what do i do???? I feel it dirty and messy.
2006-09-13 19:58:00 · 15 answers · asked by baby 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Tell him to go f**k himself! If you don't like oral or anal, then that is your choice, and if he threatens to see other people, tell him it's over if he does. No man should threaten such a thing. If he loves you, that fact that you don't like those things shouldn't matter. Sex is not the be all and end all of relationships.
2006-09-14 09:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Seph7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, you've got too many hangups. Oral sex isn't bad, either giving it or taking it (from a woman's viewpoint). If you feel that it's dirty, do some foreplay where you wash your husband's penis and play with it a little before you go down on it. Then you know that it's clean. This shouldn't be no big thing.
Anal sex is another thing. Yeh, it would hurt the first time or two that you did it. Just make sure that he and you both are clean in your respective areas. Do it slow at first. You do the pushing, not him. This way you can control the actions.
But if your husband is that shallow that he would leave you for NOT having oral or anal sex with him, dump him and find someone who is sympathetic to you. Sex is a big part of a marriage, but it isn't everything, ya know.
I wish you well.
2006-09-14 04:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your husband is an ***, what a crap thing to say. You don't need that bull$hit!
Second of all, I agree about the anal sex - that's a one way exit as far as I'm concerned but oral sex is very nice (especially if you're the one getting it), you're missing out.
2006-09-13 20:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he should not make you feel guilty for not wanting to do these things. I think anal sex is "unnatural use of the body" as the Bible says. It is wrong for him to threaten you with intents to have sex with someone else. A husband and wife are family, and family respects each other. He can enjoy vaginal sex with you. It should not destroy his sex life. There is nothing wrong with you. There is something wrong with his attitude toward you.
2006-09-13 20:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, how insensitive can he be? If he is so shallow as to put anal and oral sex ahead of your marriage, then theres a serious problem. If you don't like it then don't do it. If he knew this from the beginning of your relationship then why did he marry you?
2006-09-14 03:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you'd listen to "Talk Sex" (Sue Johannsen), she says if you don't want it...he should honour that. But, whatever...if you ever decide to go along with it...ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS make him use a condom...especially since the urge to go from "there "to "there" (do you know what I mean?)...is pretty standard. and the TOXIC 'stuff' from the BACK DOOR should NEVER EVER be allowed in the FRONT DOOR.
Me? I'd KILL anyone who even TRIED that---and almost HAD to once. & I told him just that.
Your hubby's threats are pretty stupid. Reminds me of a highschool guy who says "if you don't 'do it' wiht me, you don't love me". Tell him to Go ahead---find someone else. (He can'aat find one that easy---unless he'll find a SKANK.. He must know that's your sore "button". and he's pushin' it. He needs to GROW UP! and you need to be sure he's wearing a condom at ALL TIMES....what if he DOES find a skank...then brings home HER toxic poop home and gives it to YOU....! OMG eeeeeeeeeuuuuuuu...g/f...get some strength! and quit being such a whiner.
....that's just not NATURAL!
2006-09-13 20:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who would demand sexual things you find repellent is a jerk at best and to threaten to cheat is even lower.
It may be that it's not the acts that bother you but that you have no desire to experiment with such a dreadful person. I would suggest a counsellor, not to fix your marriage but to help you in dealing with getting rid of a rat and finding a man who understands what love means. You deserve far better.
2006-09-13 20:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need to dump your husband and find your independence. There is absolutely NO reason to do something you don't want to do and him saying he'll go somewhere else is no more than sick manipulation and emotional abuse. You don't need to take that crap. Get yourself a good divorce attorney and live your own life. Then you can find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
2006-09-13 20:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by Princess J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oral sex is normal to compare with anal sex. anal sex is really no good, if a man request that it means he's no enjoying anymore with your vagina. he wants something different. its dirty! i think the woman will not enjoy in anal sex.
2006-09-13 21:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by agnesoli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally LOVE both of those, but dont do something you dont like just because some one wants you to. If he loved and respected you, he'd respect your decision and not try to force you to do it. And if he says he'll have to go out to someone else to get it, hunny i'd open the door for him. And when he found someone else to do it for him, his things would be right behind him along with new locks on the door.
2006-09-13 20:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by SEXiiNESS_2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋