Crazy child support & alimony situation, any advice?

Question

Here's the situation: A husband and wife's marriage took a turn for the worst very quickly. Problem is, the wife got pregnant back in January (DNA test will follow later) and husband wants to have divorce settled by the time the baby is born (which will be sometime in late October). The wife has been stalling and making threats and trying to reverse things, but the husband met someone special to him two months ago and is now extra motivated and prepared to start over......still, he wants to make sure his wife and most importantly, his son, will be taken care of.

In dealing with child support and alimony, does it make a difference whther the child is born before or after the divorce? Can the wife benefit if she and him are still married during the birth? In this case, the husband is at fault because he has started a relationship with someone new, but the wife's character is truly terrible and she often makes death threats and refers to the unborn baby negatively. She wants $!

Wow, thanks....you guys are super supportive and understanding. The situation is definitely not a simple one, but I guess life can be crazy and we all just need some help from others. Yeah, I will tell him to stop brushing off the death threats because although she is emotional right now, she knows very well what she's saying and doing. She's made very direct threats to the "special" person that came into the picture as well.

I used to be kinda judgemental about men and divorces, but now I have a chance to see how things develop from the other side, and it's taught me a lot about relationships and messy situations. Again, thanks for being supportive and helpful without jumping to conclusions! The main concern is the unborn baby and hopefully having everyone left with something to hang on to.

Hey Hermit...I know, it does sound dramatic!

Answer 1

If the child is his it won't make a difference. To get alimony or extra money you usually have to be married several years. She won;t get anymore if they're married or not.

Answer 2

Well let's go backwards with this one. He got himself in a pickle that is for sure. First of all moving on is great as long as you do not foget about the kids. You might not love your wife anymore but the kids are another ball game. She maybe what you say but she is bitter and mad at him for what has happen to them. She is about to have a baby and he will not be there like he use to be. Child support happens when you are divorced no matter what. There is no money paid until a judge says so. He will base it on his pay and how many children. She does not decide the judge does.

Answer 3

It doesn't make any difference whether it is before divorce or after. I will tell you that he is going to pay thru the nose, especially if she doens't work and it was his decision to leave. I would make sure he records every threat and report them to the police this might give him a little leverage showing that she is only dealing with half a deck. Better him than I .

Answer 4

I would think that the judge would take everything into consideration. It varries from state to state, but I think she'll get about half of what they own.

If I were him, I would put that new relationship on hold for a while until the smoke settles down. You never know what strange things may happen.

Answer 5

Nope, she will not benefit from waiting & it will not make a difference. If shes making death threats though, seriously i would report you, whether you think shes serious or not. Either way it will teach her a lesson.

Answer 6

Is the script for a Bollywood movie? All it needs is a couple of dances and songs.