Ok well my ex and I have been broken up for several months and I am now seeing someone else. My ex is also seeing someone, and the people we are seeing do not know we are still having sex with each other....And it seems like we can't stop! My ex and I never had a good relationship, but the sex has always been absolutely incredible. I feel bad for lying to the person I am with, but how can I stop having the most amazing sex I've ever had in my life? What if I never find anyone who can please me like he does? I can't just have him on the side forever....What should I do?
2006-09-13 20:03:06 · 26 answers · asked by ashleighana83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Cut the cord. Move on. It is not a healthy dynamic for either of you.
2006-09-13 20:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Jim T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you should do, you should stop having sex with your ex. It is absolutely terrible when the chemistry and sex between you and your ex is so wonderful and strong, yet you know that the relationship is not a good healthy one, and that the two of you should not be together. If you know that the relationship is not good for you, then you just have to be mature and strong enough to walk away so the two of you can move on and find love elsewhere. You unfortunately will always love him, and probably miss the incredible sex, but you can't very well stay in a relationship that isn't healthy or good for you just because the sex and chemistry is incredible.The longer you wait, the harder it is going to get to walk away. He is an ex for a reason, move on.
2006-09-13 20:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop with the ex your relationship didnt work for a reason if you guys werent with other ppl it wouldnt really matter but if u really wanna give your new man a go and find someone else who can fullfill u more than sexually u need to let the ex go. and you only think its amazing sex cause your comfy with the ex and u know each other well enough to have incredible sex so get to know ur new man and the sex will be amazing but different in a good way
2006-09-13 20:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
i understand how much ur ex means for u . at the same time , i also understand your new born relationship which your new boy friend . lemme tell u... it may really not sound ethical to have sex with some 1 , when u have broken your relationship. however , the ultimate fact is that there is nothing absolutely wrong in having sex with your ex when u r currently going around with a new guy . the thing is , it is always a matter of doubt whether ur new guy will be able to satisfy u as ex does . but , only u will be able to answer that question and nobody else can. but , to conclude , i would say having se with your ex, and going around your new boy friend is'nt wrong at all. As george bernad shaw said " Sex has nothing to do with matrimony" . but , i would also suggest , u better try to confess the truth to your new guy to avoid future problems.
2006-09-13 20:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Alen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that same situation and it is horrible aint it you are with someone and you are cheating on them with your ex someone that you couldn't make it with while you were together but one things binds ya'll like sticky rice and coconut they way I solved the problem was I dumped the new guy and went back with my ex and the s** was the best I've ever had in my freakin life and it's like when you been with the best you can leave the rest and you will find out that the new guy just aint going to cut it and you will let him go I mean be truthful he isn't all that to begin with you are cheating on him left and right so it is just a matter of time and he will leave the rebound chick cuz you know that is all she is and you guys will hook back up the best advice though is just work on what made you guys split in the first place and see if you can work it out if it doesn't work a second time just face the facts you can be friends ith benefits but you two are obviously not ready to let go lol wouldn't it be funny if you were my boyfriends ex and you were screwing him and I'm giving you advice lol your name isn't Lindsey is it lol
2006-09-13 20:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by p-nut butter princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried it with the new person. I don't think its fair what yo u are doing to both of your partners. Come clean before you get emotionally evolved with the other 2. It will hurt but at lease not that badly when they find this out a year later. Just remember the truth always have a way of coming out. I mean the fact that you are feeling bad about this shows that you do feel something for the person you are with at the moment. And how will you explain to him a couple of months later that your pregnant and you don't know witch one is the Father.
Good Luck!
2006-09-13 20:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that most of the people here have you wrong, because they think you are in love with your new boyfriend, that doesn't see to be the case. Well, I can't say from personal experience, usually when I break up with someone I keep it to a clean break. But I'd say that it's unhealthy to keep a physical relationship going with someone that you know you can't connect with emotionally. There must be certain things that he does that make it so much better than other people. Perhaps if you happen to find yourself in bed with him again, you should pay closer attention to what it is that he does so well, and teach that technique to your new boyfriend. Because, contrary to popular belief, guys like it when you give us pointers. Most of us enjoy getting you off more than we enjoy getting off ourselves. If that doesn't work, than it's probably just the circumstances itself that make sex with your ex so great, like the fact that you see him as a permanent "one-night stand". Somebody that you can fool around with without having to worry about emotional attachments. You don't see like you are ready to settle down, so I'm not going to start gettin all one on one with your ex. There's nothing wrong with playing the field when you're single. You've found something great in your ex that keeps you happy, and surely you've found something that attracts you to your new guy. I can guarantee you that you will find somebody that can please you as well as your ex does, it's just that sometimes you need to spin them up. Every girl is different, and try as we might, we can't make everyone happy all the time. Good Luck, and happy Mattress Wrestling!
2006-09-13 20:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by JD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To my experience, it would be very difficult to solve it (i.e. to stop having sex with such kind of ex-boyfriend, or in my case with my ex-girlfriend) properly. Exactly the same, I never have a good relationship but the sex is most amazing, nothing else but we can not stop! I really feel she is my soul mate. I was trying to stop it by just concentrate thinking about her badness, which are a lot, but without success.
What I think you should do now are to :
1. minimize your communications with him, especially through SMS, so to minimize your desire.
2. keep busy with other interesting things, include dating with others.
3. keep thinking about his badness.
4. talk more straight and think more straight to him.
5. give him more chance to get somebody else to replace you, at the same time please try to get a boyfriend which is better than him.
6. in case of emergency, do sex with him with an extra care and safety, use a good protection. Try be not too good when you have sex with him.
All of my above advices are not easy to apply, but you can do it if you really wish.
Good luck.
2006-09-13 20:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by sastra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either stop seeing him or work things out. I'm sure you'll find someone better but if i were u i wouldnt get back into the relationship if your going to take him seriously cause if he's doing this to his girlfriend he'll do it to you. Plus you should stop because what your doing now if going to come around right back at you when you found a good guy.
2006-09-13 20:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the exact situation so I understand completely. What I did was I told my ex we had to stop, i blocked him from all forms of communication, I focused on my career, my friends, and kept my mind busy. Trust me this is a lose-lose situation in the long run so just let the sex go!
2013-10-09 14:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you want to find someone to settle down and raise a family with, you need to get rid of the ex, but if your not thinking of having a serious relationship with anyone , keep the ex on the side. why not be happy
2006-09-13 20:08:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋