well I know this guy for a week and I really like him and he like's me too he asked me out but i don't have an answer yet so what do u guys think i should do ? i never felt this way for someone before (by the way I'm 14 so u guys know) and tell me what to do
2006-09-13 15:06:04 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I say go out with him, if he's really a drag you never have to go again, right? But, why waist a bunch of time before you find this fact out?
2006-09-13 15:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
14 is much too young to say yes to sex if that is your question. Far too often after a mistake and the baby's on the way the guy is considered a stud by hi peers, and the girl a slut by hers, and it's wrong.
Dating at this stage is really too young, but most will do it, so date responsibly, and wait on sex. After a week you don't know anyone yet, much less enough to have sex with. He doesn't care a lot or he would not even ask.He's young and hopefully wants an education which is hard to get with child support(yep 14 years old can now plan on paying back child support after them get their first job or any other kind of income, inheritance; The free ride is over). You play you pay rule is in effect.But every thing he wants you also want.and need. Your education, family, teen life, friends, school fun, and friends are as important to you as him. If however an accident happens it's the girl who suffers most.
Be smart, be safe. If you are going to have sex(and thousands of 14 year olds will tonite) regardless be sure to have your own birth control and make him have his also. If he says rubbers cramp his style dump him fast , and ask him if his hand is cramped and if not to use it.
Before you are 20 you'll feel this way many times , sometimes for a while and sometimes a short time so count this as experience with the other sex.
Your best bet is to wait until you are grown up
2006-09-13 22:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No 14 year old is going to end up with the guy she's with. Know that dating early will just be a lot of tears and heartache for the girl and nothing more than somehting to talk about for the boy. A girl goes into it with emotion ("I've never felt like this before"), but to a guy it's just a sport. save yourself the heartaches and other more serious problems of relationships until you're 18 and even then don't have a boyfriend just meet and date guys so you can learn what you want and/or don't like in guys. Believe me you won't miss anything but drama and if you want some drama, just watch your friends get their hearts brken and think" I'm glad it's not me". Also I totally agree with the guy that said that he'll think less of you if he gets you. If you really like him, then stay his friend, that way you'll never break up!
2006-09-13 22:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ur hormone's I know u dont believe it but I was there once already n I didnt give in and then we only lasted a few monthes. So it wouldnt have been worth it. Plus if u do have sex what if u get pregnant from the guy or u get an STD. It is much safer to wait. If he really loves u he will wait. He doesnt have to understand he just has to respect you. I doubt he will after he gets what he thinks he wants. Everyone says SEX IS GREAT! But its not if u dont have a connection. U dont get that in a week.
2006-09-13 22:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by Cassandra D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it bad to say yes?...no it's not bad if you are only talking about dating.
If you are talking about liking him so much that you give in to him physically soon after a first date then... Yes it's bad
Is it dumb to say yes? Absolutely Yes! Your first time should be when you are in a committed long term relationship... If you do it now, you will forever regret having done so. Save it for the man that will cherish it for the rest of his life.....
So remember dating is not a long term relationship... Say yes to a social life...Say no to a sex life! Also remember that 99%+ of all boys think sex is a part of dating... Don't ever let a boy pressure you...
Sorry this is the daddy part coming out...
2006-09-13 22:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by john s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just a bit young sweety. It is cool to just keep it in chill mode with him but don't allow anything to grow between you to. At 14, I would talk to guys on very plutonic levels..no funny business. Boys at the age want the same thing as men twice their age...and they are the masters of disguises. Besides, you don't need to be taking the risks of a broken heart to so early in your lifetime...just have fun but make him not so much of a big deal. Just chill...in the meantime, enjoy being so young and under 18 while you can.
2006-09-13 22:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by wearyblossom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One week is not enough to know all about him.Take more time to say yes.I think right now is not the moment.You need to know him better.Remember when some men say lets go out,really mean to have sex.Talking with your parents will help you.Estas muy joven para tener Una cita(date),con UN hombre.Puedes hablar con tus padres y amigos DE verdad,Que Te ayuden.Good luck.
2006-09-13 22:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 14 yr. old son has several girls who like him - he usually has phone numbers on his arm after school - he is not serious & refuses to ask a girl "out" cuz he wants to enjoy himself & just hang with his friends - little girl - you'd be smart to do the same thing! I asked him & he said, don't "go out," just be yourself & have fun - go out w/friends in a group! Don't be pressured by friends who need a guy to make them feel good about themselves - you're too special for that. Someday - you'll be ready to date the right guy! chill & have fun.
2006-09-13 22:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Forever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I waited till I was at least 16. I did go to movies and rollerskating before 16 though.
Don't do anything you think you might regret.
2006-09-13 22:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you in high school yet? you probably haven't felt that way before because you're starting to mature and what not. you should consider your parents thoughts about this. its probably just a crush type thing so its not a big deal either way.
2006-09-13 22:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋