Any advice from single parents..I am recently seperated and would like some advice on dealing with a difficult ex.
2006-09-13 16:36:18 · 16 answers · asked by Zach's Mom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lily who the F U C K do you think you are. Are you even a parent? Do you know what its like to have a child. Did I SAY I was married no....I am asking SINGLE PARENTS for advice on how do deal with a difficult ex after a recent seperation....he wont call to see how is son is he hangs up on me when we talk he is being DIFFICULT! If you dont have something intellegent to sat dont answer the F U C K I N G question
2006-09-13 17:15:01 · update #1
My ex was awful when we first seperated. He didn't understand that I left him because he was abusive and horrible to both me and my daughter. I eventually convinced him to give up his parental rights along with the divorce. Now, his name is wiped off the birth certificate and I never have to see him again. Mind you, this is not good for most people, but a lot of people don't know about it, and sometimes it's the only way for everyone to be safe and happy.
2006-09-13 17:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by kameka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First lets get it straight, you are not a single parent, heck you aren't even a divorcee. You are just separated.
Whether you are legally separated or not your husband is not your ex.. not until you are divorced. So stop jumping the gun with the "ex" stuff.
Last of all, if you could get along with your husband, you wouldn't be separated, so why would you think you two would be getting along now?
If the problem is money.. think about it .. was money flowing when you two were together.. probably not.. so don't expect to be flush with it now. In the end the two attorneys will have more of your money than you two.
Just read your other questions. What is all this garbage about bf and a baby? Sounds like you are living in a make believe world. Get a dictionary and then ask a question.
2006-09-13 17:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot depends on whether you plan to divorce. I think 1st and foremost, you need time apart and to keep your nose out of each others business, even if it means moving away.
Your kids should not become an issue or a pawn in your situation. Leave them out of it and dont use them to harrass and irritate each other
Expect child support or to pay child support. Get into court and demand it for the welfare of your kids.
I have been divorced since my daughter was 11 months old and my son was 3. Now they are 18 and 21. It was a rough road to ho, and I cannot stand my x to this day. I can look back and see a lot of things that could have been easier. He just did not play the game fairly. He did not pay support, he drank, and was too worried about my life after I filed for my way out.
2006-09-13 16:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep your relationship with your ex on a friendship level while in front of your child. you dont want the child to see you fighting and start to resent one parent. On the other hand dont go back to your ex for the child, that is never a good situation. Keep strong, it gets easier everyday, and though it will never be as easy as having a partner to help, it can be done.
2006-09-13 16:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by wantme_comegetme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ,I have been there.First ,don't look back ,you cant be his Friend and you don't want him as your enemy so try to let go, next do not get involved with someone else till you are well over this and have worked out honestly what went wrong so you wont repeat history.next try to be honest with the kids let them know what happened so they wont make up some story of their own but don't bag out their dad ,he is probably doing that for himself.If its safe ,let them see their father ,it is important to them ,my kids don't have a good relationship with their dad but they know it is Dads fault not theirs and not mine!better than building some fantasy dad.next take care of your self ,the kids need you and you deserve a break.You will get by and in time you may meet a better man.I did.but in the meantime remember its better to be happy alone than miserable with some one who isn't right.
2006-09-13 16:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being single again, it is not easy and it will take a great deal of courage and patience. All I can say is that you have to see to it that you will not repeat the same mistake again. Take time to think if ever you are planning for another relationship.
2006-09-13 16:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give is for you to not feed into your ex's viciousness; accept the fact that the other person is going to do everything they can to make you miserable; just stay alert and use common sense.
2006-09-13 16:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a court order of protection is a help. but you may need to file a police report or have them arrested first.
However you didn't say what your Ex is being difficult about.
Is the difficulty Civil or Criminal?
2006-09-13 16:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by Eldude 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't say what the problems are that you are having . .if the ex is being aggressive get a restraining order on him , move away , go home to your parents /rellies i am just guessing as there is not enough info sorry
2006-09-13 16:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the dreaded ex,, I have two, my first wife gave me hell when I remarried, always calling and bitching about something,
they dont want you then they wont ease up and let you be happy,,
take care of the kid,, let the other stuff roll off your back,,
I will tell you the biggest mistake I did was remarrying,, I lost alot of kid time because it turned out my kids didnt like my wife and her kids, now my kids are grown up and I am divorced again,
good luck to you,,, please love your child they didnt ask for this
2006-09-13 16:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋