He is in the military and I cannot talk to him for a week to ask him what this is all about. The person says they miss him and has left a phone number for him to call them.
2006-09-13 14:26:15 · 37 answers · asked by Dolphin73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For those that were only concerned about why I read his e-mail: he gave me the password and permission a long time ago. I am really hoping this is not what it seems and I want to give him the benefit of the doubt.
2006-09-13 15:12:04 · update #1
I did send an e-mail right away saying that I am his wife and that there is NO reason for that person to be sending my husband e-mails like this. I also told them to stop writing my husband and that if they did not know he was married, they know now and told them to get lost.
2006-09-13 15:14:08 · update #2
If he has not received it i am sure it will wait till he returns!
2006-09-13 14:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look up the phone number. www.intellius.com and see who it is. I would so some spy-girl research and find out what's up. It could be a scam, a wrong address (I have gotten two emails in the last 6 months from people who had the wrong address), or an overzealous, yet desperate admirer. My BF gets those on a regular basis through his work email that is public. Give him the benefit of the doubt, but do investigate. If you don't like what you find, call the number under the premise that you handle your husband's affairs (not a pun) while he is on duty and inquire as to how you might assist this person. Just remain calm. I hope it all turns out OK for you.
2006-09-13 14:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by knowledgeisgood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you but reading what you just wrote makes me furious at him an her,Ok this is what I would do ,I would write back as if he got her e-mail an tell her to call you ,then I would tell her he is not in right now but your his wife an would be glad to tell him to call her back!! Then for as him wait until he comes home an sit back and see if he acts nervous because if he does then if she has been having a affair with him she will contact him to let him know what you have done an just sit an watch how he reacts to you when he comes home,if he don't seem like she has called him an let him in on this then I would print out the letter an save it and confront him an if he wants to lie then tell him to tell the truth because your considering taking it to his higher up in military an I know from a friend of mine this happned to the military will call him down on this one especially if you have proof so hide the printed out letter. Hopefully this is not true an maybe a mistaken e-mail from someone but in the event it is not then you have a problem with a adultreous husband .I can't stomach people that are so sneaky that they think they can just go out an mess around on thier wives or husbands . It is sickning to me because actually I have divorced because of adultery! I tried to hear the I'm sorry story an stayed with him for a year but I never trusted him an the love went right out of the window because of mistrust!
2006-09-13 15:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by SANDY G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 40 year old married man of 7 years. Sound like your husband has had previous contact with this woman before if she says she misses him. If you don't know this woman, and your husband has never mentioned her, then I would be concerned. What you should have done was e mailed her back acting like you were him and get as much info out of her as possible and then wait for your husband to come home to confront him with all the information you found out.
2006-09-13 15:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like a "RED FLAG" situation. Infidelity is a real problem. Approximately, 30 to 60% of all married people will be unfaithful at some point during their marriage, and affairs are even more common among people who are just dating.
Not only is infidelity quite common, but more often than not, it goes undetected or unproven. On the other hand, most people would like to know the truth: Is my spouse cheating?
This is one of the clear signs that he has been "cheating" in some form or another. The fact that he got this email and she "misses" him and he can "call" should send signals that he is cheating or will be very soon. I would confront him with tact and diplomacy - no ultimatums, let him know that you know about this email; also it wouldn't hurt to call the phone number and state that you are his wife, I'm sure she doesn't even know hes married. Good Luck!
2006-09-13 14:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by sandrawiltzen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation. It could just be a "companion" while he is away..BUT, I would get the number and call. I would base whether or not I confronted the husband on how the conversation goes. It could be many things..she may not know he is married..SHE may be psychotic and after a man in uniform..but one peice of advice I would give you, is that if there IS a relationship bwtween the two of them, get out while you can..my ex had an online affair that turned into a one night stand..I wasted 13 months in couseling, just for him to do it to me and our daughters..AGAIN
2006-09-13 14:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by heandI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what it's all about. Your husband just lost all email, Internet, and computer privileges, period. No exceptions, end of discussion. Only catch: no double standards; you gotta do without the same. Bye bye cable modem. Emotional infidelity is very dangerous, lethal stuff. If you want to protect and nurture your marriage, it's time to cancel the Internet access. If your husband has nothing to hide, he won't have a problem making your relationship a priority.
2006-09-13 14:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by Madji 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh oh.
Maybe it's spam?
EDIT:
I think your approach is fine. Don't sweat it, just talk to your husband when you can...but face to face is the best. If he knows you read his e-mail, I highly doubt he would set up contacts with extras through that account...and some girls are relentless.
Ask your husband when you can to see if he can get that person blocked.
I agree about spouses reading emails...my wife and I have access to the others account. There should be no secrecy between spouses.
Except mine doesn't know I spend so much time on Yahoo Answers! oh, I do feel guilty!
2006-09-13 14:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by powhound 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
rattling it is long! What the heck did this female do? I fascinated! this might take a minute................ ok i'm on the 4th paragraph and that i ought to remark now. She needs him!!!!!!!! She's unhappy that she will't spend time with him on my own? She does not very own him. What the hell is incorrect along with her? Your husband of course does not pick to spend time along with her like that. ok persevering with now......... Wow, she needs your marriage to interrupt up............. That bi*)&! Sorry. =) i won't be in a position to stand persons that want undesirable success on human beings................ solid job! the only persons that ought to be on your marriage are you and your husband! From her mom? ok, this is going too a strategies! How previous are you adult males? So immature. What? Will her mom spank him for not wanting to be friends? tell her to boost up. Jeez! i'm getting it. They have been friends in HS. maximum persons proceed to be lifelong friends yet they don't spend all there time mutually or positioned their 2 cents into someones marriage while they are actually not asked (nicely the sane ones) lol. you acquire it. i became rather plenty to declare she acts like she owns him. i think of I reported that already. Yeah. There are a lot of movies like this. i won't be in a position to bear in ideas the call of one I observed those days. Darn it. it quite isn't significant. This chick desires to settle for the obstacles that are despatched up. have you ever had touch along with her considering that? Has she look on your place unannounced? Does she save calling and leaving many messages interior of hours? What has your husband performed to provide up this? Has he informed her to back down? If he did and she or he remains bothering you, get a restraining order. Nope not this severe. My father's misstress/stalker took the hint while my mom went off on her and she or he not at all stricken us returned! solid success to you. P.S. If she bothers you returned, ask this question on yahoo solutions: "Does all people understand of an murderer and that i will come runnin' LOL JK
2016-10-14 23:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by lander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a bunch of answers!
He is probably having all sorts of cybersex and emailing, Gee, half of the female troops in Iraq are knocked up. Have a friend call her up and find out who she is, protending that she got the list of family in the military. Hes goona come home and hes gonna lie
as the saying goes: " are you gonna believe me or your lying eyes?"
2006-09-13 15:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respond to them, email and phone, and find out who they are and what they think they are doing. Say hello this is his wife, you best be stepping off now. I wouldn't accuse him of anything but I would ask about it ASAP. Possibly he meets women on the net but he may be surfing porn sights and getting spam for phone sex etc. In that case you need to talk to him about being a naive idiot. Keep that one on a short leash if you want to keep him at all.
2006-09-13 14:28:16 · answer #11 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋