y people fall in love???

Answer 1

Stage 1: LUST
Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. Testosterone is not confined only to men. It has also been shown to play a major role in the sex drive of women. These hormones as Helen Fisher says "get you out looking for anything".


Stage 2: ATTRACTION
This is the truly love-struck phase. When people fall in love they can think of nothing else. They might even lose their appetite and need less sleep, preferring to spend hours at a time daydreaming about their new lover.

In the attraction stage, a group of neuro-transmitters called 'monoamines' play an important role:

Dopamine - Also activated by cocaine and nicotine


Norepinephrine - Otherwise known as adrenalin. Starts us sweating and gets the heart racing
Stage 3: ATTACHMENT
This is what takes over after the attraction stage, if a relationship is going to last. People couldn't possibly stay in the attraction stage forever, otherwise they'd never get any work done!

Attachment is a longer lasting commitment and is the bond that keeps couples together when they go on to have children. Important in this stage are two hormones released by the nervous system, which are thought to play a role in social attachments:

Oxytocin - This is released by the hypothalamus gland during child birth and also helps the breast express milk. It helps cement the strong bond between mother and child. It is also released by both sexes during orgasm and it is thought that it promotes bonding when adults are intimate. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes


Vasopressin - Another important chemical in the long-term commitment stage. It is an important controller of the kidney and its role in long-term relationships was discovered when scientists looked at the prairie vole

Looking in their genes
When it comes to choosing a partner, are we at the mercy of our subconscious? Researchers studying the science of attraction draw on evolutionary theory to explain the way humans pick partners.

It is to our advantage to mate with somebody with the best possible genes. These will then be passed on to our children, ensuring that we have healthy kids, who will pass our own genes on for generations to come.

When we look at a potential mate, we are assessing whether we would like our children to have their genes.

Answer 2

there are many forms of love and the form which u asked surely indicates love between two opposite sexes (male and female). Love normally happens due to the reason ...god has created a Adam and Eve who loved each other from the day the got each other and then human race was followed and it reached today 21st century. When ever a girl likes a guy it can turn out to be freindship or love ...but when guy likes girl 90% its love or crush towards her...so its been happening from a long time and it will continue whether its 50's ,60's or 90's computer,rockets and robot age love will happen and people will fall in love. Attraction is a main cause ...heart to heart sometimes attraction to looks and some times attracted to style ,attitude and body

Answer 3

I think most people are in love with the 'concept of love' itself, propogated by movies, romantic fiction etc. So most of them FALL in love, while only a handful of us RISE in it, which is a wiser and more mature thing to do.. Probably, this is done with our eyes kept wide open, rather than with blinkers on! The former, is of course, a result of the hormones and the desire to have children (which is basically born out of a fear of mortality and loneliness), while the later happens after careful deliberation and over a period of time.

It is the way we go about with our 'friends'. We see the person as human, with his/her strengths and the failings. It's more of a realistic approach, and is likely to last longer. The failings should be the kind, which by our standards, we should be able to overlook! Not the kind that are in conflict with our own nature and intrinsic value system. Of course, there should be a level of physical attraction which, to the eyes that really like us, has nothing to do with the conventional good looks. In fact, most people who go in for the 'good-looking' or 'rich' concept, have a lot of insecurities about themselves.

And so it happens, that we 'love' our friends; but 'falling in love' or 'rising'(!) is more of an intensity and attraction (in every way, not just physical) issue, i would think. I have seen some amazingly good-looking people marry very average-looking ones, for love. Guess they were not insecure about their own looks, and went in for beyond the superficiality of physical attraction...

Unfortunately, a lot of the times falling in love goes wrong, because of another reason: we confuse a good friendship with love. And then, due to lack of a mature way of thinking, expectations increase, possessiveness creeps in, 'taking the partner for granted' takes root, and if not handled with care, drifts the two apart.. even creating hostility!

So being 'in love' is no child's play.. It is for the true believers, who never give up on being together.. "It is a FEELING TO BE LEARNED. Happiness is only a part of love. Suffering belongs to love also. This is the mystery of love, its beauty and its burden..." (Walter Trobisch)

Answer 4

People fall in love because it feels good. We are not supposed to live alone. You live longer having a partner to share your life with, the trouble is finding the right person to fall in love with

Answer 5

Its natural to fall in love. Its as natural as opposite poles attracting each other. You don't decide to do so. And you will find many hard core nuts falling in love at first sight.

Answer 6

Present true love are very rare. People only attracted towards opposite sex. Are you fall in love?

Answer 7

It feels great to love and be loved. We fall in love because it's human nature to do so.

Answer 8

it is an instinct programmed into people to secure the continuance and security of the species.
sexual love reproduces to stiop us from going extinct
and the other kinds of love makes people friendly and protective ,that builds social structures instead of everybody killing each other .
the wars ,cultural differnces that cuase conflict ,have been invented by the illuminati .so that with the divisions they can rule and make money with the wars
not counting jealous,and angry and mad killings,or self defence,these are natural instincts as well.

Answer 9

because no one should be alone.. you know the feeling you get when you are meeting that special someone, or when they send you a txt message to say good night... when you cant wait to wake up the next morning just to hear their voice... THE BEST FEELINGS YOU WILL EVER FEEL.. thats love man. and everyone should get a chance..thats why people fall in love!

Answer 10

I think it's because our genes have programmed us too. Afterall, EVERYBODY does- sooner or later, and always at least ONCE. It must be a critical element in the process leading up to reproduction- so as to keep the species going. At the very least, it sure makes life alot more interesting...-& bearable.