his living with this woman maybe for 15 years now,,he just left us when i was just 3 years old without any support from him for about 14 years....now his paying my school in college and house rent but his not giving me enough allowance..his not even talking to me just his wife but unfortunately she skinda rude to me..i want him to give fair allowance to me and to my brother and also to my mom which still has their marriage certificate...can u people just tell me how??please...
2006-09-13 16:46:39 · 10 answers · asked by gheN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are in college i am assuming that you're over 18 yrs old. And if that's the case, you are not owed anything at all from this man - including money for college or allowance as you call it. Although you call him your father - he certainly doesn't act like it. A real father stays and raises his own children. I am wondering if this money he gives you is for the guilt he feels for abandoning you and your brother and mother. I'm sorry you have had a painful childhood and a bad father. Your mother (forgive me) is also responsible - she chose the man, did she not?? I hope you will do differently when/if you get married and when/if you have children. Better to resist temptation to take his money and just shut him out of your life, especially if he has nothing more than money to offer you? Seeing a therapist can be helpful for overcoming these issues - perhaps your college offers some counseling for students?
2006-09-13 17:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by lalo m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get on with your life, get a job, and grow up unfortunately. You dont need an allowance, who the heck do you think you are? You should be at least partially supporting yourself and if he is paying your rent and college expenses, that is enough. He is making an effort.
As for your mother, she should have filed for a divorce a long time ago and maybe she would have gotten child support for you. It was her choice and there are 2 sides to every story.
Be a big girl and dont live in the past. Live for tommorrow.
2006-09-13 17:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you joking? You want an allowance? Get a job. And some counselling. If he's just been living with this woman, that's not a crime. If he actually did marry, then that is illegal. You just have to report it. He may be a terrible father, but there's not a whole lot you can do if he's already paying tuition and rent, it's not likely you can squeeze any more child support from him, especially if you just want an allowance.
2006-09-13 16:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by answersBeta2.1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to any district attorney If your father is really married to two different women at the same time, it is a crime. The district attorney will probably prosecute. This could end up with your Dad in jail and all payments could stop. Just be careful what you wish for, you may get it.
I guess my point is sometimes things are not as they seem. If your dad is just living with the other woman, all bets are off. Depending on the jurisdiction he could be completely within the law, and once again you could end up in the cold.
Basically it is a gamble, are you willing to risk what you have in order to possibly get more?
Good luck and do see a lawyer or district attorney.
2006-09-13 17:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How previous are you? in case you're sufficiently previous to be in college it is not your mothers and dads place to be giving you an allowance. Get a job!!!! that's time to awaken and comprehend what being an grownup is all approximately. despite if if your parents are nonetheless married and he have been given remarried with out having a divorce then basically enable the law enforcement officers be responsive to. they're going to shelter it. despite in case you extra useful verify into it and be advantageous they under no circumstances did break up. basically reason she nonetheless haves the marriage certificates that don't propose they arent divorced! attempting to coach your dad in reason you're mad reason you % him to fork over his funds to you is infantile and loopy. You arent going to be responsive to what to do whilst no person is there reachable over funds to you and you acquire to pay for each thing on your guy or woman. you think of that marriage certificates proves they are nonetheless married you're incorrect!! That in straightforward terms skill they became married. that don't propose they won't are starting to be a divorce and he or she basically wanted to hold directly to the marriage certificates. you may settle down somewhat and think of roughly how infantile you're sounding remarkable now.
2016-11-07 07:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can simply go to the police station with your evidence and have him charged with BIGAMY. Or you could contact him and tell him to make a financial settlement with you and your mother OR ELSE you will have him charged with bigamy. Look up your states law on bigamy I'm sure that he would potenially face some jail time as well as getting acriminal record even if the judge only imposed token sentence.
2006-09-13 16:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by Parapriacanthus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this situation is very hurtful for you, but this is between your parents. If your Mom is not willing to file charges against him and prove that she is still married to him, then she must have her reasons. Talk to your Mom about your concerns, maybe she can comfort you.
2006-09-13 17:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The women have nothing to do with it. 1st, find out what your father is legally obligated to do. 2. figure out how the money affects your life. 3. and then ask him for his advice....and after listening to him....then ask him if he can help you. Make a deal, and stick to it.
The person who is providing the money is giving his life, in work to you...time, they will never, ever, get back. Honor that energy. And show to him that you do honor it.
2006-09-13 16:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Sad-Dad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn him into the clerks office where he married this other woman. also go to the clerks office where he and your mother registered for their marrige licence and get a copy. That is called biggamy and is against the law.
2006-09-13 17:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by donnareed1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Loreina Bobbitt(sp?). I am sure she can point you in the right direction.
2006-09-13 16:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋