There's this girl on myspace who wanted me to add her as a friend a while ago. She's a lesbian, I am too. Anyway, she posted a bullentin about how gays will never be able to get get married since Clinton signed the Defense of Marriage in 96, making it federal law. Anyway another friend of mine asked me to repost a bullentin if I believed in gay rights. I reposted it. The girl in question then messsage me asking what rights I'm talking about because gays will never be able to marry. I told her she was being negative and that a lot of gays like to stay positive and fight for it and we will be able to marry one day. This girl then gets really mad at me, deletes me as a friend, calls me an ignorant *** and says gay people like me who fight for our rights are asking the government for hand outs, and hurting gays more than helping them. I told her that asking the gov't for a handout would be welfare, but marriage is a right. I then cursed her out and told her I'm glad she deleted me.
2006-09-13 17:27:28 · 16 answers · asked by indrep33 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't understand how a person who's gay could think that fighting for gay rights is wrong. But I told her that she was entitled to her own opinion. She still got mad and called me names which I never did to her to begin with.
2006-09-13 17:35:54 · update #1
You are so right. People talk a lot of trash over the internet, but if they were face to face it would probably not be that way.
2006-09-13 17:37:44 · update #2
You right and people are entitled to their opinions she seems to take her opinions as the correct answer, and when you who she thought was a friend posted a bulletin against hers she obviously over reacted. Some people have tried to fight for gay rights and then get so beaten down over time their opinion begins to change and because of what they went through they are very protective of their new opinions. Other people are just to weird to figure out. One day i will marry. Go Gay rights!!
2006-09-13 18:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction is this person is either not really gay but a poser, or perhaps she is brainwashed by the reactionary knee jerk Christian right fundamentalists and also believes she is going to hell..
Of course she could just be a wacko, no matter what the reality is.. you are far better off without her as a friend. In fact there have been gay marriages in this country, although they keep changing the rules.. and law.. yes even federal ones can be changed.
Those who do not fight for civil rights of any segment of the community to which they belong make a grave error. Asking for equal rights such as gay marriage is not asking for any handout.. it is asking for equal treatment under the law. I am sorry you stooped to her level and cursed her out, but it is understandable.. why did you think you might be wrong????
I have been fighting and lobbying for gay rights and women's rights for.. over 30 years now.. and I have seen some positive changes.. and some negative ones as well. I do not think that I have damaged either women or gays or their causes by my efforts.
During that time I also did some work for the African American movement and the farm workers even though I do not belong to either group.. it is called participation. (and I don't think I in any way harmed their causes either.) If you do not participate you have no room to complain about the way things are.
2006-09-14 02:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Silvatungfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is no. Of course you weren't wrong, but to allow something like this to effect you enough to post a question about it here... I think you need to take a deep breath, and realize that she's just some ignorant chick on-line. Don't fret, she's out of your life. Be glad that she's the one that deleted you, and not the other way around, it makes her the bad guy. It's never wrong to stand up for what you believe in. I don't know what her problem is, some people just like to focus on the negative.
2006-09-14 00:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I already knew that enough of our community is severey apathetic, but what really concerns me is that you are that upset over this myspace thing. (Honestly, i can not even call it an incident) What you need to realize more, is that this is the 'net we are talking about here, not real life. If someone acted like that in real life, chances are, they are going to get thrown out of wherever they are. When you think about it, the 'net is the best mask ever devised. It allows us to assume any persona we wish and act out without the fear of repeisal. How do you even know this wasn't someone trying to bait you into a fight?
Maybe I am just old and cynical, but I have to say, I DO stand up for equal rights for the LGBT Community. Even if I fell it doesn't count, I vote. That is what should be important, not myspace snobs.
2006-09-14 00:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by mresl2005 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't wrong. It's great you stand up for what you say and believe. I don't understand if any gay people be that negative..wonder if she really is gay? Well, you never know. Anyway she's out of your friend list and no talk with her anymore. It's online, there are many kinds of people.
2006-09-14 01:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by JYIR28371 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were not wrong at all. She's the one being immature for picking a fight with you for posting a friggen bulletin. She sounds like the type that looks for a fight.
Which reminds me that I need to check my myspace. I was having a fight with this girl who won't listen to me about Clinton's signing in 96... I wanna see if she apologized.... ;)
2006-09-14 00:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No your were not wrong she should of just understood that you have different opions and accepted that. That is what true friends do. so to me she does not sound like a good friend any way. She may come back around but do not worry about it too much. you did not do anything wrong.
2006-09-14 00:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
just be glad she deleted you and moved on. Different people have different opinions, but that doesn't mean she should have stopped being your friend. Just ignore her stupidity and move on.
2006-09-14 11:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a "myspace friend" like that, you wouldn't need any enemies! Just be glad that you don't have to talk to her any more!
2006-09-14 00:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Easter Bunny 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are never wrong for standing up for what you believe. People who don't believe the same as you just want you to shut up. (Besides, I totally agree with you!)
2006-09-14 00:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋