im IN LOVE with my boyfriend that has now been in jail for 7 months and i would just give my life for him..really. im starting to hear alotta messed up things he used to do behind my back with other girls and he even has other girls writting to him while he's in jail. should i just let the relationship fall or believe his promises of being a better person when he gets out. please dont judge me and tell me why im with him and how stupid i am. he is DEEPLY in luv with me and i know that 4 a fact..should i break up with him?? plz help me am i making a mistake??
2006-09-13 14:26:04 · 10 answers · asked by NuTz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im not going to tell you that this cant work. But im willing to bet that it will not unfold the way that you hope. Of course he says things like that. He is in jail. What else is there to do in jail? You can cut ties with him, and if he does want to change, he can do it without you. That would be real change. He would have to do it on his own. Guys in jail tend to want to have something set up for when they get out. After which they tend to move to the next thing, and the next. The first one they go to will be the one they feel they can control easiest.He has other girls writing to him?
What is the deal with girls wanting guys that will most likely do no good for them? My advice is move on. You both can be happy without each other, and will be stronger having done so.
I think that you know the answer, and asking is just your way of trying to figure out a way out, one way or another.
2006-09-13 14:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by vanman8u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simpler than it looks. In life we simply make choices and those choices set us in a direction. He's in jail. Maybe he'll be a better person and you should hope so. However, he obviously makes bad decisions and the odds are that he will continue to do that. If you pick him then you are picking your direction. If you truly want to make something of your life, staying with him is likely a big mistake. Maybe you can save him but more likely, he'll bring you down in the long run. Associate yourself with individuals who have demonstrated that they're trying to live their lives to the benefit of others and not at their expense. It's your life and you only live it once. And it's all based on the choices that you will make. You're asking the question because you already hear your intuition telling you to get out of the relationship. That voice is from the spiritual side and it's trying to tell you to move on with your life. You can do what you know is best or you can follow your hormones and go down with him in more ways than one.
2006-09-13 15:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you believe that he is deeply in love with you, HOWEVER, if you are finding out that he is doing things behind your back, then there is no way that he is deeply in love with you! You have to open your eyes and see that someone who would do things that would hurt you like that, behind your back, doesn't love you. He is in JAIL! You deserve better than that. Don't feel sorry for him and stay with him. He's made his bed and is paying for it in jail. You don't deserve anything less than a great guy who isn't shady enough to go to jail AND there are other girls writing to him. I'll bet that there is at least one other girl that knows for a fact that he is deeply in love with them. Keep that in mind.
Sheesh. What's wrong with us women today? We don't love ourselves enough and don't think we deserve anything better. We do!
Break up with him, think of YOU first.
2006-09-13 14:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by J B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you ask for advice but then say "don't tell me how stupid I am" sounds to me you don't really want advice unless it is what you want to hear.
The truth is Love will come and go in everyones lifes...as an example my folks were divoriced after 25 years of a great marriage.. now my mom married again this time 35years so far. Learn that love is just a part of life not life it's self. If you care about your life don't mess it up with a bad man. There are many good men you can have true love with too... you just got to love yourself first. Sounds like you want to punish yourself and stay with a looser... what good can come of that?
2006-09-13 14:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by michael_lovin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's deeply in love with you then why is he replying other womans letters in jail and doing things with other woman behind your back? I think deep down you know the answer, it will be hard but you do deserve better.
2006-09-13 14:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 14 I met this guy I really did fall for him I loved him too death I never thought he could do me wrong I thought we would live happily ever after well the guy I was with for 4 years he was in and out of jail too I heard things about cheating,drugs,alcohol,parties I didn't listen and I got myself in trouble I still got engaged to him well I got pregnant he would stay out very late and I remember I always over looked things so when I turned 2 months pregnant we were about to get married well I ended up in the hospital ready to miscarry he ACTUALLY dumped me while I was in the hospital on our wedding day worst of all I about miscarried with our baby come to find out ALL those years people were right about everything I set myself up for a real heartbreak cause of all the stress my baby came early she was preemie she had heart surgery at 2 weeks old he NEVER was there for her and he still isn't get rid of this man before you end up in heartache like me I didn't listen to anything the evidence was right in front of my face and I knew in my heart things were going on but I ignored it please hun don't end up like me don't let your heart break I loved this man too and I never thought he would do me wrong he was in jail in and out in and out girls even wrote him behind my back I found them you will find someone better like I did don't get your heart broken you deserve a hell lot better then this and you need better then this
2006-09-13 18:12:55 · answer #6 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's he in jail for ? Could this possibly
give you some kinds clue ?
2006-09-13 14:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will be making a mistake if you wait for him, or see him, or write to him. This guy has no respect for you. If he has other women now, he will have other women when he gets out.
2006-09-13 14:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Break up with him. I think you are in love with love and not him. He sounds like a very unsavory character.
2006-09-13 14:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋