Do you think that a husband loves his wife when he tells her that she's a trash?

Question

Most of the times my husband tells me that I'm a trash.But once, I told him that we better part ways than having a fight everyday,he did not agree with the idea.Sometimes I'm trying to find it myself if I'm still in love with him,but I'm afraid until now I can't find the answer.I've lose my self confidence,and I'm asking myself if I really deserve to be called a trash.

Answer 1

This man is emotionally abusing you. He may love you, but my guess is that he grew up in an environment that was very abusive. You should not tolerate people that degrade you, and you do not deserve to be called names. Yes, people fight, but you have to fight fair! He does not deserve to be in a relationship with you!

If you do decide to stay with him, you should insist he gets some counselling.

Answer 2

I'll say your husband still love you. Sometimes when we are in a very bad quarrel we may just scold or say anything that is very awful. Don't take to heart about what your husband say and don't lose your own confidence. You are what you are since he married you he had to accept who you are. You can have a nice talk with him tell him that you are not a trash and don't deserve to be called a trash. If you are really a trash then he himself is a rubbish chute cause he is the one who choose to be with you. As for do you still love him you need to ask yourself do you ever feel touch abt what he did for you and how he treat you when the days you never quarrel. Give yourself some breathing space don't stress yourself out.

Answer 3

Of course you don't deserve to be called trash. I'm sorry that you ended up with an emotionally abusive husband. Of course he doesn't want you to leave - and if you leave, he'll cry until he gets you back - only to call you trash again and again.

If you can do it (and it will cause immense pain for a period of time, but you'll be happier in the long run), get out! Make a clean break. You can find someone who will treat you better.

Answer 4

Does a chicken have Lips? Does a snake use deodorant? You know the answers to these questions just like deep down you know the answer to your question.....No...a husband that tells you you are trash does not....cannot love his wife. I do disagree with my wife from time to time and we do get upset with each other put I would NEVER call her trash....kinda self preservation LOL. I hope that you can work this out....if not maybe you should go your separate ways no one wants to live being called trash everyday.

Answer 5

I answer this with a heavy heart: it may be time to break the relationship off.

I had a husband for 15 years who didn't respect me, and yes, I understand why you've lost your self confidence.

The problem isn't *you* -- it's *him*. A man who calls his wife "trash" isn't offering what is needed to help glue a relationship together. It's all one-sided: you're the one who does the repair work while he tears things down.

At some point, you've just got to say "stop." If you don't want to leave the relationship, at the very least, the two of you need to go to counselling together to break the destructive patterns in the relationship.

Answer 6

You should ask him if you are nothing but trash then why did he marry you? Girl you do not deserve that and you should put your foot down right now..............Maybe you should show him what you mean by a little time away. Go stay with a friend or family member for a couple of days and see how long it takes him to call begging for forgiveness. I bet the trash remarks go away when you show him that you aren't putting up with his sh*t. Good luck.

Answer 7

Amor no! you dont deserve that no one should call you that ,and your hubby well sounds like he wants to scare you and treat you like trash , ,but that does not mean you are trash YOU ARE NOT !!! But maybe he like to treat others like so because HE has serious issues ,I would not ask my self to much ,if he has not respected you now and stoped it will only get worse .He is not good to you !!so why waste your life when you could be with a gentlemen .my own words once was I would rather die than to live like this so I made a change to the better in my life .Be happy dont let him drag you down ,only because HE HAS ISSUES about himself .tell him to back off he is the one with a big trash problem ,tell him to go clean his own look in the mirror dude ,sorry I dont like men that treat women this way .stand up for yourself be strong against him .good luck .sorry if I seem hard about this .

Answer 8

I can only assume that this question is faked, because I can't imagine a woman thinking that being called trash is a term of endearment.

Just in case you are telling it like it is, you need to call someone that can help explain to you what verbal abuse is:
The National Domestic Violence Hotline at: 1-800-799-7233

Answer 9

It's verbal and emotional abuse...whether he agrees or not, you should think seriously about ending this marriage before the abuse becomes physical. A loving, decent husband would respect his wife and never resort to name calling. He is destroying your self confidence and the longer you stay the worse it will get

Answer 10

OKAY!!! Are you waiting for him to start physically beating you up as well? What he is doing to you is not acceptable!! Verbal abuse is sometimes worse than the physical! NO, you are not trash and you have better start believing that! He is the one being trashy for calling you that! A husband who loves his wife does not demean her!! Honey you need to re-look at your relationship before you start believing that you deserved it!! Nobody deserves it!