How long have you lived together and explain why ?
2006-09-13 16:51:34 · 19 answers · asked by foxyraley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Or did it lead to a break up?
2006-09-14 03:31:05 · update #1
In past relationships, moving in together ,though exciting at first, seemed to put an unnecessary strain on the relationships. You know bickering over stupid stuff,The Toilet seat , Dishes ,Panti hoes etc. None of those lasted . I am currently in a relationship(with a woman I really love)that is going on 7 years ( a record for me !). We each have our own homes, but spend weekends and a couple of evenings a week together.Our time together is 'Time Together' and not just being under the same roof. We have contemplated moving in together but fear jinxing a good thing so are as of yet undecided.
2006-09-13 17:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you think of as better or worse. If this is a relationship that could lead to marriage, then yes, I believe you should live together beforehand. Living with someone lets you into every part of their lives and if you want to spend the rest of yours with them, you should probably get to know each other as well as possible. Yes, living together can make things more stressful, but so does living with everyone. If you guys are being honest with each other and yourselves then it should be a great experience. good luck!
2006-09-13 17:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by kameka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOTH - two 2 year relationships.
1) He got into med school and we were young. I wasn't going to move out of state for him but I knew I'd wonder 'what if' so I went. Med school split us apart (80% of med school relationships fail) and it was a heart breaking painful experience.
2) We moved in together sooner than we thought because of my roommate situation, he was verbally abusive. I almost punched him out one night. Now 2 years later - 4 years together now - we are best friends because we have both given each other the space to grow, learn from other relationships, and flourish. We are not a couple, but I know him like the back of my hand. We are best friends and I love him with all my heart. We even live in 2 different states now but stay in contact and are happy.
You never know what may happen. Ask yourself, "When I'm in the nursing home and old, what do I want to live with? The idea that I tried it and maybe had failed, or the wonder of never trying it at all?"
2006-09-13 16:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother always told me that u will never know how someone really is until u live under the same roof with them. Well...in my situation, before I got married w/ my husband, we were "best friends" for 6 yrs and did a lot of things together. He would sleep over at my house and I would sleep over his and during this time, we were just strictly on a platonic level. With that said, I pretty much knew his good and bad side and he knew mine, but not totally all of it. When we started living together as a couple (1 1/2 yrs) , it changed from good to great and there weren't really any "big surprises" as far as personality is concerned. Everything was just good to go, even until this day.
Obviously u are going to get different answers to your question as everyone is different in terms of personality.
2006-09-13 17:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've lived together for about 2 yrs. now. And I don't know if it's made it worse or better. I know I don't have as much patients with him. But that's my fault because I don't have much of it at all with anything. I think it stems from my mother and my relationship. But anyway it kind of is what it is. I mean it's not like I feel closer to him, but it's not like I can't stand him. (At time I do, but that's what happens when you spend practically everyday with someone.) But I know I couldn't live without him.. I think.. :o)
2006-09-13 16:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by * Wishfulthinker * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should hear my advice b/c it's coming from someone who has done it both ways:
It's better if you don't live together before marriage. It's true- as long as you're together long enough (by this I mean at least 2 years) IT DOESN'T MAKE A DIFFERENCE WHETHER YOU LIVED WITH HIM BEFORE MARRIAGE OR NOT. I lived w/ my ex-hub 1.5 yrs before getting married and we're still divorced. I've been w/ my current b/f for almost 1.5 yrs now and we're not living together and things are better with him now than it was w/ my ex-hub while we were living together before marriage. The thing is, living together before marriage won't make you more compatible w/ your partner AFTER marriage. It's about what you love about your partner & believe me, if he's a slob you will know about it even before you're married to him and if you still choose to be in love w/ a slob before you married him then after marriage you will still accept him for the way he is.
2006-09-13 16:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bobbie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Better. We've been together for almost 14 years, lived together for 3.
2006-09-13 16:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by suchaprettyface11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buying a car is a four year commitment....would you buy it without taking it for a test drive? I wouldn't marry someone which is a bigger commitment than a car unless we lived together first.
If you live together and it doesn't work....count your lucky stars that you didn't marry them first cause you'd be going through a messy divorce.
Just my thoughts....
2006-09-14 00:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are looking forward living together as husband and wife... Being positive is a big thing... I know we'll be together for better or worse...
2006-09-13 17:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by kim B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once I move in with a guy I get to go from being his lover and friend to his mum cooking cleaning picking up after him etc.... So make positive the reasons he wants a woman?
2006-09-13 17:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋