my wife of 10yrs left me and said she would not come back she left our son and hasnt tryed to call should i try and start dating again or wait for her she said she still loved me but it was time to move on how should i take this i have already changed the problems i had and i am working hard to keep hope.i dont know what to do
2006-09-13 14:45:51 · 15 answers · asked by eddie w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my wife took her daghter 11 and left me my son 5.she said it would have been too hard for me to lose all of them and i love her with all my heart.i just cant take being alone right now i dont want to take her back she has cheated 5 times in 2 yrs and i dont want to do that again im just scared she might come back and i wouldnt have the strenght to say no she is my 1 weakness in life.
2006-09-13 15:10:56 · update #1
You and your son deserve much better, she will come running back once she realizes what shes left behind. But will it happen again? Move on and find a woman thats going to love your family.
2006-09-13 14:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever the problem that you and her had. the child should had not been in the middle of it. No matter if it was about him or not. She should not left the child, because of those reason.
Then again, you may have a custody battle on your hands too. Thats why she is straighten up from what she is doing now. What the problem was between ya'll, we don't know.
But just two weeks seem too fast on my part. You have all thse emotions, and everytyhing clouded your judgement. Then again, you wanted it to happen this way. May you wanted to end it as well, so you can go fishing again for another woman.
If I was you, I would wait. One woman walk out on her child, it not the right time to start bringing different women home in front of him either.
2006-09-13 22:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a hard thing. I would have to say that you might think your ready to date and get back on the horse. But give it awhile. It sounds like your still in shock. Don't add more people into the situation. Plus I'm sure your son is a little confused. Normally I would tell you to go and start to date. But it's only been 2 weeks, so just give it a little time. Then you will know what to do. Don't rush into anything. Trust me.
2006-09-13 21:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Who is right. You say, "i have already changed the problems i had." But can you really do that in two weeks?
And what about your son? Ask yourself if two weeks is too soon for HIM. Isn't he part of this, too?
Even if you want to move on now, take some time and be on your own. That's more fair to you, your son and the next person you make part of your lives.
2006-09-13 21:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying wait for her, but I'm not saying you should instantly jump into the dating scene again.
It sounds like you need to work through what it was that caused the demise of your marriage (I'm not pointing fingers either).
You have to look deep within yourself and decide if the marriage is worth saving, if she would decide to return.
You also need to strongly consider counseling, with or without her. Not to mention your son, who has to be seriously hurt by this, even if he isn't displaying it.
Two weeks after 10 years of being with someone is a very short period of time.
Why not take some time out for yourself? Even if you decide you do not wish to take her back and to move forward with your son, there is nothing wrong with rediscovering the person you are, and making amends with what happened, before seeking out another relationship.
Good luck to you and your son.
2006-09-13 22:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by eedoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old your son is but if he is a minor why would you start dating and take time away from a child that has been abandoned by one parent already?
It may sound harsh but frankly I couldn't care less about your love life, however I do care a great deal how your child is cared for.
2006-09-13 21:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your wife left you and you deserve to go out and start dating no matter what now,but I would give my self some time just for me and not rush into anything,no reason just a break and have a breather and get myself together for myself and my son.
2006-09-13 21:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself - do you have anything inside to offer anyone right now? I have been divorced for two months after only a 3 month separation. My ex cheated on me. I personaly have nothing inside to give right now. Focus on you and your kids - that is what I am doing. When you are ready you will know.
2006-09-13 23:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never too soon to move on. Whether you start dating again or not, it's your choice - but moing on is definitely in order. If she wanted to stay and work on things, she would not have left like that. Good luck.
2006-09-13 21:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 weeks
by that time i am on my next EX
2 week is way too long
i'ld give it 1 day.. and even then that's pushing it...
move on.. thee is so much life and women out there
why waste it on someone who doesn't really care ?
2006-09-13 21:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋