i have a knife right beside me and i am so tempted to slit myself through... i just cant get over me and my beatfriend fighting... we have been bff's scince birth anow she gets mad at me because she sais that all my time is given to my husband even if it wasnt.. i dont know what to do... she refuses to talk to me and calls me a *****... plzz help
2006-09-13 17:51:23 · 29 answers · asked by Kim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
knock off these stupid NON QUESTIONS. You know there are real people out there with real problems that need real help. And you are on here making a mockery out of there real pain.
UUUUUGH!!!
2006-09-13 17:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's part of adult life to have an occasional fight with a cherished person, feel really bad about it, and move toward a resolution. Thinking about hurting yourself will not help you move toward a resolution, it will get you more upset and interfere with your ability to get through this crisis.
Your friend may be jealous of your husband, and she will have to work that out for herself. A spouse has a higher claim than a friend, even a lifelong one. That's part of the marriage promise. When your friend has calmed down enough to hear you, perhaps you need to tell her that a married woman puts her spouse first, but that doesn't mean friends become unimportant. It just means that the situation and its dynamics have changed. To keep the friendship, she will have to respect that fact and act accordingly.
2006-09-14 00:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is either jealous of you, or she has some other problem and is taking it out on you as you are the easy target.
You have two options:
a: try to talk to your friend and find out why is angry with you, make time to see her - pick one day a week where you meet up and just catch up. your husband will understand and it will give him time to see his friends too.
b: if it can't be patched up, then get rid of her as a friend. Life it too short to hang around with people that bring you down because they can't deal with their own problems and have to take it out on you. You can make new friends who will respect you and like you for what you are.
And think about it. Is it worth killing yourself over something this stupid? What about your husband and family? Go do something that makes you happy - shopping, ice cream, watch a movie, whatever. And get yourself into a positive frame of mind, and then think about how to solve the problem.
2006-09-14 01:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Detroit +10
2006-09-14 00:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by nflhandicapper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get something dull like a finger nail file or tweezers. Run that sucker up and down your wrist. It will hurt and make you feel better. Put the damn knife away, wear a long sleeve shirt for a while so no one can see the marks, or just tell them you were gardening and were scratched by a rose bush or something. Then seek mental help for BPD. Trust me on this one.
2006-09-14 00:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends like that you dont need, why make yourself look like a coward? My best friend watched me abandon all my friends and family for a man that beat me, she never judged me she offered a helping hand and let me know she was always there for me. When I finally left him she was the first to help me get back on my feet even though I alientated her for almost 3 years real best friends dont make you want to kill yourself she isnt a real friend think about your husband - she just might be jealous that you've found happiness
2006-09-14 00:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by cvegas229 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nobody worth killing your self over.. I kinda had a situation like ur's I had been best friend's with my friend for yr's and I got engaged and moved away well they tried to say a bunch of thing's like he run my life and it wasn't true..the only thing was she was jealous that I was happy and she wasn't so she wanted to try and make my life a living hell but it didn't work.. we are still no longer friend's but that's fine with me..u find out who ur real friend are sooner or later..even if you think they are ur best friend's..they may turn out not to be..i hope this help's..here is my yahoo id if ya wanan talk big10pointers_baby_girl..
2006-09-14 00:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by big10pointers_baby_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. you need to go back to school and learn how to write proper English.
2. put the knife away and stop this silly power jealous thing ur best friend is stirring up. keep ur distance a lil. husbands hv presidence over long time friends.
3. good night
2006-09-14 00:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Necat T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no reason for you to have such thoughts! Doesnt sound like much of a best friend. You are right in putting your husband before your best friend. She's the one who has a problem. NOT YOU! If such harmful thoughts persist, seek help from a professional.
2006-09-14 00:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not worth slitting yourself over just give her sometime and she will come around sometimes it is hard for people to adjust to there friend having another relationship. If you have been friends for this long she just needs some time.
2006-09-14 00:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who say they want to kill themselves don't want to do it, they do it for attention. I've known people who have killed themselves and they have never given any indication that they are going to do it.
So your fighting with your best friend. Big woop. There are a lot more serious matters going on in the world. You'll get a new friend but not a new life.
2006-09-14 00:54:14 · answer #11 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋