I am 16 years old and I have a 5 year old brother and I like kinda take care of him like a mother. Because I pick him up from the bus stop I make sure he does homework...I make sure he brushes his teeth goes to sleep on time ect....But, Even tho I do all that my family doesn't trust me. My brother would make things up that I did to him and I would get into trouble. Even tho I didn't do it! They always beileve him. And they will never beileve me. I was never like trusted. EVER! And I just get soo frustrated I just go in my room and cry for a while. I HATE it. I get all a's and b's in school too! I am good and do everything my mom tell's me to do. I also take care of our dog. How can I get my mom to trust me and beileve me. I also, like clean the whole house too. And for example today I was washing my brother in the shower and he slipped and fell and when he got out he blamed me and now my mom won't take me shopping tomorrow and i really need some new school clothes. please help! ^_^
2006-09-13 14:30:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
And I have tried talking to her about it but, it doesn't help at all....And she kinda treats me like a slave.
2006-09-13 14:38:08 · update #1
I just wonder is she your real mother or step mother.Most of the step mothers act this way and it is not normal in real mothers.Well,you seems like a diciplined teenager and first thing you need to do is find a part time job.Your mom needs to know your importance.That is "AN IMPORTANCE OF A THING IS FELT IN ITS ABSCENCE".She may threaten you that she is not going to support you,take it easy and by the way do you have a father to talk to.Most of the girls are daddys girls and he may listen to you.Try this and grow up girl.Dont complain that she is not going to take you for shopping and demand what you need for school and its their duty to buy you school uniform.Most girls of your age will be flirting with boys and you are doing house chores.Where in the world are you, this is 21 century.Try to make good friends and hang out with them i mean good company.Good luck girl.
2006-09-14 02:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by nagajyothi n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are a well rounded individual. Maybe it's time to give your mother some tough love. Explain to her that being 16 it's time to find a part time job. You should have no trouble finding one. And with you not there to help with HER 5 year old child, she will notice that you have been doing her a tremendous service as well as saving her alot of money. On the one hand you will remind her what it's like to look after a 5 year old at that time of the day. And the benifit of getting a job, you yourself can buy your own clothes. That may be just the thing to tell your mom if she has a hard time letting you get a job.
2006-09-13 21:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by gimaqt8 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is use what you know, meaning if she continues to treat you this way set up a meeting with your guidance counselor at school and have a meeting with your mother set up eventually and that way the counselor can be the mediator. Then you tell your mom what is on your mind and if she still doesn't listen, find a grandparent or someone who would take you in and announce that you are moving out because she treats you like you do everything wrong and treats your brother like an angel even though his age demographic are some of the worst acting because they are allowed to get away with it because they are cute!
2006-09-13 21:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by mya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sure is a downer. One reason your parents may have a hard time trusting you is becasue of your persona you portray around the house whether you notice it or not. Be careful of what kind of emotions or faces you show your family. My family sometimes think that I'm ungrateful or i'm sarcastic but i'm always genuine it just it gets mixed up in translation somtimes.
Also in a non-nagging/sarcastic tone let your parents know, what you do to help.
2006-09-13 21:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by blondie4evr2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask why your parents believe him more than you. They should treat you two equally. Also, start teaching your brother not to lie. They might believe him more because he's younger, and that would not be a very good excuse for them. If he lies, try to prove you are telling the truth. That's all I can say right now.
2006-09-13 22:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kenneth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop doing all that stuff, let ur mom take care of it. get good grades but dont worry about all that mom stuff. just be a teenager and she might get the point. y do something that is causing problems. if she doesnt want to listen to u then let her take resposiblility for her family
2006-09-13 22:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by jordanthegrouch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 older siblings and a twin and 4 younger siblings. difference between me and you is im not responsible at all. what i would do in your situation is sit down with your mom and talk to her really softly. or record you and your brother so she'll know when you do something. its also something you will just have to deal with.
2006-09-13 21:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that you do alot of things to make her life a little bit easier. tell her that u deserve to go shopping because u are a good student, good daughter and good sister. i mean what else can a parent ask for.
2006-09-13 21:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by veli0407 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking with your Mom. If she doesn't believe you then I would tell her you don't want to help out with your brother anymore or be alone with him.
2006-09-13 21:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by mommy@18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with your mom. And try to use a little less drama with her. I have 2 teen daughters.
2006-09-14 04:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by blank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋