How can I feel better? My friend didn't invite me to her wedding.?

Question

There was this person. She was like a mentor to me. She advise me most of the time on my problems. I thought she considers me as her friend. But she didn't invite me to her wedding. Looking at the pics and looking how happy she and guests were, I was kinda sad that she didn't invite me to become a part of it. Now for the people whom she invited and she had known for for 5 years, I could understand. I had known her for only 1 year and I'm like nothing compared to them. But there is one person there whom she has also known for one year like me but she invited that person. So how come she didn't invite me at all.

I feel bad. I feel like I have no friends.

I try hard to friends with people and though they're nice to me, I feel they don't enjoy my company and nobody really considers me as their friend, you know the kind of friend whom you will invite to your wedding and whom you will give gifts on special occassions like birthdays. I, like, never received a gift from a friend on my b-day.

Answer 1

It happened to me before. I think she invited almost everyone in the office except me and was even talking to me for hours when she was sending the cards out. I did not take it personally. Later l found out she hated me. I still did not take it against her. She's the bride so she has the right to choose who she wants to invite. It's "her occasion". Though l do not know you,you seem like a nice person and l'm sure other people notice it too. There will be weddings to come and for sure you'll be invited. It doesn't mean that just because we were left out of their weddings, that we are not nice people. Cheer up!

Answer 2

invitations have a limit and a wise planner has to give alot of seat room to the spouses guests too. Sometimes there are more subtle reasons too why a seat is given-like aunt sadie said you have to because. Your friend may have wanted you there instead or she may have had so much going on she plain goofed up. Organizing what you personally have to do when you are one of the upcoming spouses is a pain in the neck I refuse to ever have again. Maybe she just did not want to put you through all that stress. It could ever be she is not that great of a mentor/friend as you thought but whatever it was, life goes on and look at it this way, you are out of alot of stress and hassel and you are not out alot of money. To top it off if you ever plan any kind of big shindig you don't have to invite her! So smile, I think you came out ahead and there will be other weddings! Heck, maybe she will even invite you to her next one! Smile, that's life.

Answer 3

Maybe she wanted to keep it small and only invite very close friends. During the planning of such an event things and yes even people can slip one's mind. Perhaps the other friend for a year invited theirself or asked for an invitation. Who knows. Maybe she was inviting only couples or thought you might not get along well or have a good time. If it really offends you though you should talk to her about it. Don't do anything that would further alienate you as a good friend. Then just "forget to invite her to something.

Answer 4

A wedding is about the two people announcing their union. Be happy for them. Weddings should be celebrated as a great counterpoint in society balanced against the terrible news reported daily. It reminds us that there is love in amongst all that hate.

It is unreasonable to expect that anybody invites you to their wedding. The choice of guests is entirely up to the bride and groom. They may choose to honor people they may not even have contacted for a long time but have strong relationships with, and leave other people in their close social circle out of the wedding.

Rejection is many forms (being rejected for a date, being rejected for a job, being rejected for a wedding invitation list) is often very painful because humans are naturally social. As for yourself, if she was your only friend, then it would be understandable to feel like you have no friends. What you need to get over the pain is not to revisit the source of pain, but to visit your source of joy, by finding more friends. You can still retain her friendship, and be lucky enough to have a mentor in your life. Make more friendships and enjoy the great feeling of having friends, and perhaps you will be lucky enough to find another mentor.

Being left off someone's list of close circle of friendship does not reduce your value in society. Go out there and let other people discover what a great person you are.

Answer 5

It is too late to go to the wedding now. That is in the past. Perhaps the bride was limited in her budget and had to plan her guest list according. Perhaps she wanted a small wedding. Perhaps she only considers your friendship a professional one.
In any case, what is past is past. Don't dwell on it. Give her your congratulations and best wishes. The next time she whips out the pictures you might want to say politely, "It looks like you had a nice wedding. I wish I could have been there." Leave it at that.
Most likely she won't be bringing the photos again. If not, don't bring it up. Move on and realize that while making out invitations she probably didn't have a list of people she was trying to slight by not inviting them.

Answer 6

I just planned my wedding and I can kind of understand a bride's point of view and how difficult it can be to narrow down the the list of who to invite. We just hit under 200 people and the list could have gone on forever if we invited everybody who was important to us. If she had invited somebody she knew in the same type of situation as you, maybe she knew that you could handle not being there more than the other person, perhaps they would feel much more left out and she didn't know you would feel this way. If she is somebody you feel you can talk to about anyting, then talk to her about this, it is all said and done with so no harm can be done in asking her.Don't take too much offense to it, as I learnt in my marriage prep course, a wedding is a day but a marriage is a lifetime, and she obviously takes pride in you being in her life. Hope this helps. =)

Answer 7

Sometimes invites get lost in transit. Give her the benefit of doubt and go meet her with a gift. She'll feel like a worm if she intentionally left you out. On the other hand if she had sent you an invite and it didnt reach you, she will apologize and you can go back to being good friends and not carry this horrible feeling of "being left out" .

Answer 8

I'm really sorry that you feel excluded .. the only thing I can suggest is if you consider her to be a friend, then you should be able to communicate your feelings to her. Talk to her, tell her how you wished you could of attend and see what she has to say. Needless to say, sometimes you have to make a decision on who to invite and cut others you don't because of cost. Sometimes its not the length of the friendship as well..

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 9

To make friends or rather to keep friends is to be a friend to yourself first. Its ok to feel bad. You can talk to her about it and if you feel she doesnt want to be friends with you then move on; dont waste your time around people who dont want you.
it also could be possible that she forgot to invite you or maybe she thought that you were extra special who did not need an invitation, a possibility dont u think?

Answer 10

I agree lots of couple days try to impress the grooms family by giving them a large number of guest or she did what a handful of brides do and someone else was paying so she was /might have only been given a certain number of people to invite.I don't suggest asking because it is very impolite and bad ettiquette .