im really close 2 guys who r 3-5yrs older than me...& i like hanging out w/ them. so every time i talk about them (the older guys) to my girl friends they would usually put some malice. like for example, i told my girl friend that "jake" (one of my older guy friends) gave me a lift after ou game and my friend will be "ooohhh... it's getting somewhere else."
i don't know why they (my girl friends) r always reacting that way whenever i talk to the about my older guy friends... i tried to xplain 2 them that d guys r just lyk brothers to me bcoz i dont have an older bro hu cud give me the brotherly affection im looking for.
cu it b bcoz they're really seeing "something" btw'n my older guy friends & me... or r they just being plain malicious.
pls say anything that wud lighten me up bcoz im afraid all these silly reactions from my girl friends wud ruin my friendship with the guys...
2006-09-13 20:13:48 · 11 answers · asked by DruNkStripPeR 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Books & Authors
it's girl friends... not gil friends. there's something wong w/ my letter "r" so pls bare w/ me. thanks
2006-09-13 20:20:40 · update #1
I am going to answer the best I can, being that some of your questions I can not decipher.
I am understanding the story as such....You have 2 male friends whom are older, between 3 and 5 years older than yourself (you never said how old you are (I would need to know the age difference to help more thoroughly, however I will do my best)).
You have some girlfriends who portray some form of malice towards "Jake" who gave you a ride home from a game? I am assuming a school event....and your girlfriend/s thought there was more to it than just a ride home? I am guessing.
Okay, here is my opinion about the situation...If you are a teenager and your "brother-type male friends" are the age of 21 and older....well, I would not like to lecture you but merely ask you a question or two...If you were 21 years old, would you be hanging with teenagers? Would you have friends your age that you have much in common with or would you hang out with your "little brother" and his friends?
I am not saying that your girlfriends are right, nor am I saying that they are not being malicious, I am just saying that you need to evaluate the situation and while doing such....ask yourself these few questions....
How long have you been knowing your girlfriends?
How long have you been knowing your "older male friends"?
How many times have you called upon your girlfrieds and they have been there for you?
How many time have you called upon your "older male friends" and they have come through?
Now ask yourself this......These are the Winning questions...
How many times have your girlfriends come over to your house?
How many times have your "older male friends" come over (while your parents were home)?
and lastly....Have you introduced your "older male friends to your parents"? How did they react?
2006-09-13 20:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by gotcandy@yahoo.com 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you! Im a girl and for most of my life I have never had more then one friend that was a girl they stab each other in the back and cause drama and rumors and get jelouse way to easy. Guys are so much more laid back I love it! They dont wanna be around drama let alone cause drama, they like to have fun, do random stuff, ah the joys of being friends with guys is just so much better!
2016-03-27 00:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Martha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends should accept that these guys are just your friends if thats what you say. Unless you give them reason to doubt I reckon they ought to take your work and that ought to be good enough. But if it stresses you out, make it clear to them it wil hurt your friendship with them so they should just quit it.
On the other hand, maybe they see something you don't want to see. That maybe you just might end up goin out with one of these pals, which isn't a bad thing either.
So just enjoy having lots of friends whether guys or girls.
2006-09-13 20:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by stj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how old your girlfriends are. But the older guy, younger girl thing almost always raises suspicions. Some guys truly want to be friends with women, and some just want to use them. Be on your guard, most guys are hopelessly romantic and want every girl they are near to fall in love with them. It is just basic human wish to be loved.
Tell your girl friends to find their own guy friends and never mind yours.
They might just be joking with you and you are taking it seriously?
2006-09-13 21:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by FAT CAT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U want brotherly affection from these guy friends, but r u sure they treat u like ur younger sister ? If yes, then forget ur sick jealous frnds and enjoy ur company.
2006-09-13 20:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by cuteteddy761 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's becuase your friends have gils. Yep, you said it. Your gil friends are actually fishes. I guess fishes are naturally jealous animals. Take the Piranha for example
2006-09-13 20:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by Dallas M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hard to say...I think theyre just being really immature about all this. Just ignore it and eventually, it should stop (I say should because it dosent always work. You have been warned.)
2006-09-13 20:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by Aero Kaizer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
number one, please spell properly, that kid stuff is sickening, and the girls are jealous and they see sex in everything because thats what they think is expected by older guys, just ignore them. ignore the girls, the guys are better friends to you.
2006-09-13 20:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on! you should know better. They are simply jealous. Do whatever you feel like.
2006-09-13 20:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by P J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRY AND ASK THEM WHY THEY BEHAVE THAT WAY, IF TRULY THEY ARE YOUR FRIENDS, THEY WOULD TELL YOU AND IF THEY DON'T, NEVER MIND THEM, I THINK THEY ARE JEALOUS AS FAR AS YOU HAVE NOTHING IN MIND FORGET ABOUT WHATEYER THEY MAY SAY.
2006-09-13 20:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by OLUWATOSIN B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋