I have a GF that I think is just to close to her mom, she never leaves her side. It wasn't like this till about 6 months ago. Now its all about her mom, she wont come to my house cuz she dosent want to leave her mom. When she dose come she comes to eat talk for a little and leaves early cuz her mom. when we go out its the same thing!! Lately her mom has been coming along with us too, everywhere! What can I dooo!? I love her but and her mom but damn what about me!?
2006-09-13 16:41:43 · 12 answers · asked by EsYoDaddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you sure something hasn't happened in the last 6 months that's made her need to spend so much time with her mom? (Like, maybe her mom's gotten sick and she hasn't clued you in yet?)
You need to talk to her about it, but don't be confrontational about it - that will just make things worse. If things have actually changed recently, just bring it up gently - something like, "You seem to be spending a lot more time with your mom lately - is anything going on?" Or, just tell her that, although you really enjoy hanging out with her and her mom, and can appreciate that she has such a wonderful relationship with her (whether you do or not), you'd really like to spend more time just with her. Tell her you miss her.
It might help to think of her mom more like a close friend, which she obviously is. Some girls just have that kind of relationship with their moms. (I do.) But you wouldn't want a friend always tagging along with you...
(Just an aside, and it may not be relevant - could this have anything to do with her mom being a bit over-protective and wanting to chaperone a bit? She might just be more comfortable with you if her mom's there. You don't say how old you are or how serious the relationship is.)
2006-09-13 16:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a communication problem. You need to clear the air with your girlfriend. Her mom is the tagalong maybe because she's having trouble, your gf feels responsible for her, etc. Tell your gf if she doesn't start going out with you ALONE, at least some of the time, that things are going to change really quick. And hold to it. She'll make her decision fast and you will have your answer.
2006-09-13 23:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by Hello Dolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its good that she loves her mom and wants to be with her. But if she is not giving you the quality time you need, maybe you need to move on. But just a thought, What if her mom has learned that she is ill or god forbid not going to be around much longer and that is why your gf is spending time with her mom sooooo much. I lost my mom, she was ill for a while and I spent her last months staying by her side. My husband was lucky if I slept in the same bed with him while this was going on. Talk to her and see if there is something there that she is not telling you.
2006-09-13 23:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by velvetred_69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I'm actually like this also.. :) I love my mother!! she is my best friend. You really should just tell her when you want some alone time. that's what my fiance does, I don't get offended because I know that my mother and I do spend alot of time together and I mean alot. just tell her nicely I'm sure she will understand, If she doesn't and it bothers you that much you might want to move on because they will just get closer with age. you could always start dragging your mom around too!! then she might get the hint......
2006-09-13 23:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by ☠Naz☠ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know. And yes some people can be too close to their parents. My bf was like that. I had to let him know, look I understand that you love your family but they have to understand that you have a life with me. (We live together and they would call him all the time and want him to do favors for them and give them money) Yea it was bad. So I had to let him know that if he wants to keep this relationship with his family it was fine we just had to ease up on our relationship. Not break up but not make it so serious. Maybe she doesn't realize what she's doing and you should let her know that you'd like to spend some "alone" time. Good luck.
2006-09-13 23:48:53 · answer #5 · answered by * Wishfulthinker * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should talk to mom and tell her in a nice way that she is a third wheel or tell your gf that there is a time and place for everthing and alone with you is not the place for her mom good luck
2006-09-13 23:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your eye looks like mine - either your naughty and her Mom has pegged it and is influencing her OR she is not that interested in you and using her Mom as an excuse not to spend time with you.
Threaten to move on and see what happens - THEN you will know....
2006-09-13 23:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god i hate it when it comes to this...there was this boy that asked me out like 2 weeks ago...and i though that I was gonna say yes to him....but then he started to talk about his mom,and then it sounded like he was a mama's boy....so i had to tell him no
2006-09-13 23:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be selfish, enjoy every moment that you can, you just never know she could be really sick. Best of Luck!
2006-09-13 23:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by maury3222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop her like a hot potato!!!!! Your married life won't be good with this happening.
2006-09-14 04:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋