the major problem for me is being thirteen. ever since i turned thirteen by life has totally changed. i starting smoking, i wanna get my tongue peirced, i THINK im a cutter (cuz i cut myself a couple of times). and another problem is my parents. my parents are soo much pressure! they want me to loose weight and it just bugs the hell outta me!! they treat me like im 6 or something! i hate this generation.
2006-09-13 17:28:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
yea and if you think that i "copied" exactly what those girls did in the movie thirteen, answer another question cuz i dont wanna see w.e you have to say.
please i need help, not you to make up stuff and call me a "loser" or a "fake." get a life. thats NOT cool...
2006-09-14 12:02:27 · update #1
whew! girl... take a breath
Let me first talk about the weight issue. Be honest, are you overweight to the point where it is a health concern?
If you are not, then you need to realize that you are in a transitional period in your life. Your body is getting ready to change from that of a child to that of a young woman. A lot of girls have baby fat at your age and eventually they thin out on their own as their bodies adapt.
Look in the mirror and assess yourself. DO NOT let the voices of your parents or of the media get into your head. Look at yourself and ask yourself if you like the way you look and feel good about yourself. If you do, then you don't have to feel the pressure and you can tell your parents to kindly butt out.
What they are doing to you, even if their intentions are good, is scarring your self esteem. The pressure they put on you now is going to effect you for the rest of your life.
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and if you are happy with who you are then that is good enough because you're the only person you have to impress.
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Getting your tongue pierced... well, if you're responsible enough to take care of it and keep it clean, I don't see what the big deal is.
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Smoking - I smoked for 10 years. It made my heart rate and my blood pressure go way up. I ended up eating more because all I had to do was have a ciggy to lose that full feeling. I stunk all the time and the worst thing was that I couldnt breathe. I love singing and I couldnt even get through a song without having a coughing attack.
Quitting was the best thing I ever did.
Do it now before you ruin your lungs. There's nothing cool about smoking. It really is a rather disgusting habit. And I was a smoker so I'm not just preaching to preach. I've been there. It's gross. Stop now.
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If you think you are a cutter, u are probably cutting to distract yourself from some sort of emotional pain that is being inflicted on you. When do you cut? Is it when your parents are pressuring you about your weight? Or is there something else that's making you feel anxious. Whatever it is, you should get it out in the open ASAP because cutting is a dangerous and unhealthy way of coping with things. When you figure it out sit your parents down and tell them "Look mom, dad, I respect you, but _____ is really hurting me and I need you to stop."
Hopefully that will open the door to a discussion and they will allow you to express yourself without treating you like a 6 year old. If that doesnt work though, I would see someone about it. Maybe a guidance counselor or someone that can offer you some help.
Good luck :)
2006-09-14 04:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think that it's the age lol...it's just you. You should get some help or talk to someone about it at least. Parents can be a major pressure/pain/problem but it' no reason to cut yourself for..it's not the answer and it won't make things better. Try talking to them. Tell them that as much as you know that they are your parents and want what's best for you, you NEED to live your life. If you like the way you are, they should accept it and not push you to lose weight. Tell them that you need to start making your own decisions right now for you to be able to learn from your mistakes. That is only human;) Besides they should know that they won't be there for ever...so the sooner they let go the better.
You take care aight? and stop cutting yourself, pain or death is not the answer..but communication is.
2006-09-13 20:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by 4eva-pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I understand that you want to be independent. My daughter just turned 14. Why do you want to cut yourself? Getting your tongue pierced hurts, and you are under age. Stop smoking. I smoke and I wish every day I never started. Why do you want to do that to your body. As for your weight, just eat healthy and be active. Your parents just want what is best for you, and they don't "get it", but I think you should go talk to your school counselor about these things. Especially the "cutting'. Take care...
2006-09-13 17:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by tinytinker79 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Smoking is nasty!
Cutting is bad and probably painful!
Just because you are 13 doesn't mean you have to do that stuff. I am 13 and I don't. Change your ways and your parents will let up on you. They only want you to lose weight because they care. Don't let that bother you unless you are extremely overweight.
I hope I helped some!!!
2006-09-14 10:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by lemons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up. your parents are treating you like you are 6 b/c youre
acting like you are 6. ive smoked since i was 14 and if i could
change that I would. getting your tounge pierced not only looks
stupid at 13, its illeagle unless your parents co-sign to that and judging by the fact that your mad at them, id assume that they are smart and won't let you. good. youre too friggen young
worry about school for a change and doing well in your classes.
as for the "cutting" thing. seriously, grow up. if getting your tounge
peirced and smoking are your biggest concerns, then you have
no reason to be cutting your self. really. stop looking for attnetion.
2006-09-14 09:16:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sound EXACTLY like the movie Thirteen..which makes me not believe anything you just said..the only part that is different is the weight part and I think you may have just thrown that it to make it not so obvious. No body just flipps out and goes crazy as soon as they turn 13.
2006-09-14 09:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by babiigurl_iz_a_shorty_904 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your parents they just want to get you through this period. They love you and want the best for you. You are at an awkward age not a child not an adult. You think you are smarter than your parents but you're not. Be good to yourself don't hurt your body. The more you rebel the harder it is on everybody.
2006-09-13 21:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by blank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awe sounds like you need someone to talk to. Im always here(well not ALWAYS, but usually)... Im 14 and have some of the same things going on... but I think I can help you cope... just send me a message...
2006-09-13 17:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all go thru that at 13....if the weight dosent bother you then dont worry about it...if it really is bothering you then just walk about an hour everyday....the pounds will come off...why are you smoking? tongue piercing....thats your call...or parents lol
2006-09-13 17:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by mercedesofladies34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu are right that it has changed, but life is what you want it to be
2006-09-13 17:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋