I'm depressed.........?

Question

In college, not friends, no date, just getting by. what should I do. PS very introverted.

Answer 1

Life is too short to sit around all depressed. Go out make some friends. Good luck!!

Answer 2

In life, not love, no friends because i don't go out to make any, just getting by, getting old too by the way, quite old and used to be introverted...that changed and it does with time. Now I have 2 ex husbands, I am glad they are exs, two struggling adult offspring, 12 grandchildren, 4 cats, my own house and I don't want to be bothered anymore by anyone unless it is short and sweet or an emergency. what i would give for my college days and solitude, and no date and to be young again. Don't waste it feeling sorry. Do a few deep breaths, run in place a little while, grab something simple to chow on and hit the books. The books because college is what you are there for right now actually and the rest of the things because they relieve depression...and don't worry -it will all change for the better and in time you will have chewed off so much better you will wish you were just alone at home with solitude and a cat or dog, a little music, a little tv and you will laugh at your past, probably because you will see it was not at all bad after all it just seemed that way then. It really does get much better. now books and breathe.It doesn't hurt any to look in the mirror everyday and give yourself one positive affirmation ie I am tall and enticing, I am done early with homework-i am responsible and did a good job, I got a b on my paper -i have a burgeoning brain and an expanding future on its way! affirmations are true and they build our self esteem which in turn makes us feel better and become more outgoing, get to work sonny.

Answer 3

I'm in grad school, see the same people every day, no dates, study all the time, also introverted. Just trying to get through it all, too. Don't worry. It'll all pay off when you're out and can get a great job.

Answer 4

Sir Lancelot, loose yourself in study and don't sweat this, it is merely a distraction from the educational process, EVERYBODY who has been to college has experienced it, I did for some time, it will pass soon enough and for goodness sake, just be yourself and your natural personality will attract like-minded individuals you can relate with. Man everyone likes someone who is real and doesn't try to act the part. You could be trying so hard to be liked that people are viewing you as weird or something, they cannot tell, so cool it big man and they will notice you soooon . . . I promise...! It will definately help if you involve yourself in helping someone struggling in studies or just walk up to a would be loner and strike up a conversation...can't hurt, unless of course they are a member of the campus wrecking crew, in that case pass 'em on by and save yer hide.

Answer 5

One of the best things you can do is start doing the things you enjoy in your spare time. It doesn't matter how lame they might seem to someone else, just do them. If you are truly suffering from depression you will have most likely lost interest in a lot of these things. Force yourself to do them, one way or the other. Even solitary things like this will raise your mood and selfconfidence (we tend to be at least failry good at the things we enjoy) and you will notice yourself seeming more atttractive to others fairly quickly. That will fix your date and friends problem, over time. Just don't expect it to get fixed by tomorrow :-)

Answer 6

How long have you felt this way? This is the time of year when many of us get depressed from SADD (Seasonal Affective Disorder Depression). I'm going through it now myself.

While I've tried to manage it on my own in the past through providing myself with more light and lighter/brighter colors; I've now discovered the FDA has officially approved a drug, and I've also included links regarding light therapy.

Hope this helps, and good luck!
Feel free to write to me if you wish.

Answer 7

Sorry you are going through a hard time .. if you are deeply depress go talk to a counselor, as to friends start talking to some @ class - maybe find study groups to engage in and as well really focus on your studies. In time you will make friends.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 8

I was the same way in college, and looking back, I think you just have to make the best of your situation and try to talk to as many people as possible, smile, and act like your interested in what they're saying.

Also, don't be scared to ask girls out, and don't take it personally if they say no, just keep asking other girls, and find activities to do that you're interested in, to meet other people you have things in common with.

Answer 9

You should go make friends and fine yourself a date, it is that easy. I do not believe in depression, I think it is something that people say to get attention. Have you ever noticed that people who get depressed are the ones who want a lot of attention. So give up the act and do something with your life. Do not complain unless you have tried to change your life.

Answer 10

if you are painfully shy, that's not good. wanna make friends go to a bar pick a gruop and buy a few rounds of shots, if liquor can't help, the gym will help you out, or take dancing lessons, volunteer for a little league, anything that will keep your mind running and thinking. it is just a rut, you'll get out of it.