and when you lost them,did it take you a long time to "move on?" and when you did move on,did you not feel complete? I fell in love 13 years ago,i have a great life now,but i still love/miss HIM. My hubby is a great man,to be sure,but I don't get the racing heart,the rush of seeing him,like I did my old flame. Hubby does what my old flame never did,that was take care of us,be a good father,hubby,ect. I have "moved on" but I don't feel complete. Could he be my soulmate? He is married ,and i got married 3 yrs. after he did.
2006-09-13 19:50:21 · 9 answers · asked by Dragonflygirl 7 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
i mean, how do you know when you have met "the one?" What does it feel like? is it from the get-go? Does it take awhile? I "knew" he was " the one," as soon as I laid eyes on him. He was a momma's boy,and still is.
2006-09-13 19:56:34 · update #1
Yeah I lost the one I thought was 'the one' like 4 years ago and I'm still sort of dealing with it every now and again- I honestly don't think there is a single soul mate for everyone, there are lots of people that you might run into that you would be perfect for. It's hard when you think something was everything, then you gotta build again. Still, it's a good way to get stronger, if you can survive it.
I think you have to do your best to move on, otherwise the memories have a good chance of poisoning the next good thing that might come your way. I think I didn't love my next girlfriend because part of me still loved the one before, and that meant I ended up hurting somebody that deserved better. Its a shame. i know what you mean about not feeling complete, but I truly believe that you can't ever have 'lost your chance forever', if you know what I mean.
I'm sorry I know it sucks. But from the sounds of it, he wasn't a very good match as a husband. By using the 'soul mate' thing, you put him in a category that nobody else could hope to match - and I'm not sure he deserves to be there. It would be a shame to squander what you have or might find just because you think the fire's only available with one person.
2006-09-13 20:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm soulmate or true love? Difficult to define which is which....can be both or neither....
i wish i had a way to tell you, how it is that you find your soulmate, i think its different for everyone, i personally have met mine and we are both completely aware of it and how the other feels, we dont know/realise until a year ago, after i was married and we started working with each other in close proximity, what doesnt help is that he is one of my husbands best friends, but as we are both in seperate relationships, neither can have what they want, or do anything about it, i think the best way to deal with it, if you still see the other person, is to remain friends and keep the other person close (your soulmate), because nobody knows what the future will hold, there may still be a time that you can/will be with him.
2006-09-14 03:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I may be young and although I believe in true love, I don't believe in soulmates.
My argument is this: say you're in love with someone and they love you back. Both of you think that you can't live without the other. Then they die. Later on, you meet someone else and fall in love with them and you also feel that you can't live without them.
Basically, I don't believe that one person completes you...the thought is actually depressing. It's saying that you were not fully human or that there was something wrong with you before that person came into your life.
My advice to you is: forget this guy - what you had is long gone. Just be grateful for the person you are having loved this person. Don't ruin your marriage for what could have been - you might regret it. Just because you consider him your 'soulmate' doesn't mean you were meant to be together forever.
2006-09-14 04:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by waterbabe23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything builds from being an individual. Find out how you want to live as an individual building. From there, you can identify those qualities in your soulmate. Raise a family according to your individual beliefs. When you have influenced your family, influence your community and nation. It all starts out with what you think as an individual.
How do you know if your individual beliefs are right? Imagine how life would be like if everyone in society followed your way of life.
2006-09-14 02:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by leikevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish there was an answer for that. I feel I have met my soulmate and I am letting him slip away because I feel I don't deserve him.
Just having a rush does not mean soul mate. Someone who is your mate should make you feel comfortable, secure and complete.
Also you can have more that one person as your soul mate.
2006-09-14 02:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by pyt_tlc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you both have a lot of things alike in life and you will know each others needs and thoughts.
2006-09-14 03:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by linda b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont see till this hour
2006-09-14 03:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant tell u only you that answer in your heart.
2006-09-14 03:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel it!
2006-09-14 04:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by mctorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋