You have been married for 11 years, your spouse cheated with 3 different people. But deep inside there is still love.. is it worth saving?
2006-09-13 17:25:23 · 45 answers · asked by anidaelf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There may be love but there's no trust and a relationship can't survive without trust.
2006-09-13 18:19:25 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There would probably still be love if she did it right in front of you and laughed. (at least a little anyway) You can't stop your heart from loving someone but you can put an end to a cheating spouse. If you can't trust her then you have no relationship anyway. Is your marriage really worthless enough to be cheated on with three men? That is what you should ask yourself. You have to make the decision as to wether you are going to leave or not, Just search your heart and it will give you the answer. Good luck and God Bless
2006-09-13 17:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by Just_Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you're having a rocky marriage and your wife is
cheating on you by having sex with 3 different guys on 3 occasions.
It's a sad scenario especially when you're married for 11 years.
If you have young kids, don't do anything drastic, like divorce.
It's very traumatic on the children.
Talk to her firmly in her face that you knew about her sex with
other people and that you don't like it or approve of it. Knock
some senses into her about the shameful acts she had done
and the love and care for the children.
I hope maybe she'll understand and repent.
And if you still love her, I suppose, give her another last chance.
The saying goes " to err is human, but to forgive is divine".
2006-09-13 17:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by steplow33 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure there is still love, but it is just a grain that's been imbedded in years of lies and deceit. You may both want to save that little grain, but it's not worth it. If she had cheated once, then I would say, "stay with it!" but no. She's done it too many times, and you can't remedy that sort of situation. Go find yourself a nice girl who won't cheat on you.
2006-09-13 17:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Samwise Potter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is 3x that you know of, probably been more.
Have you ever heard the old saying " Once a cheat always a cheat" ? Well, it is very true.
Do you think you will ever be able to trust her again? If your answer is no than you need to end the marriage NOW!!!! Once you loose trust it is gone forever and will never come back.
2006-09-13 17:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by jaden2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me to be a merriage on convenience on her part, aswell the man in question not saying it's you may not be giving her what she desires sexually or emotionally. I would find out why she does these things, then I would Watch the Movie American Beauty then I would make a decision on weither I would end an eleven year merriage or try to Mend it (Merriage councilling). Personally If I was married to a women that I deply Loved and she cheated on me I would Devorce her and just live with the pain, then erase the pain by finding a more lovlyer sexyer and truthful women to marry, one who actaully does love me with all of her heart and wouldn't dream to cheat on me with another man or women. I hope this helped.
2006-09-13 17:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by Armanisilk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, better to move on and start a new life. You can find a better woman that will respect you more than your present wife. Hopefully anybody that has a wife/husband who cheated can learn from their mistakes.
Even if you are in love with her the nagging thought of her cheating will always be on your mind and you could never trust her again.
2006-09-13 17:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by leyte6519 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep inside the shell of a cheater, there's still love? Cheaters never stop and you need to just get out now before you invest any more years with a cheater. Once is all it would take for me to be gone.
2006-09-13 17:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would want to know why she cheated. Is there something specific she is unhappy about? Consider counseling, either together or separately.
If you can't decide what to do, just let it ride for a while. See how you feel. It might be hard for you to leave right now if you still love her. It might become clearer to you in the future what you need to do.
Good luck
2006-09-13 17:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! I'ved been there. Been with my husband for almost 12 years together, married for about 7 years and he was unfaithful like i think from the time of being together till now i think he was unfaithful about 4x. i took him back but once he f***ed up, look were separated and Im filing the divorce. Love is blind but hey don't torture yourself he had enough with her bulls**t. Good Luck on what you gonna do.
2006-09-13 17:43:10 · answer #10 · answered by Hawaiianlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her. You will never be able to trust her again fully. with out trust you dont have a stable marrage. My very soon to be ex cheated on me and I now have 2 more court dates and I will be rid of her. If I can do it so can you. oh and take the car with you when you leave. who ever has possetion of the vehical at the time keeps it till the devorce is final.
2006-09-13 18:26:55 · answer #11 · answered by eric W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋