We have been together for about three weeks and we cannot get enough of each other literally
I am starting to feel overwhelmed and feel like I need my space. She has been staying in my apartment for the past three weeks. I haven’t been getting a full night sleep since then. I am exhausted everyday at work. I am getting off my study, workout/ martial art routines etc. What is the best way to go about this? Should we try managing our time better together (should I suggest this to her) or should I just tell her I need space? I know we are equally guilty in this one, but someone has to take action….
2006-09-13 14:37:59 · 5 answers · asked by AtypicalHaitian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know how it feels to want to be with that person all the time. Hehe. You need to talk with her about it and together you could manage it better. If you tell her that you need space, she might misunderstand your intentions and you could be in a deeper problem. Tell her how exhausted your are and you're behind on you study, ask her if she got the same problem with you (it's likely that she has but too in love to admit it herself), then both of you should think what's the best way to solve this. That way, it's both of you's problem, not yours only. She's not the problem, managing time is. Of course you have to tell her afterwards that you still want to spend time with her and you'll miss her if you less see her but it might be good to miss each other. Good luck.
2006-09-13 15:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by Akai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question...There are smart guys out there after all! First lets step back and acess the situation! She's been "staying" in your apartment for 3 ? three, weeks??? Yikes !!! It sounds like she's moved in to me! Truth... she stayed there because YOU LET HER! SO, lets see--- you probably had grrrrreat sex and now you're realizing ya want your regular life back..your regular routine where you took care of "you" right? Studying to make yourself a better person...working out--- doing your martial arts to have a strong body and a disciplined mind... The best way to go about this, ( in my humble Opinion)... Be honest--- have a talk away from your apartment--- tell her this has moved really too fast for you. You've enjoyed the time you spent together, you like her, care for her, (whatever the truth is) but you can't continue with the realtionship the way it is. Tell you YOU need YOUR space and that she cannot continue to stay with you. If she has a living arrangement problem, that is HER problem. Offer to help but not in the way that you share YOUR space. REPEAT...YOU NEED YOUR SPACE! Seperate--- then when you get back into your grove and are happy again with your life... revisit the realtionship and where you want it to go if you want to continue seeing eachother. Right now it sounds like you're trying to seperate and stop the sex, ( which can be the most powerful drug to with draw from ) but you need to seperate /withdraw to--- see and feel what this gal means to you. Claim your space, claim victory ! "IF", she doesn't understand and or reacts badly that 's going to tell you something about her isn't it? Move quickly, each time you have sex with her "Could" be the time you get her pregnant ! And just think how tirerd you'll be and how little time you'll have for studying & martial arts if she gets pregnant and you get married and have to get a second job, etc, etc...act now! Good luck!! Sincerely....
2006-09-13 22:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is too fast and yes education is a must
also self morals. We tend to go from one person to the next.
Put some Jesus in your life make a few changes
and blessings are sure to come upon you
And yes space is important in all relationships
Just do the right thing
I wish you the very best life has to offer
may you both become prosperous people
2006-09-13 21:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Queen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely, she's feeling the same thing. If you don't have time, I'm sure she doesn't either.
You definitely need to talk with her about it, but I wouldn't use the phrase "need my space"... typically that has a bad connotation. Assuming you still want to see her, along with the other things you used to do... tell her that. I'm sure she's getting behind in her things also.
Good luck!
2006-09-13 23:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that! You need to tell her that. Exactly what you are feeling, and she may be feeling it too. In order to have a good relationship, you have to have time for yourself and the same for her. Good luck with this one!
2006-09-13 21:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋