I am in a miserable marriage,he is in a miserable marriage,tonight we met,I have not smiled and felt so good inside since I cant remember when,we laughed,share stories and just seem to totally connect.Now please tell me how many of you out there are goiing to say,stay in your marriage,live an unhappy life,would any of you take your own advise on how you answer this question
2006-09-13 16:35:57 · 21 answers · asked by TAMMY M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had a similar experience tonight. So I say go with your heart. I wouldn't trade the feelings that I felt, the good time I had talking to her or the phenomenal goodnight kiss when we parted for anything in the world.
For those who can't understand, I am jealous of your awesome relationship with your partner and sorry for those who are so miserable in their petty lives that they want to bring others down.
So go girl, I am sure he will be worth it.
2006-09-13 17:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by rikv77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy in your marriage you should find a way to make it happy, or move on with your life. If the two of you that met tonight are both unhappy in your marriages it maybe that you connected so well because you are both miserable. I really feel that if you want to see others that you should get out of your marriage first and then give your heart time to mend, so that your not on the rebound. If you find someone on the rebound you maybe setting yourself up for another bad relationship. And yes I would take my own advise if I were in your situation.
2006-09-13 16:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a bad marriage and am now happy with new husband so I did take my advice ,First ,you need to work on fixing your mar rage ,try ,if he wont help then you move on ,do not take the cowards way and have a cheep affair because you don't have the guts to fix things.Your marriage may well be beyond help but if you give it a honest try and fail then you can walk away with a clear conscious and a better understanding of what you want and need in your next relationship.this guy was a wake up call to do something about your problems but if its spicing things up or getting marriage counselling or dealing with childhood traumas that can make it right then you owe it to your self to explore that first ,if you have done all this in the past and know your marriage is dead then leave...
2006-09-13 17:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bummer- does your husband beat you or cheat on you?? What is
making you miserable-? unfortunately- the honeymoon wears off- do u talk crap to each other-take the high road- stop first-see pastor or priest-get counseling- even if he won't go-you took a vow I am sure-don't be out shopping-(the other guy) when you can't buy- it is a recipe for disaster- newness wears off and days can become routine- new is exciting - but does not stay new- marriage takes work- and giving- not always fair-70-30 or 50/50 best to u xx
2006-09-13 16:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! My advice is for you both to get a divorce and go from there. Nobody knows what the future may hold. Be as happy as you can. Neither of you need to stay in miserable marriages. You'll only hurting yourselves. I wish you both the best. I hope this helps.
2006-09-13 17:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt that way while being Married too! I am not going to tell you to stay in your marriage. You have to do what you feel is right for you. Just don't do anything too fast give it time. maybe you won't like this person as much as you do now. None deserves an unhappy life. Mine is far from happy. I am not happy in my marriage either, I'm in it for my kids, and so is she.
2006-09-13 16:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by tm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I already got out of my miserable marriage, so you're not going to get that lecture from me. I knew when I'd had enough and I knew that I needed to call it quits.
BUT, as long as you ARE married, you have no business being someplace in a situation you know perfectly well is morally incorrect.
Only you (and he) can decide when enough is enough and when you're going to call it quits - and to have it work for both of you, both of you will have to be disentangled. In other words, if YOU split with your spouse, but he doesn't, well, no dice. Its an all or nothing gamble, if BOTH of you are unhappy, then do something about it.
So, step one: figure out what you REALLY want, then go for it. If that means staying married, even though you're miserable, then so be it. However, if you really don't want to be in that situation anymore, you know what you have to do. Just remember to maintain propriety till you're free of your current relationship - sh!itty though it may be.
2006-09-13 16:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I'm confused about is it seems like you already have your mind made up about your marriage, so I'm wondering why your even asking us. Your saying you want someone to tell you stay in your marriage even though you don't want to? I'd say do whatever in the hell makes you happy and smile. Why are you staying with this man if yours so over it??
2006-09-13 16:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by * Wishfulthinker * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason I give the advise I do is because it has worked for me and can for you too! The easy thing to do is just leave your marriage, but it is a cycle that will repeat itself. IF you don't learn how to fix the problems when they come, things will just repeat themselves. You didn't say if there are children involved, but I pray there aren't, remember children learn from what they see. Good luck with your decision, I will be praying for your marriage.
2006-09-13 17:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak from my pt of view and that is I would stay and work on my marriage, provided my husband also puts in his share of the hard work. I would suggest for u to do what u feel is best for u because my reality is not your reality.
2006-09-13 16:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋