2006-09-13 18:11:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
While it's normal for a young boy his age to want to see a girl naked, it's not so normal that it's his sister he's wanting to see!! I believe a good talk is in order. Your daughter would probably freak out if she knew he was peeping.
2006-09-13 18:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by sparkie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As your son moves through puberty and matures he is curious about the opposite sex and is simply trying to satisfy his curiosity. It is normal and I would not attach the label peeping tom at this point. He needs to have a father son talk or at least a birds and bees talk. He needs to know that masturbation is okay and normal but that it is sex and should be kept private and personal. He needs to have the opportunity to have any questions answered that he could ask. This is also a good time to talk about how modesty develops and that he should probably want more privacy at this time and that to help him have more privacy you and other members of the family will try not to invade his room while he is nude or dressing and that you will respect his wishes to be left alone when he wants. and that he should be sure to do the same thing and respect other family members privacy. This would be a good time to get him some books on sex and maturation and some pictures of women. Avoid porn and tell him to avoid porn. Porn abuses men and women and does not give a truthful presentation of sexual relationships. Good luck. check out these sites. www.boysunderattack.com and www.coolnurse.com. If you approve direct your son to these for some very good and helpful information. They are honest and straightforward web sites for teens. There are others if you look.
2006-09-14 03:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by Geo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends. A certain amount of curiosity is normal. Sounds like he needs a crash course in the facts of life and also needs to find some hobbies to help him spend his time more productively. It's not abnormal for a boy his age to show interest - I did - but if it keeps up and distracts him from more important things and certainly if he tries to act out that could be a problem.
Can you have dad talk to him about this? Maybe if he knows you know he will be ashamed and stop - or maybe he'll just try and be more discreet. You should tell your daughter to be sure not to give him any opportunities.... if you know what I mean.
2006-09-13 18:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is normal and a phase that he will grow out of.
The best thing might be when you know that he is doing it, to catch him in the act and say "Hey! what are you doing! Leave your sister alone!" this way he has some embarrassment, but doesn't suffer too much because he might think that there is a ray of hope that you don't know what he was reallyup to, this might be just the jolt he needs to stop.
If he continues then you should seek some professional advice to see if there is a way to resolve the problem.
2006-09-13 18:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by cdubsj2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own Q.
"He doesn't know I know." He needs to know. He also needs to know everyone knows. See, right now, he is able to get away with his behaviour because he thinks he has a safe secret.
So, you need to tell your girl, tell your husband, then set up a family meeting to work it all out. There has to be a setting where 'there are no secrets.'
I don't think your son is a pervert. As the other posters have stated, he is getting heavy doses of hormones, he is curious about the opposite sex. The fact that he is 'stealing glances' indicates he is still uncomfortable with his emergin sexuality. So, when you and your family confront him, you have also to be sensitivie to his issues.
He should apologize to his sister; but you and his dad need to get across to him there is nothing shameful about having sexual feelings.
That's just my adivce.
Good luck!
2006-09-14 00:26:21 · answer #5 · answered by inprimeform 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every boy has their own personalit but that doesn't have to do with anything here you see wanting to see a girl naked at his age is quite common wanting to his sister naked is a personal issue I say issue but it's not really an issue more ado something he needs help with try taking him to a pubertal specialized doctor
2016-10-15 18:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by david 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a pretty serious behavior on his part. It could be just curiosity about the female figure. It also could be something more serious. Either way it isn't acceptable or "normal" behavior. As uncomfortable as it's going to be, I would take him to a psychologist to make sure that he doesn't have any issues he needs to work on. This is a possible sign that he's been sexually abused. Either way a professional needs to get to the bottom of this right now. Please take care of it immediately. Good luck!
2006-09-13 18:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hormones are kicking in. He is just curious. Dont be suprised he will begin to watch porn and masturbate. This is quite normal. Keep an eye on him tho in case he gets out of hand. Warn him one time about sexually transmitted diseases and d value of virginity and also women are not sex objects. Give him d sex talk cause if u dont, he may get info elsewhere where he is prone to get d wrong info. go here and check up on how to talk to yur child on masturbation: www.jackinworld.com
Laterz.
2006-09-13 18:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by The Honourable 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should probably talk to him and let him know it's okay to be curious, but lurking about isn't appropriate behavior. It may lead to something more serious down the road. A strong male figure may be a key right now.
2006-09-13 18:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by kicker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal.He is 14teen and still growing he is probably Wonder's what girl's are like.Have him talk to his dad or a good friend.It might help him to stop.He is at that age were he likes to play sport's all the time.If you know what I mean.
2006-09-13 18:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋