i was at a party like 2 or 3 weeks ago and we were playing spin the bottle (stupid) and i had to kiss this guy but then, my long-term friend that i use to have a crush on, said to him, "if u dont want to kiss her, i'll kiss her for you". But when i really had to kiss my long-term friend the next time (he kissed me first) i felt something strong inside of me, like my heart was pounding...? But the big problem is that i really dont know if he likes me or not or, if i like him or not. Besides he has a girlfriend...but everytime, he keeps on making this strange look at me...What do you guys think about this problem? I use to like him.....are my feelings coming back to me?
but dont think wrong guys! it was just a friend kiss!!! A couple of other people had girlfriends/boyfriends too. Just a friend kiss. besides it was a game u had to do it!
2006-09-13 14:52:51 · 17 answers · asked by Fck! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it was a mouth to mouth kiss ( a smack) and no his girl wasn't there. Now that i thought of it, i wont do anything at all. I dont like breaking other peoples hearts...thanks guys, for your advice...
2006-09-13 16:34:29 · update #1
it seems a friendly affair.
2006-09-13 14:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend kiss? You mean, a kiss in the cheek? Or an actual kiss in the mouth? Or perhaps a french kiss? He's your long-term friend. I don't know how exactly was your friendship like before this happened. According to your story, seems like there's a bit of chemistry in each other. If you say he keeps giving you these looks as telling you he really likes you, perhaps you're right...there might be something inside him for you. I'm sure he has a girlfriend, but that doesn't mean anything when you really like someone else.
Although I do advice you to let him be. Let him be with his girlfriend. You should not do anything to interfere with their love at this time because you will lose both their trust. Give it time and don't rush it. If you feel something for him, keep it, telling him will jeopardize things. The best thing you can do right now is to find someone else you can be with, and still be friends with your friend, this way, there's no harm. Good luck.
2006-09-13 14:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if there were not a 3rd party (girlfriend) involved, it would not be as big a deal as it is now. First, HE had no business putting himself in that situation since there is the risk of this outcome and it is wrong against the signifigant other. Second, I think that you need to find out what is on his mind. Make sure the two of you are on the same page about the situation and if there are feelings on both sides then he has a choice to make. I think no other solution would be fair to the other person involved. He can not be true to her if he has feelings for you and if he doesn't then at least you will know so that you can get out from under the stress this situation has caused you and go on to what ever is next and even, likely, save your friendship with him in the process. At the very least, if you are uncomfortable about the situation and what occured then if he is a true friend then you should be able to address this issue with him and both of you be open and honest and clear it up together.
Ok, there it is. Good luck!
2006-09-13 15:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, its not a game you "Had" to do, peer pressure is a ***** isn't it? lol
Second of all, one of you needs to make the initial move. so best thing to do is open your heart up to him.
if hes a Friend, he'll understand.
if hes not a friend, he'll say bye.
As young as you sound, I'll tell you this right now.
Its very unlikely he will stay with his current girlfriend and marry her.
and its very unlikely that if he went out with you, he would marry you..
if your 16, theres only about a 30/70 chance he's "The one".. 30 percent he is, 70 percent hes not.
BUT.. better to take the chance then to be 80 years old and say "I wonder how it would of been with so and so.."
So get some guts, suck it up, and tell him.. its not the end of the world ya know, and if he's really a good friend, it won't change anything.. besides who knows. he might like you or even love you..
2006-09-13 14:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your last statement...It was just a friend kiss! You have just answered your own ? Any time your are asked to do something outta the norm type thing your heart pounds! That will be there regurdless...next step is to be patient and wait for that feeling to be right and come along for the taking and take that to your full advantage and treat it with respect, love and kindness. Games are played by players. They all seek to win.
2006-09-13 15:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by ylohstr1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like maybe ur feelings are coming back. what i find interesting is the fact that ur long term friend said, "if you don't want to kiss her, i'll kiss her for u", while his girlfriend was there which i a kind of risky move for a guy cause it sounds like if he wasn't attached that he likes you so maybe he does and that was a hint. i would wait and see what happens between him and his girlfriend and if you start having feelings for him again then go for it and tell him
2006-09-13 14:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is looking at you strange...maybe he feels the same as you. Now, he has a GF, so you need to think about this, it could break them up. I would suggest maybe talking to him alone.....in a nice way, ask him about this. If he is a good friend..you two can work it out.
2006-09-13 14:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by Firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to assert this yet, he isnt that kinda guy that advantages a particular or sturdy lady like you. Hes completely searching for bitches. Cuz whos except bitches that hug a boy and with no reason? i imagine u might want to bypass on. yet at the same time, even as he hugs(if he did) in basic terms tell him what you sense precisely! And about that hes a playboy, u might want to substitute him if he fairly loved you :).. so leave HIM OR WAIT ;)
2016-11-26 22:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a g/f ..... may b good to ask her what she feels first. N better not to break her heart as well as breaking your own soon - mayb totally let him go now?
2006-09-13 14:59:02 · answer #9 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that if you had that feeling you need to go with it.
Sometimes that feeling is the same on both sides. How will you know unless you ask.
2006-09-13 15:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find someone that gives you feelings from kissing. Keep him close by.
2006-09-13 15:00:14 · answer #11 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋