she believes her friend over you ( her own mother!),and now your relationship is strained. I tried to explain my side,that what she heard wasn't what I said,and now she is curt,almost to the point of being rude. Money has been tight,as hubby just started a new job after being out of work for almost two months. She has a new laptop, (her birthday gift because she wanted one) nice clothes,and food,and she sounds ungrateful. Hubby says he will not put his two cent's worth in,as it is a " woman's thing," so he is no help. She is worried about her permit, ( she has failed it three times) and we used to be very close,till this incident. It was a stranger who didn't know her,and she transferred schools,and this girl,whom I spoke to,told her I said something,and she twisted it totally. My daughter believes this girl,over me. I told my daughter what I said,and this girl even told she agreed with me. help! Should i punish her? i am tired of arguing with her and being pushed aside in her life.
2006-09-13 19:22:47 · 13 answers · asked by Dragonflygirl 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your issues started many years ago! She may be seventeen, but YOU are still the mother, she is still your CHILD, and YOUR rules go! You cover the house, food, clothe,and all other costs.
If your daughter listens to the streets instead of you, at 17, you already lost her! Tell her if she wants to go with everyone else,
move her out into the hall way, lock up the room she used, tell her to buy her own food, give not one penny, take all clothing except one issue. Buy no extra food, only what it takes to COOK
one meal. Nothing in cans or boxes.
And do not be afraid to get up in her face if she gets disrespectful. If her mouth gets just a little bit nasty, take it out on her Butt!
Tell her she gets the room back when she demonstrates, to your liking, that she is your daughter! And she does not get everything back at one time.
Washing clothes, moping floors, the tiles and toilet, vacuum and yard work are all daily/weekly required to be addressed issues? And if you go out the Door, don't even think about looking back! Don't go away mad, just grow up!
2006-09-13 19:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be her mother not her friend. Sit her down do not allow her to speak tell her the TRUTH and that is the end of it. She either accepts it or she doesnt. Then strictly play the mother role until she gets over it. She will need you before you need her. If its too hard to talk without a fight. Write her a letter and spill your guts then follow through with the second part of my advice. Your daughter sounds stubborn like I was.the best thing to do is be honest and everything else will work itself out in time.
2006-09-14 02:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by helpfulhannah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your daughter that you are hurt that she chooses to believe this. Let her know that she is free to believe what she wants and if she wants to believe every lie that comes along then she is going to run into problems in life. Make her stay away from that friend for now because it sounds like she may be saying one thing to you and another to your daughter. Let your daughter know that people who slander your name are not welcome in your home. Good luck and keep your chin up. Teenagers can be very difficult at times but you will get through this.
2006-09-14 02:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if after explaining your side, she still believes what she wants to believe, let her. when she can sense youre desperate to mend your relationship with her, trust me, she'll do everything to make you suffer by being curt and indifferent all the more; let her know who has the upper hand. in due time, her common sense will sink in, and just realize how foolish of her to believe a stranger over her own mom. goodluck!
2006-09-14 02:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by DJ Alex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is behaving in a manner that would normally get her punished, then you should be consistent. If you don't, it looks as if you actually are feeling guilty about the entire thing and trying to make it up to her.
2006-09-14 02:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like your daighter is way too spoiled. take away the computer and ground her to the house until she learns her lesson. if that doesnt work get her into a therapist for a psyche evaluation for some meds. sounds to me like she runs the house.
2006-09-14 02:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by sexy_lil_woman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must have a bad rep. I would go to the school and tell someone that your daughter's friend is a whore
2006-09-14 02:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by Double Bubble 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sad story but something youse guys have to sort out yourselves
and where is the question exactly
2006-09-14 02:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More snot nose garbage get a life don't let your mind wander its a waste
2006-09-14 02:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
they never listen to mom
2006-09-14 02:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by cvegas229 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋