Virgin Freshmen in college, dating a nice girl in high school,then I met the "perfect" girl.Friends first before I saved her from an abusive relationship.Normal dating pattern,sex at 21,Moved in together after graduation.Good times, very bad times (money), Then I began to settle in my career supporting us.She was attending school, but never finished.She wanted a career too.I wanted to get married but something screamed NO! I bought her a car, while I drove the bucket.I didn't care because we were a team.She got a career with better benefits and pay.I should be happy right.No,10 years later we have attained a very strange relationship, like a father raising a child.Not to mention the changes.I know everyone changes a little over time. First, I find out that we really have nothing in common:food,music,movies, cars, sports, etc.She just pretend to like the same things I did.I feel like leaving and being alone because I have been all this time. 2 years No Sex She says a baby will change...
2006-09-13 15:45:33 · 9 answers · asked by krayzieb1232003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I say you are in a very hard position. If you love her enough you could try for a while longer. I think however she may be staying just because it is just like you say you are fathering her and she doesn't want to have to take care of herself. I do not know you two or your relationship so think this through before you take anyone's advice.
2006-09-13 15:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you believe it A baby will not change or save a relationship. that is not what they do. babies do not give they need and they take. Having a baby will only serve to put added strain on an bad relationship. If she is acting like a child she should not have a baby. If you really want to leave you should not have a baby. If you two are not at least reasonably happy in your relationship you should not have a baby. If you do everyone is going to be a loser especially the poor baby. That is not just your baby, it is somebody's life you are toying with. Find another way to fix the relationship or else cut your losses and leave but do not bring a poor inocent child into this mess
2006-09-13 22:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...I would say it's time to get out. Obviously this is not a happy healthy relationship. Sounds like you gave a lot and did alot for the relationship but obviously you were feeling something that she wasn't.
Do yourself a favor and leave the relationship before you let yourself go any further. There is someone out there for you that will love & care for you as much as you will for them. You deserve to be happy and have a partner.
Good luck!
Patty
2006-09-13 22:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by PattyW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Counseling
2) You have grown appart which is normal for people who date/marry in their 20's
3) A BABY WILL NOT HELP THINGS
4) You both need a new start - break up (it will be PAINFUL, but HEALTHY)
5) Good luck
2006-09-13 22:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kissingbythesea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't had sex with her in two years I can guarantee she is getting it somewhere else. It's time to leave.
2006-09-13 22:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start over
2006-09-13 22:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start over & good luck.
2006-09-13 22:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by *Juicy Princess* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby wont change it. Move on.
2006-09-13 22:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
START OVER
2006-09-13 22:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by happybunnyjg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋