My wife said to me in bed one night that she wanted her tubes tied after a 23 year marriage in which she kept telling me that she was getting closer to having children. We had a agreemnet from the start of our marriage that she would give me a family, this came as a devastating blow to me , I didn't know what to say but less than a year later I left the marriage. The last thing she said to me was that she was going to make me suffer, I will admit she's doing a pretty good job of it so far. I just want children so bad that I needed to leave her and find the right person to start a family. Am I to old to expect it might happen for me?
2006-09-13 19:58:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would like to add that we went to cousiling, I was decieved for a long time and can't except it. I provided a beautiful home, finance she just kept wanting saying after we get this and that, I got tired of it. I didn't mention after the fact I found where she forged my signature on loans for 98,000.00 dollars. That made the marriage unsalvagable. thank you for your answers and support.
2006-09-13 20:40:02 · update #1
#1) If you truly loved her, you wouldn't have left over that issue alone. You would have come to a compromise somehow.
#2) If you haven't had children in the 23 years that you've been married... there's probably a medical reason for it... and that's probably her body saying it can't handle a pregnancy.
#3) Perhaps she's just come to the realization that her chances of having a baby are pretty slim to none. It's almost time for her to go through menopause, making it impossible to bear a child on her own. That's a woman's body telling her something.
#4) Think of yourself and your child 20 years from now. Will you be able to keep up with them at 65 years old? Will it be fair to them to have an aging parent that young in life?
2006-09-13 20:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not you are not too old to still want children but you have to realize that wanting to have children is a difficult task (although ideal) it entails rearing kids, discipline, having the money to support them while they grow up and go to school and college, etc.- this will take your time and effort in keeping up with both prividing for your family and work. After 23 years of marriage, you should have had kids long before.... Whatever happened? Anyway, you both should work it out- if it is still possible and have kids even one or two. I am not opposed to divorce, per se but your reason of leaving her is really not that valid because you both could have talked it over a long time ago....and another thing is finding the right person....that would be quite difficult although not impossible. Ask yourself... would you want just kids? or a wife with kids and live happily ever after? Maybe you are just going through a phase, it depends on how you see a family - and how you see yourself coping with being a father, a provider, a husband- rolled into one. This is no easy task but then again, I encourage you to seek counselling with your wife. It would be very important if both of you could see each other's point of view. If I were you, I wouldn't want to throw 23 years of marriage....
2006-09-14 03:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a male, 45 isn't too old to want to have children, but if you are a female, 45 is too old. the factor of having a deformed or retarded child after this age is greater than you think. so find someone who is no older than i would say maybe 35 , and that is pushing it, good luck
2006-09-14 03:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by flwrgrl692001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not too old most ppl now have kids when they r older on the news they showed this women who was 65 and had twins and like donald trump his wife jus had a kid and hes in his 50s, alot of stars r like in there 70s and there wives r havin kids ur only 45 i know ppl in there 40s havin kids
2006-09-14 03:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by the_blue_martini_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are a male, you still have time, it doesn't matter that you will be an older father you can still provide a loving stabe home for a child. Good luck in finding someone.
2006-09-14 03:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never too old to start. Don't let her hold you back like she's been doing for the past 23yrs. Move on with your life and find someone who wants the same things you want in life.
2006-09-14 03:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH''' please , you guys, can make babie until you mid 70's .it been proven many times just read about sly stones old man, and H.hefner, Don Trump , and many more older guys making babies . 45 is not old in a mans world It's a woman who has to watch the clock for having babies. yet their having them older and older, what it really takes , is not just being able to make them ,you got to stick around and raise them.
2006-09-14 03:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by lytesdelite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you left the person who you have loved and has loved you for 23 years, just because she doesn't want children now that she's older? You're so desperate you left her to find someone else, just to have a damn kid?
Wow, you're shallow and pathetic.
Have a nice life.
2006-09-14 03:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
no u r not to old, and u will find the right person to start a family with. don't kill your self trying to look for that right person, just let the person find u.
good luck boo.......
2006-09-14 03:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by *peeachez* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you are but if you feel you are their are alot of women out their with kids that need a good father and you could father her children and love them as you own. But its not to late!!!!!! but hurry before it is!!
2006-09-14 03:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by silverdiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋