my ex husband ditched me for another gal... then i got married to my family friend --- a divorcee (but his papers were not through) - he was mentally ill - only after getting into relationship - i got to know - i was tortured to death - so i left him - as the marriage was illegal - now the confusion is - i never had a smooth family life - am i still eligible to think of marring anyone??? as i find all guys r ready to love - but when it comes to marriage they run off. - hiding behind their parents... what's in store for me -- i donno
2006-09-13 19:49:12 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never give up, you have every right to happiness and a blissful marriage
2006-09-13 19:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Freddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sad, sorry. But you cannot marry unless you divorce that husband who ditched you for another woman. In the eyes of the law, you are still married and if you marry another, you will be commiting another mistake and that is a crime by all definitions. File for divorce first, clear that divorce process until the judgment is final then you will be eligible for a new marriage.
[Edit] Sorry... I misread that divorcee status.
You will find one who will stick around, no doubt. Maybe you're thinking that a divorcee has less chance but "all is fair in love (and in war)". Maybe right now, you are encountering BOYS who have to hide behind their mothers' skirts. Have hope. Sooner or later, you'll find a MAN.
2006-09-13 19:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are confusing marriage with being loved. Do you really need to be married in order to feel like you are loved? You will probably end up with more problem...why don't you find you a nice guy, love him and let him love you and just be happy.
I am a guy and I am saying this to you from a guys perspective...the more confident you are with being loved simply because you are worth it (with no marriage), the more attractive you are to a guy.
The trend these days is not marriage, it is single, single, single, single...you get the picture. You just need to work on yourself and make sure you have something to offer in a relationship. Many women think that they simply need to find that guy and all will be well, but the truth is that you also need good financial base (these days) and you need to show that have potential to not be a liability. Good luck.
2006-09-13 19:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Soft Rock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at the main objective being marriage. Happiness comes first. Find the guy who makes you happy and then worry about getting him to commit. If you're together for a few years and you love eachother, but he still won't get married, give him an ultimatum and he will choose you. Because his fear of losing you is stronger than his fear of marriage.
2006-09-13 19:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by trash1ey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the family friend you married does not have Power Of Attorney for himself, then your marriage to him was null and void by default. Also, if he never finalized his divorce from his first wife, then your marriage is also annulled at the point. You should check with your local family court just to be sure.
I am sure there are plenty of guys out there who have their act together and would like to spend marry you. However, you need to be sure of your own legal situation first.
2006-09-13 19:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jazz In 10-Forward 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you are confused whether or not to marry and not whether you are entitle to get married!
If U have had a divorce and no marriage there after, you can marry.
But I wish you take your sweet time and wait for good one to enter in your life.
Mountains look good from distance!
2006-09-13 21:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by ~Raju~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely lay off the marriage thing for awhile for starters. Honestly, I would seek therapy before anything else. It seems you've had a rough road with these guys, so try ongoing therapy - I know it helps me! As far as the legal aspects of your situation, if your therapist can't help, I'd call for free consultations with attorneys.
2006-09-13 19:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
taking a biblical perspective makes us discern hat preserving the family starts with preserving marriage,sad to say,many people today do not accord marriage its true meaning and value by living together like what busbands and wives do without the benefit of marriage,or by divorcing or separating from their spouse.for true christians,however the union of husband and wife through marriage is sacred,holu,and inviolable.furthermore there is a deeper truth to be learned concerning the bond of marriage that has something to do with our salvation.and because it is god who instituted marriage and the family,it is his laws concerning these that ought to be follwed specially now that many problems beset families.this is the law that god decreed concerning the union of man and woman in marriage since the beginning according to the lord jesus christ,he who made them male and female and said for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh.
2006-09-13 22:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to sit down with yourself and realize that the type of men you are attracted to are not right for you. Evaluate what it is you really want in a loving relationship and dont think that maybe this guy is ok, be sure of it. If you change your thinking, you can change your world.
2006-09-13 20:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by diaryofamadblackman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't panic. all relations do or die... the fact is how we cope with it. trust alone is not what you should do to get remain a healthy relationship. people rounding you might think of only having sex with u for a while. but, think and act. get the right choice by having a long and detailed study about the person who is nearing your life. a cautious step will guide you, as does a miss-step guides you to "gutters" again. think calm, dear.
2006-09-13 19:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait, just give a break to your married life and concentrate only on your career right now. indulge and engage yourself in busy social activities and keep yourself occupied throughout the day so that you do not have time to think otherwise. looking at the miraculous change in yourself and your career, eligible man will himself approach you to be his lifepartner. do not worry, things will become alright by itself. you be calm and pray to God for all good things to happen. keep your mind and body healthy and strong. nothing will deter you. be happy and make others happy.
2006-09-13 19:57:41 · answer #11 · answered by shankari n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋