my husband loves me but i don't feel the same way about him anymore what can i do to get that love back
2006-09-13 17:32:28 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you know how to pray ask God to help you see him the same way u did when you fell in love and try to remember all the good things you love about him and rememberr he loves you and know that what God has jointogeather let no man bring it under you know what i mean if God put u toegether then he will help yuou find that firey love again
2006-09-13 17:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I understand how you feel! I am too fell out of the love with my husband because of all the bad things he has done to me. I tried so hard to love him again since he still loves me (that's what he said) and thought I will give him a chance, but I really couldn't. I do care about him tho... because we have a child together and all the memories (good ones) we shared. But once I fell out the love with him, I really feel there are no way to fall back in love again. The feelings you have towards him is just not a same any more... Many people advised me to go counseling but it didn't really work for me.... But it might work for you! So you should try to go once! Good luck!
2006-09-13 17:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by sunflower222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only so much a person can do. You seem to just wanna let go b/c first of all u don't trust him b/c of the past and obviously being abusive is not good for u r kids to see. I would say get out why u can. It will be hard. I am going through the same thing it seems like with out the abusive part though. It is really hard b/c i have 2 kids also and it's so freakin hard. My boyfriend likes to buy vidioe games for ps2 so u tell me. Well it will be really hard but do what is best for u and ur 2 kids. Well hope things go well for u. Just send me an email if u would like to talk more bout it. Good luck girl
2016-03-17 21:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason for you feel necessarily fall back in love with your husband. If the reason is merely that you are already husband and wife, do you believe it is necessary? If the reason is love, you should try to do whatever you can for love. To serve your family, more body touches with your husband, more such romance activities as movies, theatres whatever both of you like to do. Love hides in every tiny details of life of your husband and you. You don't have to try to feel love, you serve your husband with love, you will be responded with love. you will fall back in love.
2006-09-13 17:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Billy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. It sounds simple, but little acts of service are a HUGE help for falling back in love. Try to do little things that will make him happy. Fix a special meal, find a special gift. Work hard to find small things that will really make him happy.
2. Consider dating like you did before you were married. Many experts believe that regular/weekly dating is an essential part of a healthy marriage.
2006-09-13 17:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by karkov48 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can force you to fall in love and you can't force yourself. there is such a thing as divorce if you really feel nessicary. But i think maybe if he bought you flowers or a gift or a romantic night, something sweet then maybe you would feel some emotion towards him. Don't think about not loving him to much because there might still be that little bit there and if you think about it much then you will convince the rest of yourself you don't love him. Good luck. God bless you!
2006-09-13 17:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might try recreating a bit of the past.
Even just sitting and looking through old photo albums causes a feeling of nostalgia in us and makes us long for the way things were then. You could recreate some of your early dates. Even just dating at all could help. Many people don't do this often enough after marriage. You don't say if he is aware of the problem. If he is, you may want to try marriage counseling.
2006-09-13 17:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by Rvn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You forgot what he means to you, and he does not remind you of that either. It's a two part process to rebuilding that love.
I find the more I talk about my husband to other people in positive ways, it reminds of those great qualities that make him wonderful to me. He can help by romancing you in new ways, not the dinner and a movie way.
It's like dating each other all over again.
2006-09-13 17:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how long have you too been married? Marriage takes different beginnings, so you have to search each time for each other.(I myself am married to a man that is 15 years older than I) Both of us, has experienced this situation, so just think back to what made you fall in love with each other, it will come back to both of you.Unless, you both think of someone else?
2006-09-13 17:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by Marna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of things you can try ... wipe the slate clean, don't hold grudges or the past. Seek counseling as a couple. Take time to spend together, go on a a date, get away.. but most importantly just be together. Find ways to reconnect emotionally and verbally - communication is huge. You both need to be able to talk to one another.. Re-establish that old friendship you both used to share.
~Mel
2006-09-13 17:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to concentrate on the things that you used to love about him. Look at old pictures of him and see if that helps. Or, do some of the things you used to do when you first got together. Usually love changes because something has changed. Try to make that thing that changed come back into your relationship.
2006-09-13 17:39:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋