I have been with the same dude all my teenage life, then he went to the military and i got some freedom. I saw what it was like to have other people treat you like you wanted to be treated. But now me boyfriend is back and I have to go back to the old ways of not going anywhere personal, either going to the club or hanging out with his friends. All I want to do is just sit at the movies or go out to eat or just get some personal time. Do we always have to be in the crowd?
2006-09-13 17:11:38 · 16 answers · asked by mslady318 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
NO!! The most important part of being in a relationship is compromising and making sure you are both happy. Talk to your man about this and if he is still unwilling to compromise, lose him. There are way too many out there and I am sure you are way to young to be unhappy. If you stay unhappy, you will look back to your younger years and regret never trying out other options and being unhappy all the time. You said you enjoyed the freedom while he was gone, so that should definitly tell you something too.
2006-09-13 17:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by mandyd725 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed it with him? If not then you need to. He may just expect you to be there with him because you have done it for years. Tell him that sometimes you need time for yourself. On the same note don't use your alone time to be flirting with other dudes. If that is what you want then you need to dump your boyfriend and obtain ultimate freedom.
2006-09-14 00:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by therazorsback 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't ALWAYS have to be out in the crowd, good word no, but if you really care about him, you'd be willing to spend SOME time with his friends and family, but it does not have to be all the time. A good balance between alone time and crowd time is and ingredient to make a good relationship.
2006-09-14 00:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO youre not asking for too much. A relationship is a two way street. you give some you take some. he needs to know what u want. If he doesnt put an effort to try and work things out let him go. believe me i know. i know how you feel.
2006-09-14 00:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by im_a_goofy_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Address this with him. Hopefully the military taught him to respect others and try to function as a unit... in this case, the two of you.
2006-09-14 00:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your heart did not grow fonder while he was gone, but your brain got smarter.
Run before its too late. It is OKAY not to love someone anymore.
2006-09-14 00:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by starlinnq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That time away gave you a taste of freedom...w/out him you sounded happier, think that may be your dilema.
2006-09-14 00:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by south_lido 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only means that you both had grown up. Needs change and you have to tune to the time. you both will be fine.
2006-09-14 00:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Rammohan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for the hills woman!
2006-09-14 00:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by schlongy1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you arent asking too much. id say you should either tell him you want a change, or give him the boot.
2006-09-14 00:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by lizzyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋