Just wondering what your thoughts are. This question is for both men and women. Also, has anyone ever picked on you because they thought you seemed gay, or even harassed you? Or spread rumors about you? Why? How did you feel? What did you do about it?
2006-09-13 16:43:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
glenbarri... - I know exactly what you mean.
2006-09-13 20:48:46 · update #1
ishelp4 - I don't even thingk it's about nonconformity most of the time. many people aren't purposely trying to not conform to what a gender is suppose to act like. Sometimes you are acting like yourself, you see yourself as a man or a woman, you conform to the look and actions as a man or a woman, yet some people will still label you gay.
2006-09-17 07:34:41 · update #2
I suspect that happens to most people at one time or another.
I remember when I was a salesman selling chemicals just starting out, I called on a prospect and we were doing the small talk thing before getting down to business. this guy brought up the Superbowl, and stupidly, I told him being short and not very big, that I never developed a passion for football so I had no opinions.
This guy frowned, and I could read the guy's face like a book! He was thinking 'F*G!'
Man! I felt like I was back in the 7th grade! In desperation, I told him I did follow baseball some and I had years of martial arts training (both true). This satisfied him a bit, he didn't get rude or throw me out of his office. But he never bought a thing from me, ever, regardless of price or value.
Because of that, I made it a habit to scan the sports page and read enough of the top couple of stories of the day to at least fake an interest in what's going on. I can't change people's stupid perceptions, but I can use their stupidity to my advantage.
Those people are idiots, you can't do anything to change their mind. Not even fight them. They'll just assume you are one tough homosexual. The only thing you can do is be who you are,
Hang in there, it WILL get better (though it will never be perfect!)
2006-09-13 17:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by glenbarrington 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had a foul sexual adventure in line with an attempt to get into some thing you does not frequently be into. you're by a techniques no longer the 1st guy or woman interior the worldwide to have that feeling and you is in simple terms no longer the final. you will desire to sense undesirable. You shared some thing intimate with a stranger, the gender of the stranger is in simple terms approximately irrelevant. You created a bond there, one that doesn't extra healthful with your view of your self, and that bond is hurting you as undesirable as in case you may desperate to shoot your self interior the foot. yet you ought to additionally forgive your self. It became right into a intense mistake, yet there have been no lasting repercussions different than you being ill to your abdomen. Beating your self up for it continuously enables no person. You tried it as quickly as, you for sure have been given it out of your equipment, and you're lower back on the right song. Chalk it up as a foul gaining awareness of adventure. And take your female at her word, guy. She mentioned it wasn't a controversy so it is not. you are going to lose her in case you do no longer believe her.
2016-12-12 08:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by lesniewski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than that, they've mistaken me for the other gender, lol. It's been a few years since that happened though.
I know that some of my college classmates wondered about my sexuality (they didn't spread rumours though, not that I know of anyway). I guess that's because I'm kind of androgynous and am very far from being the stereotypical straight woman.
Nobody has ever picked on me for it or harrassed me for it and I didn't care that they mistook me for a lesbian/guy. I just corrected them and moved on.
2006-09-13 17:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by undir 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happens a lot to people with a gender nonconformity. It is a separate issue than homosexuality. Unfortunately, most people perceive it as the same thing.
2006-09-15 16:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yup been there! I am a back spotter on the cheer squad (well was) and they girl i flew screwed up and fell and it was not my fault so she told everyone i was a lez! I got made fun of so bad! I just laughed! Cuz everyone one of my friends here me talk about guys 24/7 so me being lez was out of the ? She told the coach and i was no longer able to back spot cuz i was Supposubly looking up her skirt! Okay if you want to fall i wont watch you THANK GOD FOR BLUMMERS! but i ended up stopping cuz the chick really did not know what she was doing and fell on my wrist about 18 times the wrong way "ill get it this time" she always said i have cronic tendotitis in my wrist!
if your gay! Your cooL! if your not your still cool!
Gay PEOPLE NOTHING WRONG WITH THEM!
2006-09-13 16:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was young,but not because I acted gay but because at the time I was in between boyfriends and you know how some folks are,if your alone then you most be gay.I really don`t care what others believe I don`t worry about things like that anymore.I know who I am and what I am and it doesn`t ,matter what others think.
2006-09-13 16:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my best friend from college and I have been mistaken for lesbians at concerts and by the maintenance guy at her old apartments because I was over there so much he thought I lived there.
We just go along with it. It doesn't bother us. We both know we're straight
2006-09-13 17:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes my third cousin thought I was gay, because I didn't know any guys in my grandmother's neighborhood. And I used to hold hands with my best freind back in 1st grade and kids made fun of us. But I am straight.
2006-09-13 17:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by Puddleglum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I was hanging out with a lesbian friend, and this guy thought we were a couple, but I'm actually a straight (married) woman, and my friend has a girlfriend, so she and I are good friends but nothing sexual. I thought it was really funny, and I think she did, too.
2006-09-13 17:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who turned out to be gay. He had a crush on me and insisted he thought I was gay too. It was wishful thinking on his part. I wound up telling him that if he kept trying to make moves on me, I would punch him out. That did not do any good, but when I told him I wouldn't talk to him anymore if he kept it up, he stopped.
Good luck with that.
2006-09-13 16:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Candidus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋