however now my husband and I are pissed off at each other and he wants me to start his motor if I want sex.again, which at the moment may be never since we have "issues". I think I would like romance and not the whip, bang, boom approach. Any advice on how to get back our sex life?
2006-09-13 15:44:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You and everyone else girl! Do this - go look in the mirror - see that girl? Your husband sees her too, is she sweet to him, does she smile & speak nice to him, is she still trying to be sexy for him, remember when you first met him? He gave you chills and you were so excited to see him - a man likes to be around a woman who makes him feel good about himself - when did it start to be all about you? Treat him how you want to be treated & just maybe it won't be too late & he'll reciprocate. Make a move, girl and odds are, he'll make the next one. Get those issues worked on, but remember, you can't change him - start working on yourself! Stop whining & start winning!! you can do it!
2006-09-13 16:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by Forever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find myself in a similar situation. My wife and I are having "issues" too. She says she has to have romance or she can't get in the mood. I say when you love someone you should want to show it without special treatment. I still tried to give her the romance she wanted but most times I didn't meet her expectations. So there was no intimacy, also when I did meet her expectations I had to initiate the intimacy. Further, afterward if I didn't talk about my feelings then she would be mad and there wouldn't be intimacy for some amount of time that increased with each failing on my part. Currently I stand at 10 months without. I am beginning to think that the only way we will see any intimacy will be to find two other people after we divorce. What I would like my wife to do is show me she loves me by getting physical. I see it as a matter of doing on to others as you would have them do onto you without any expectations of reciprocation. If she would do this I would be able to forgive everything else. All I want is for her to show me she loves me without strings attached. I don't know what "issues" you and your husband are having. What I do know is that the longer you go without showing affection and intimacy, the harder it becomes to show it. Try to leave the "issues" out of the bedroom is my advice. Otherwise there's no rest from them.
2006-09-13 16:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by Strike2? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree if you make the first move, it'll be on in a few minutes. You may also find that if you give him what he wants and don't make him starve for it, he will give you what you want. Remember, it's always a lot easier to ask for what you want during or after GOOD sex.
2006-09-13 15:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by wildstar_2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him,and both discuss ( have an agreement), how to deal with.Communication is the key in sex matters.Good luck.
2006-09-13 15:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marital conseling? You can't get the "sex life" back without working on other issues you have in your marriage.
2006-09-13 16:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably turned him down so many times that he has quit trying. If this is true and you pushed him out the door..then you SHOULD open it up again. Otherwise, disregard my rantings.
2006-09-13 16:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a talk with him you play get on some sexy things on when you go to bed grab him by the when you walk past him
2006-09-13 15:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grab the whipped cream and tell him that you don't want to fight anymore. you may find him making love in minutes.
2006-09-13 15:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just imagine the sex you want and let loose ,then go for it!!!
2006-09-13 15:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first YOU MUST, have a womans mind, then she will give her body
2006-09-13 16:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by bull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋