there is a man i know who is decent and business minded in a way.....but whenever we are alone talking he keeps on saying that he has prob with wife, that he is not satisfied in bed for wife is physically sick.... and he even ask me if i know someone who will be willing for clean play or a fling, asking for referral. what really does he want to tell me...is he inviting me to take the risk.?
2006-09-13 17:59:48 · 20 answers · asked by alluring 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Basically he's hinting that he wants to fool around on his wife. Stay as far away from him as u can and let him deal with his own issues.
2006-09-13 18:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, by most ethical systems I know, it wouldn't be right or appropriate to continue to have any sort of relationship, friendly or otherwise, with the person you described.
Let's forget the issue of how it might be hurting someone you don't know (his wife). Think of yourself. While it's understandable that it's nice to receive flattery and be hit on by someone else, don't you ultimately deserve and want to receive that attention from someone who can actually be available to you in a more meaningful way?
Do everyone involved a favor... leave him alone, let him work out his marriage problems on their own terms, and go find the attention you deserve.
2006-09-13 18:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by profJohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that you Sally? Just kidding. The woman I am woirking on right now is not named Sally.
Anyway, I think you people make a lot of assumptions. Maybe the man is telling the truth? Maybe he is hurting because he loves his wife so much and wants to be with her sexually, but she is sick and has become unattractive and he can't stand the thought of her naked? Give him a break. Its not like he's flying airplanes into the twin towers. I mean really, he's just trying to get some strange. Give the man a break.
2006-09-13 18:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by InternetPosterChild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason he feels that he can confide in you, and almost certainly he is feeling you out to see if you will take the risk. This is darn close to sexual harrassment. I suggest you tell him you wish to stay focused on business matters with him. If he continues, you might also let him know that you are also quite willing to take the matter to your manager and human resources people if the sexual talk occurs again.
2006-09-13 18:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by energist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is he inviting you to take the risk, he wants you to take the risk. Fast,quick, and in a hurry! I'm sure you're well aware of what's on his mind, and you should be aware that you're teasing him and leading him on by communicating with him in this manner. The game that's being played by the two of you is very dangerous, and it can lead to a very dangerous arena. Either you're going to have to jump out,or let him jump in, it's up to you. Just remember that what you do to others,shall be done to you. That's one of Life's UncompromisingLaws!
2006-09-13 18:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by tyrone n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH if I had a quarter for every time iv heard that one. Cheating husband use that all to often, their favorite is "my wife is sick with ___ and cant have sex, I love her but need the physical contact"
Dont listen to him, hes a cheating husband, and you dont need the drama involved with that.
i have worked with several men who have said that to me, knowing full well that i'm married my self. Other times iv heard that from before I was amrried to. This is a commom excuse, unfortuntly.
2006-09-13 20:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by chicata25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he is now days men will try and do any thing to bed women then he has all the fun he wants with you and at the he gos back with his wife and your left alone and he has a wife stay away she may pull you in court or hurt you the smart thing for you to do is to cut it short when i talks like that just get away before you get in to that trap i know am a man to but single and don't try to trick woman in to bed never will if it happens it happens watch your step please good luck to you
2006-09-13 18:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The topics of conversation he chooses with you are, IMO, highly inappropriate. I would lose all respect for a man who would come to me talking c*rap about his sick wife.
2006-09-13 19:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he is and he's using the same tired lies that married men have been using to get with other women since marriage began to do it. Tell him that if he isn't happy he needs to quit playing games and get divorced. He'll quit whining to you then.
2006-09-13 18:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is someone else's husband and I'm betting his "problem" with his wife is news to her.
This is not someone you want to associate with, he's only thinking with his dick and you must be an easy mark.
Run, run like your hair is on fire.
2006-09-13 18:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋