He has almost completed his training and will be done at the end of October... We have a daughter that will be 7 months old on the 20th of this month. He joined when she was 4 months old. I'm starting to wonder if we thought about this as much as we should have? What in the world will we do if he gets sent to Iraq? I have been so sad lately, and after visiting him at his basic training graduation everything seemed so much more real that it had before. I just don't know what to think. I pray every day that this will never have to happen to us. I can't imagine what other families with the mothers or fathers deployed are going through. How do I cope with this anxiety? How should we mentally prepare ourselves? If he does get sent over, would it be stupid to think about getting pregnant again before he goes? I'm just so upset, I don't know what I would do if this ever happened, and especially if anything ever happened to him... A lot of people are gone for a whole year...
2006-09-13 16:35:02 · 8 answers · asked by .*AnNa*. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I guess I should probably add a few things... we are to find out where we will be stationed in 1-2 weeks from now. We actually had the baby first and then got married. The reason why he joined the army and we became an army family is because we didn't have too many other options and the Army is providing us with a better life than we could have had on our own - war and all. Neither of us have been to college and we want to be able to provide our children with the best parenting and childhood that we can.
I ask if it would be a good idea to get pregnant again, because we want to have more children sometime. But if he were deployed and something happened... well I can't even think about it. I love my husband so much and I love our daughter so much, she's the best! And I want to have more of his children. I'm just worried about losing my family.
2006-09-13 17:13:17 · update #1
Wow. Ok....first of all, welcome to the world of the military wife. Trust me, it's a great life but you are in for a HUGE adjustment. My husband is an E5 and has been in for 7 years now. He did 1 year in Korea, and is RIGHT NOW on his second tour in Iraq. Really, there is NOTHING you can do to mentally prepare yourself for something like this. It is by far the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with. If you want to talk and ask me any questions, feel free to email me. And one huge piece of advice I can give you....enjoy EVER SINGLE minute you have together. Don't take anything for granted. And while he is home, LIVE!!! Don't live your life around the WHAT IF's......You will drive yourself and him crazy. This is not an easy life but it is very rewarding. Here's a great saying.......
Some people live an entire lifetime and wonder if they have made a difference. My Husband is a US soldier, HE DOESNT HAVE THAT PROBLEM.
Good luck to you Hun.
2006-09-13 16:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all likely hood if he joined he will get sent at some point. I hope you guys start preparing now, it is a hard situation. My best friend has been raising her child pretty much by herself because he's been gone for 1yr at a time the home for 6 months then gone again. It's very scary. I don't mean to scare you, I just think you should be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. Good Luck.
2006-09-13 16:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by ME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the military , same the world over. Nope you obviously didnt think deeply enough but it is too late now. Iraq is the new Vietnam and wont be ending soon. Prepare your self for a possible longer posting than a year. Yes you should get pregnant before he leaves it will give you something to do while he is gone
2006-09-13 16:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by brinlarrr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must understand your husband is already an army. Being a military you must obey first before complaining. You cannot make you own choice where you want to assign. The only thing you can do is to support his profession and pray to your God for his safety and comeback home alive.
2006-09-13 16:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Torex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend that just signed up for the marines and they told him that he has a ggod chance of going to iraq there is no way to handle the news that someone you love is going to iraq. I have friends that have gone to war and come back safe. Just pray and ask god to help you. to keep him safe and sound and that god forbid he goes to war to keep him safe. There is no way to prepare yourself for something like that. The only way to cope is with the help of god. They send men with families last so try not to worry to much just keep god in it at all times.
2006-09-13 16:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by moonandstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I hate to say it but Brace yourself the chances are he will be sent over there. I know it is hard and with a infant it will be harder but remember as hard as it is on you it will be three times as hard on him. All you can do is support him and be there for him and let him know you love him, if he does go maybe go home and stay with family while he is gone to help you out. Stay strong and God Bless him for the sacrafices he will make in order to preserve our freedom.
2006-09-13 16:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Martha S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call Family Services at your nearest military base. There are free therapists there that will help you develop good coping skills, decrease your anxiety, and clear your mind to make good decisions.
2006-09-13 16:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is crazy that he joined when he had alittle one,
pray,, all you can do,, hope he comes back, combat always changes young men,,,
good luck
2006-09-13 16:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋