I have noticed that a lot of people are moving closer to familys. Though a lot of familys are so dramatic and cause trouble amongst each other.. is it best to just keep to yourselves like your husband and wife?
2006-09-13 17:55:57 · 21 answers · asked by KayAlley 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
My husband and I relocated about 3 hours away from our families less than a year after we were married. I love both of our families dearly but I believe that being away from them enabled our bond to grow stronger. We had eachother to depend on and if something went wrong we could work it out rather than running to our families. They are close enough for us to visit when we want, and yet far enough for us to do our own family thing. I LOVE IT!!
2006-09-13 17:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the family. For some it is much easier to live where they are not always calling on you and expecting you to never have your own life and for some it's easier to stay close by and be a part of the extended family. My husband and I live away from his family and in the same town with mine. We would probably be happier if we were not where we had family. It's troublesome enough that his family thinks we should drop everything at the drop of hat and travel 8 hours to be at their whim and my family is right here and we never know a thing that's going on. So, we would prefer to live about 1/2 way between the two, but that is not where God has put us for now, so we make the best of it - and we keep our lives as private as we can.
2006-09-14 01:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by dph_40 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very important to live within a day of driving or boat not plane.The very foundation that keeps this world together is family.I believe very very strongly in family.The Philippines is one country that knows want I am saying.Many that leave that country it is for money or because something with a family member went wrong and were never forgiven,The ones that leave have not really thought out what they have done why didn't they marry an american that is retired living in Philippines or start a business .There heart may be in the right place but they will be setting themselves up for sexual abuse and just have there backs against the wall from sending money home,
2006-09-14 01:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the family. When I was younger, it was best for me to stay away from my family. They were a huge source of stress. Then I got married and had a baby, and they all chilled out because they saw how well I was doing in life, and stopped bugging me so much. It was really so bad that I would cry every day, and that is not a typical thing for me. Now, I live only a few blocks from my parents and grandparents, and I'm really happy about that. We have grown really close, they are great with our daughter, and we do lots of stuff together. Plus, at my grandparents age, I want to be close to them so I can be there for them, and also so they can enjoy their great-granddaughter. You have to do what is right for your family. If your family brings you down and holds you back, some distance wouldnt hurt. But also realize that your family can be a wonderful thing, so dont distance yourself from them unless its necessary
2006-09-14 01:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you get alone good together, I live close to mine, and would not have it any other way. We have a sister that lives 2 hours away, and we miss her so bad,, but we talk 3 or 4 times a day, if one of the kids does something, we call no matter if it's a big thing or small. We are a close family, always have been, would not want to change any of it.
2006-09-14 01:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by avery 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If you are a group of siblings caring for an elderly parent, it might be better to live near each other. If you don't get along with your family or you have school/work opportunities elsewhere, move. You might even simply prefer a different part of the country. All depends on your situation.
2006-09-14 00:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Honest answer is
Do Not Live Close to Family
Cause Most of The Time
Family Cause A lot Of Drama
Please do not leave close to Family
i m living close to My Mother in-law lol
just being here that stressed me out and i know everyone else does
peace
2006-09-14 01:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by Momomada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moved away from family when we first married, had two kids with no family help at all, and have never regretted it.
Though sometimes lonely, we made new family with our friends, who are more supportive and less judgemental than family.
When you do visit family, nothing has ever changed, there is heaps of problems/dramas and only takes about 1 day back home to realise I am missing nothing.
2006-09-14 00:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Traveler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my experience i think that it is best to live near your family but not too near, me and me wife move twice a year because of my work so were always living in new places. and sometimes we live across the us and other times we live within an hour of family. And i think that a buffer zone is very important, i could not live next door to my family or especially her family, but living a couple of hours away is just about right.
2006-09-14 00:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by twinspick22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like to ahve my family close to me. no matter how dysfunctional my family is and how sometimes very embarassing things happen on family reunions and that everyone is alWAYS their eVery year for specail as well as not so specail ocassions. the most important part is they r always thier when u really need them. and if they r close by its easy to and quick to reach them and most of the time when they r close by u dont have to wiat to ask for help they r just thier...and thats the best part abt familes living close by...u can break kindda realtion but of that of a brother and a sister and a mother and a father and a son and a daughter
2006-09-14 01:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by o.O_PsYcHo'S dReAmInG pLaCe_ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋