so here is the story I was engaged to levi he is in Marine bootcamp he has cheated on my 3 times (that I know of) he swears bootcamp has turned him into a new person. I ran into my ex jon a few weeks ago I was feeling very hurt by levi and decided to breaks things off with levi (which I havent done yet), Jon has just left his wife which was a mutual agrement between them they have a 5 month old baby (he did not leave her just because of me) when I dated jon I hurt him very badly I cheated on him but I was also living a bad lifestyle which included many drugs and now him and I have both been sober for 2 years. I know for a fact jon loves me and would never hurt me and I love him with all my heart and I want to be with him and be with him through thick and thin, Levi called me for the first time tonight in two months he cried told me how much he loved and I know what I want and I want jon but I dont want to hurt Levi and its killing me I have been crying for 3 hours, I just need advice
2006-09-13 19:12:16 · 15 answers · asked by katie_grissam16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
OMG...what a mess!!!! Well lets see.. Levi says bootcamp made him a "better" person... Which can be true!! You are proof of that, if you were able to change your old drug lifestyle.. right??? But that doesn't really seem to make a difference since Jon came into the picture!! You should tell Levi that you are very proud of him for changing his life around for the better but that it's a little too late and that your ready to move on... It might sound harsh but it's better to let him go now instead of leading him on and later on causing him more pain!!! As for Jon... It's way toooooo soon for you to even start to think of being with him... Trust me even if you guys once loved each other, people change and you're probably in love with who he was then... He has a family and no matter what he's going to have to be there for them and like I said it's way to soon, it might take him a while to realize that he does want to be with his family... Just be careful and listen to your heart but don't ignore your mind!!! Good Luck!!!
2006-09-13 19:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you don't know what you want ,You all three don't know how to be true to each other you cheated on Jon ,Leiv cheated on you and Jon is cheating on his wife ,and Levi has been out of your life for two months why should you care what happens and if you love Jon so much ,there should not be any feeling in there for Levi .Please make up your own mind and go with who you care the most for .Think which one do I want to be with ?There is your answer.Oh yeah don't make any plans with someone who's just left his wife because they always go back just one more time and you'll still be some where a lone crying and be on "yahoo question" asking where did I go wrong.
2006-09-13 19:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by SkyLyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all life has a way of coming full circle
If you love Jon for the right reasons then I would say get back with him, but if you think you love hime just because you are mad and hurt because Levi cheated on you then that is the wrong reason. Don't get with Jon just because you know he will never hurt you. Get with him because you really love him.
If you don't tell Levi it is still going to hurt because emotionally you are cheating on him if you stay with him and are in love with Jon. Better to end it now then to drag it out and hurt him even more.
By the way the Marines does have a way of changing men. And he probably didn't call for two months because he was in bootcamp not on vacation.
You need to be honest with yourself and both men on what you really want and take into consideration that Jon will have to deal with his wife, because they do have a child together. Are you ready for that step
you need someone to talk to you can always im me
2006-09-13 19:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by crazeebitch2005 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in the Army and I wasn't married at that time and didn't have a girl friend waiting for me when I got home.
In the service, the guys will all go out together and go to a town close by and there is only one thing on there minds and that is sex. Even the married ones cheated on there wife's.
Now that it is a co-ed type of service, anything can happen there.
You are just going to have to wait until he can come home and visit you and just remember, the first thing he will want from you is a little quality time.
That there will tell you that is all he wants you for.
I would stay with Jon.
2006-09-13 19:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by greg76991 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you choose to be with Jon because of Levi, then it's not love. Just go with the one you love the most. If you can't figure it out, then it's better not to choose. Just leave both of them. Start fresh cause you never know, maybe Jon might hook up with his ex-wife again because they have a bond by their baby.
2006-09-13 19:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Cava 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just my opinion but you should not put off your happiness in order not to hurt someone who has already hurt you. Just tell him is over, hope you can still remain friends. tell him is obvious you two were not meant to be together or he would have not gone with other people. From what you wrote sounds to me like you and your ex did not work out only because of the lifestyle. Now that both of you are on the right track, you would have a good relationship. May you be happy in your new relationship.
2006-09-13 19:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by carabela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! All I can tell you is to follow your heart. I know you don't want to hurt Levi but he wasn't exactly thinking about you when he cheated. Life is about getting hurt and learning from your mistakes. Do what feels right to you and know that life goes on, Levi will get over it eventually and if he doesn't...well its no longer your problem.
2006-09-13 19:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK you said you cheated. AND then you say Levi cheated. I suggest you forgive Levi. AND follow your heart. MAKE sure your strong also + on your feet before you jump into marriage, or a relationship. IF you dont you ll be sorry. star
2006-09-13 19:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks but you need to do what is best for you (which will be best for Levi too). Tell Levi that you found someone else and you wish him well.
2006-09-13 19:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by Zero Cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maury Povich?
2006-09-13 19:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by basscatcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋