know what to do, or who to call.
He lives 200 miles away from me and I only see him about 4 times a year, I just want to know how to let him down gently.
2006-09-13 20:13:56 · 10 answers · asked by godsgirl1491 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok, what some people don't get it that what happens is partly my fault, if I’m to rough with him and he kills himself (and/or some of his schoolmates)than I’ll blame my self for the rest of my life.
2006-09-13 20:23:54 · update #1
OK PEOPLE! I DON'T NEED TO KNOW WHETHER OR NOT TO DUMP HIM!
I just want to know how to do it gently.
2006-09-13 20:42:45 · update #2
Just tell him NO. You are not allowed to be a relationship right now. You got to respect your parents wishes and concentrate on school. Tell him the truth. Talk to him as a friend. There's no need for you to be scared that he is going to do a Columbine episode especially if he lives 200 miles away.
2006-09-13 20:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by PROLADY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will probably get a visit from law enforcement given what you have put on the internet. Hope you are serious because law enforcement does not like to be jerked around.
You and your parents know what to do. You've seen enough tv shows to know. It seems that you are getting a charge out of being the "victim." I seriously doubt this guy exists. If not, you need to get into therapy. Playing games with people's lives has gotten lots of people done in.
2006-09-13 20:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the school where he goes and surrounding schools also. Tell them who he is and what he is capable of. Tell them your situation and what he has said, so you can for warn them that it is possible that something can go wrong. Call the police let them know the situation and that you are scared for the lives of many others including his and yours. Or you can see if your parents are up to moving away to protect you. But seriously if this guy is for real get it out there and known.
2006-09-13 20:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there ..ok sweetheart this is harressment !! if he aint listening you have one severe problem ..and you need to do this quickly .....i hear what youre saying do this gently then hears my idea ....email him and explain to him that you dont want to go out with him as you never want to lose him as a friend and explain to him that he is one very special friend that you can talk to about anything and if you started seeing him as a b/f that would change and that would upset you the thought of losing this special friendship that you have together ........get where im coming from ,now the bit that concerns me ......if he was going to kill him self he would have or would do and there is nothing in this world you can do to stop this action ,what he is doing is playing mind games ,im a lot older than you .....and my X husband kept saying that o me and suprize suprize he hasnt and wont do that it was mind controllig games that he was ding to get me to do what he wanted .......please do not listen to this crap .....he wont do that .....i really hope that ive helped you sweetheart you seem such a nice girl and i wish you all the luck and love in the world to you ....have a great future with him at arms length !! xx
2006-09-13 21:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Direct approach: tell him you can ONly be friends. Be plain and simple.
indirect: by letter or email. I think this is better as he is suicidal. Reading a message takes some time to sink in and it is more tactful. Oh you already told him via email? Then refuse to answer his emails. He will get it eventually, men have a longer comprehension time.
2006-09-13 20:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Fenrispro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to let you know, the nuclear bomb can kill you even you're 1000 miles away. (so, better move)
2006-09-13 20:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Toan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that u are saving ur self for marriage and ur not in to dating anyone yet. And let him know that his life is worth more than a girl!!!!!!!!
2006-09-13 20:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_smith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a scary psycho... Just tell him NO. The rest is not your problem. He needs medical treatment, not yours.
2006-09-13 20:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by :: Urban G :: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mustn't have texted him first interior the 1st place lol, n then texting him the 2d time kinda ruined his component to the job. in keeping with risk he feels your too into him...while your too prepared it makes you too accessible and adult males pick to do the paintings while they're interested in a girl. in the event that they don't, then there jerks in any case. solid success!
2016-10-14 23:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes full of it dump him get a restraining order if you have to. you dont love him. if he kills himself its no big loss. if he kills others dont blame yourself. get rid of him before his problems get worse.
2006-09-13 20:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋