i am going to give a scenario. suppose a woman and a man became friends. the man is married and considerably older than the woman and she is single. is there anything wrong with them having a close friendship as long as they know their limits and no lines are crossed?
2006-09-13 15:18:10 · 41 answers · asked by countrygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it is totally ok to do so...
2006-09-13 15:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by answerer101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm close friends with a man who is married and I'm a single woman. Where friends thats it we have never looked at each other in any other way but friends. I dont think anything is wrong with it.
2006-09-13 15:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so, it all depends on how close is close, u kno? If you've been close for a considerable time before he got married, i doubt it should be a problem...but you must think too, even though you are best friends, your relationship with him shouldn't overshadow his marriage. Especially since his place is with his wife...but that doesn't mean that you should change whatever it is that you're doing, as long as it doesn't make a strain on his relationship, because then he'll catch it of its outta line...
2006-09-13 15:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just being plain FRIENDS, there's nothing wrong with that. But if you two go out on a date and you'll think there's nothing wrong that because "you are JUST friends and both of you know your limits" then you are mistaken. If you are really are friends, you should be his wife's friend too. They are married. They are ONE. So what the husband has, the wife has it too, and vice versa.
2006-09-13 16:39:49 · answer #4 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK for the single woman, OK for the married man................. NOT OK with the man's wife. Even if it is innocent, the wife may feel threatened, especially with the single woman being younger............and there is always the possibility that it could turn into more. Why tempt the old man and piss of his wife??????
Think about it................Put yourself in the wife's place and get in touch with how you would feel in that circumstance.
They say what goes around comes around...............wouldn't you hate to see yourself in her situation in 30 years??
2006-09-13 15:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong if you are referring the closeness as being friends. Know what? this is the same situation wherein thousands and thousands of close friends have fallen into traps and was not able to resist the urging passion of temptation. The best way to escape temptation is to avoid it and run away from it and RESIST IT AND NOT TO WELCOME IT. Don't be overconfident, even the godly people are vulnerable to temptation.ACT NOW BEFORE ITS TOO LATE. RUN SAMSON RUN
2006-09-13 15:29:00 · answer #6 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want a guy to have a relationship with you even if you are happily married. Do you find that you are cheating your husband then? Everyone likes to be loved and to love. But there is always a limit to everything you can do. It projects your inner self, character and responsibilites to everyone around you. My answer is 'don't do it even if there is no string attached'
2006-09-13 15:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If the wife is ok with the friendship and no lines are crossed.
2006-09-13 15:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by Monte P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not ok if you have to ask people if it's ok... ~busted~
I kid, I kid... It's fine, I have a thing for older friends, therefore I have a lot of friends who are married and all. Most of them look after me like I'm their daughter, it's just a kewl friendship. Absolutely nothing wrong with it.
2006-09-13 15:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by djkay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is okay, but that isn't going to set his wife's mind at ease. There is nothing wrong with the friendship, but I wouldn't be surprised if he might decide to distance himself from the friendship so as not to worry his wife. Her feelings will be a priority to him.
2006-09-13 15:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What matters is what his wife thinks about it. If she is not ok with it then you shouldn't do it. If he does not respect the views of the woman he CHOSE to marry, then he is not much of a man to begin with.
2006-09-13 15:23:14 · answer #11 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋