his living with this woman maybe for 15 years now,,he just left us when i was just 3 years old without any support from him for about 14 years....now his paying my school in college and house rent but his not giving me enough allowance..his not even talking to me just his wife but unfortunately she skinda rude to me..i want him to give fair allowance to me and to my brother and also to my mom which still has their marriage certificate...can u people just tell me how??please...
2006-09-13 16:49:37 · 18 answers · asked by gheN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all your mom has to do is to go down and file on him. unfortunately for you, you are a spoiled brat and he owes the money to your mom; not you sweetie.
2006-09-13 16:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by SST 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are old enough to be in college it is not your parents place to be giving you an allowance. Get a job!!!! It's time to wake up and realize what being an adult is all about.
However if your father and mother are still married and he got remarried with out getting a divorce then just let the cops know. They will take care of it. However you better check into it and be sure they never did get a divorce. Just cause she still haves the marriage certificate that don't mean they arent divorced!
Trying to turn your dad in cause you are mad cause you want him to fork over his money to you is childish and crazy. You arent going to know what to do when no one is there to hand over money to you and you got to pay for everything on your own.
You think that marriage certificate proves they are still married you are wrong!! That only means they was married. That don't mean they could not have gotten a divorce and she just wanted to hang on to the marriage certificate. You need to calm down a bit and think about how childish you are sounding right now.
2006-09-13 16:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! Wait just a minute.
I don't think you have both oars in the water here.
He is supporting your college education and rent now and you want more .
And, you want to file a case against him for being a bigamist?
I don't think you have the whole story here and if you are so angry with him and he's been so nonsupportive in the past, how come he is now supporting you after all these years and you are accepting it? There is more to this story or you don't know the whole story. He is there now for you is he not? Get a part time job if you need more money...lots of college kids work when and where they can. Also, how do you know he is not divorced from your mother and if he is in fact, remarried? Maybe his wife is "kinda rude" because she is helping him foot your bills and you are ungrateful. You all need to get on the same page about who is doing what to whom and who is paying for what and you need to learn a few things about life. Sounds like you only have heard one side of the story and are being used. .
2006-09-13 17:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his wife that has the right to file for back child support and possibly alimony... however it might be a weak case if she has made no attempt within 15 years. Also if you are over the age of 18 and you are in college, then he has no responsbility to pay to you anything. Be thankful for what you are getting. As for your relationship with them and them being rude, handling with family dynamics such as that is part of being an adult. You have to deal with it and either severe the ties or attempt to make it better through time and determination, not by asking for more money.
2006-09-13 17:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to get on at the same time with your existence, get a interest, and improve up regrettably. You dont favor an allowance, who the heck do you imagine you're? you would possibly want to be a minimum of in part helping your self and if he's paying your lease and faculty expenses, it fairly is adequate. he's making an attempt. As on your mom, she must have filed for a divorce a lengthy time period in the past and perhaps she might want to are transforming into baby help for you. It develop into her determination and there are 2 facets to each and every tale. Be a huge lady and dont stay contained in the previous. stay for tommorrow.
2016-11-26 22:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together does not mean that they got married...nor does it constitute bigamy. I am sorry that your Father left your family when you were so young. That must have been very hard for you. You are fortunate that your Father is paying for your College education and for your rent. He does not, by law, have to do that, since your parents were not divorced and nothing was specified by court, as to how much child support or educational responsibility he has. You are certainly free to seek legal advice, but there are a lot of kids who would think that you are a very lucky girl!
2006-09-13 16:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by KathieJo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
did he actually marry the new woman. then go to the police in his jurisdiction with his new and old marriage certs but he will go to jail if that happens so i wouldnt advise doing that if you want to kep college going.
just as a side note he is paying for Your college and Your house rent and your fun money and then your brother and then your mom. okay so with all that he still has another family if you are over 18 he owes you nothing outright nothing according to the law unless its in a divorce decree. so its a real tricky thing right now. if you turn him in for that no money for anyone so i suggest you turn him in marriage licenses are public record so all you have to do is go to the county clerk in the county he got married in and you have to prove no divorce decree not sure how you do that but maybe a records search notarized by the state would do it.
2006-09-13 16:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still having a marriage certificate doesn't mean one is still married. They don't make you give those up when you get a divorce.
I'd be very careful, since you may lose whatever support you are getting.
Bite the hand that feeds you and you may go hungry. Your call!
2006-09-13 16:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If these people are a crooked as you say they are, don't press them. You are a better person than that. Don't stoop to their level. You should be grateful for any college money you are getting, but again if what you say is true, at the most critical moment, they are likely to cut it off. Put their problems aside and work on you. Any time spent on them is lost time, and it will only bring you grief. Just let it go.
2006-09-13 16:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by OhIdonno 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
realize if he goes to jail, your free ride and allowance is gone. no offense but reporting your dads illegal actions now because your mad he wont give you more money is rather childish. you want more money get a parttime job.
but if you feel you want to report this you need go to the police in your dads city or yours. also talk to your mom before hand as they may have made some sort of deal you dont know about.
2006-09-13 16:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by autumnl78 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋