my bf - got dream about his old gf - he cries - when he see anyone resembling her - he just goes and talks to her - and he narrates me all this - i feel that he does not love me??????
2006-09-13 17:17:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It needn't necessarily mean that. He could talk about her just because he likes some quality of hers which is lacking in yours.
Try to find that out and satisfy him.
Then i see no reason why he'll be talking about his ex gf.
2006-09-13 17:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like youre BF is very focused on his old GF still. He won't be able to have a relationship with you unless that dies down. Even if it does, he will still be confused for a while, a few months to a couple years depending on how long the old relationship lasted. Dating other guys would be a good thing.
2006-09-13 17:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by energist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, the guy sounds just like me about 7 years ago. My Ex-left me an ever loving wreck. I would give it about a 90% or better that he is still in love with her. You could be the perfect girl, and the boy wouldn't even know. I guess it all comes down to how long were they together, how long have they been broken up, and how long you've been together. In addition to those numbers, you have to evaluate your relationship. I guess my concern would be figuring out how he feels. Not to mention, love is a very serious word, and perhaps, neither one of you is in love yet.
I wish you all the best, and him to for that matter.
2006-09-13 17:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by B. T. Gutowski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much do you care about him?
if you care a lot, you will give him support through the pain he is experiencing, and you will get happiness to do so
if you are just in the relationship for good stuff to come to you from him, you dont have any relation with him, you havent considered him or thought of him
you might tell him that no person is interested in being told that they resemble someone else
if he spends time with you, he loves you enough to spend time with you - he feels comfortable enough to be himself, show his feelings, with you - that is a big compliment - you ought to be pleased that he is not concealing himself, that you are really encountering another human being - that is a privilege, an honour, a good fortune
if he is with you, he is working through the old relationship and growing together with you
you could try talking about bits of your old relationships - he may not like it - or he may accept that - and then that is openness with another person that *you* can enjoy - more reality, less pretend -
2006-09-13 20:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure he does, otherwise he wouldnt be with you....for some part though i think he still loves her too, what happened there? was it a bad break up.....did she die? If so then he probably got into another relationship too soon, and is probably feeling the emotional backlash from it.
2006-09-13 18:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL YOU STUPID HE DONT WONT YOU HE WONTS ONE THING THEN HE WANTS HIS EX HELLO!!!
2006-09-13 17:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋