My husband don't allow me to go out with my friends,i really dont understand him,coz there are times that he goes out with our office mates.I dont know know what he's afraid of if i go out sometimes.Honestly speaking,he's the most selfish person i've ever met in my entire life.
2006-09-13 18:43:13 · 19 answers · asked by carmi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not only is he selfish but very controlling. My hubby and I go out with our own friends, though not as often as when we were single.
U need to find out what your husband's issues are. Maybe there's a lack of trust on his part or...if your friends are single, maybe he thinks they will be a bad influence on u.
Whatever the case, it isn't fair for him to do the same things he's not letting u do and I suggest u communicate with him on this and get to the bottom of it.
2006-09-13 18:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not. It is normal to go out for married person, the world does come to an end when persons who are married and end all the friendship which he or she shared. I think you husband is a jerk not to allow you to go out with friend. He is too possessive and selfish as you have mention.
2006-09-13 19:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by Rijied 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, join the club. This is what usually happens when the creature called boyfriend turns into the egoistic thing called hubby. No solutions to this one, though my experience taught me that the more I gave up for him ironically the more he lost respect for me (my perception) so toward the end I was being treated like a doormat and today when I am out of that relationship in hindsight I blame a lot of it on me, myself. Stand up to what you are at least if nothing else you will definitely have your self respect. Take care, take deep breaths and just go by your gut on the wars that you want to fight and the ones that you would like to leave...
2006-09-13 18:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ice mother 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not normal for anyone to control you at all! Everybody needs a little space and time to spend w/ friends once in a while. You need to discuss this w/ your husband and figure out what's goin on in his head. This is a matter of trust and a marriage cannot withstand the test of time without it.
2006-09-13 18:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you're married of in a relationship, I think it's natural to not be hanging out with your friends as much as before. But your mate should not be dictating whether or not you "may" go out or stay home. If he has a problem with you going out too much, he should address that, but preventing you from ever going out with your friends is not something he should be doing. Remember, he will only get away with as much as you allow him to.
2006-09-13 18:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHy did you marry him? His actions show signs of insecurity, namely ha does'nt want you out because you might do something he would do while he's out, namely have an affair. Stand up for what you feel is right. Have a good time and forget about him. If he cant get over it then....
2006-09-13 18:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by papabajo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No.. it is not normal... everyone should have their own good of friends and their own space even though they are married. Why should one control the other from going out with friends. He may not like the place that you and your friends going...IF you really want to go out, tell him where you going and who you are with. make sure that he let you go willingly if not, this issue will be one of your arguement....
2006-09-13 21:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amor. I go out only with my family. My wife and her friends are welcome to go out but she chooses to go out with only me and the kids. The fact is that when I have gone out with the boys temptation shows its ugly head. I can not allow myself to be put in that position. Most times we see women alone together and the boys try pick them up. This is a man issue that will never change. Due to this I wont go out with the boys. They all think they are stallions on heat. My wife also complained about this so from now one if we go out its together as a family or as a couple. We enjoy our friends together and have a good laugh when the single ones are trying to pick up or be picked up. Your husband is mostly worried about the man behavior and not yours. He must trust you but when one sees how men behave then it must be hard for him. He also needs to re-evaluate his behavior and take you into consideration. Good luck my friend.
2006-09-13 18:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by Charles Athole M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a partnership and he has no right to not allow you to go out with your friends.
Tell him you're going out whether he likes it or not and if he doesn't the next time he goes out without you, he can stay out permanently.
2006-09-13 18:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure selfish and irrational. He may become posessive even more. Why did you marry him? A marriage should be equal. The longer you wait the harder he will make it for you to leave.
2006-09-13 19:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋