My Ex husband will not leave me alone I have been in a relationship and had a kid since the divorce. And now married but my Ex always tries to be around me and we are talking every single day.I have told him to stay away and he uses the reason he came by ro see the older 2 kids that we had together.We have a court order that he will have them on weekends but he still here everyday. Help he is driving me.
2006-09-13 17:35:56 · 19 answers · asked by starlight203_2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess no one else read that your now married, or did I read that wrong? Anyways, you need to talk to him in a mature but stern vioce. Tell him that you and him got divorced for a reason, and that it was for a good reason. Explain to him that all though you will always love him, you now are married, and love the man you married, and that your happy. Ask him if he wants you to be happy, and then tell him gently that all though there will always be a place in yuor heart for him, you have moved and, and you suggest he do the same.
If he doesnt take this seriously you need to go back to court and explain to the judge hes interfearing with your new marriage.
I hope this helps. I had a ex before i got married do this, and we had no kids togeather:(. I know it can be frustrating, and in your case its probly worse.
2006-09-13 20:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by chicata25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get a restraining order from the court. Another thing you can do is avoid him, don't take his phone calls, don't answer the door when he comes, slam the door in his face, if you open the door and find him there. You have to be firm, Obviously, your talking to him gives him the green signal, so be rude and firm in your denial of seeing him any other day but the weekdays, and even then don't talk any personal things with him just tell him what time he should bring the children back.
2006-09-13 17:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him have what he wants. he has perfect reason to come see you by seeing the kids. you do not want to stop him then he could blame you on the kids. so let him hang around. talk to him but do not let him talk for more than few sentences.. also the next time he sees the kids, ask him to call first cos' you have things to do...things get worst, like he calls you still everyday, se the kids everyday, threaten you or shout at you when you disagree. Prepare the phone bill list, records phone conversation. then let the jude decides if he's bothering you enough to have a court restrain order.
2006-09-13 17:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by hoang anh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just bragging a bit? You like the attention? You are trying to make your current husband with the roving eye a little jealous? Why don't you ask your counselor that you have been seeing for the past two year. On second thought maybe you should get a new counselor, since you life is still a mess.
2006-09-13 17:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well is he of whacked- or a control freak- you can talk to an attorney- or judge and get a restraining order if you are concerned about your safety- make him stick with the visitations- that is part of divorce- does he hang out at your house and visit?? is your souse there when he does?? A restraining order or intervention may be necessary- take care- D
2006-09-13 17:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a way you can get a restraining order agaist him? I don't know if it's possible giving the situation with your kids. Call the police and see if there's anything you can do to prevent him from harrassing you.
2006-09-13 19:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say you don't know what you have till it's gone this is his problem... Ask him for more space like he can visit the kids but he needs to take them to a park or something not in your house you r busy....Start a hobby and ask him to leave as you have to go to it or invite single gals over and fix him up.
2006-09-13 17:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PUT A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST HIM, YOU CAN WARN HIM ABOUT IT FIRST BY TELLING HIM THAT YOU'VE ALREADY ASKED HIM TO STOP COMING AROUND BUT THAT HE LEAVES YOU NO CHOICE BECAUSE IT'S CAUSING YOU PROBLEMS WITH YOUR HUSBAND. TELL HIM HE CAN GO PICK UP THE CHILDREN AT A FAMILY MEMBERS HOUSE SINCE YOU WILL HAVE THE RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST HIM, BUT AT LEAST THAT WILL KEEP HIM AWAY FROM YOUR HOME. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-13 17:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by hilda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk wid him clear stuff with him...diuscuss ur feelings towards what u feel when he is around.....make me understand things and then if he still is around get another courst order of boundary distance as to where and when only he can see ur kids and not the mother of his kids...
2006-09-13 17:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by Vinny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you have moved on with your life and he should to. That it is great that he comes to see the kids, but to please do it on visiting days. If that doesn't work then you may have to get ugly.
2006-09-13 17:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by Just_Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋