Recently divorced - my ex-husband had an affair with a co-worker who he plans to move in with. We met today briefly and he said "You look nice today". What do you do with that? He never said it when we were married but we have been divorced two months and he says it now.
2006-09-13 15:59:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's guilty. He knows how horrible he treated you and now has an overwhelming feeling to be nice to you. My advice?? Next time he says it, smile sweetly and then kick him right in the balls and say 'Thanks'. lol
2006-09-13 16:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who is going thru a divorce... Our lives don't end with the bang of a gavel. A check in the mail is not the memories of years shared, good and bad. Chances are, you'll see him again. When we seperate, it sometimes means we see the world differently. We appreciate some of the things we had, and also are glad we've gotten rid of things. You've probably been in some pain. Chances are, you DO look nice today ;)
Take the stroke, and don't over think it. For good or bad, you once shared something with this person. And you don't have to ever be with him again (in that way.) Go find a mirror, and give yourself the "I ain't nuthin but trouble" smile, buy a new outfit, and celebrate the fact that you are taking charge of your life, for good or bad...it's all you!
Blessings and good luck!
2006-09-13 16:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sad-Dad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arent you glad he is being civil? There is a certain weirdness that goes with ex-wives, you always are going to have some kind of feeling for them (I'm not insinuating he wants to get back together) if you loved themin the first place. There isnt anything to do with it, pay it the same amount of attention as if your sister had said it. Dont fly off the handle, or let it bother you, just go with it at the time and forget it
2006-09-13 16:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventhough you probably looked great, there are two possibilities:
1) He may have said it out of guilt
2) He may have had a bad day with the sl^% and had a moment of sanity in which he felt a bit of regret.
Either way though, he's a no good sob, who doesn't deserve an honest relationship. As hard as it MUST be, just let him go. You deserve better.
2006-09-13 16:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was just being nice. And you probably did look nice. Most women after a divorce look better than they did when they where married.
I notice things like that . You've probably lost 10 pounds from the stress of the divorce and your probably more concerned with how you look now. So he noticed. Say Thanks , and that's it. it doesn't' mean anything .
2006-09-13 16:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by joy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally feel that he's just being civil and nice about it although I can't help feeling that somewhere in the back of his mind, he's regretting the fact that he screwed up on u and thinking "wow, I had it good but I screwed it up".
Well, at least be assured that he didn't see u moping around and crying over him because now the ball is in his court.
2006-09-13 16:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMM why did you meet in the first place? If you want to remain friends then it was just his way of starting conversation. If it was otherwise he is trying to let you know he messed up big time. He is a man hon...he knows not what he does. He was thinking with his little head at the time. If you still care about him give it a chance.....but be very careful!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-13 16:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by pinkpuppet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly she did no longer comprehend that she necessary to make the attempt with you.If it bothers then you tell her which you will possibly savour it if she have been given dolled up for you each each so oftentimes. I do an identical project with my fiance. except we are going someplace particular, i do no longer get too dressed up. yet some mornings for paintings, I basically get the urge to experience notably. It has no longer something to do with attempting to get people's interest, yet extra to do with me wanting that extra air of self assurance. possibly there's a clean female at paintings and he or she became feeling aggressive. don't be worried, it may desire to be any of one thousand distinctive reasons
2016-11-07 06:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have responded with, "I thought so too" and left. He is your X I'm sure you can do better and find another man. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
Have a great day!
2006-09-13 16:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle Alf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say thank you.
Maybe he's trying to be civil and polite. Maybe he's remembering that hey, you always were good looking. ;)
Bet he thought you'd be so 'devastated' without him that you'd walk around the town in a bathrobe...
cha right.
2006-09-13 16:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by lucy_shy8000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋