How can I manage to come over a break up?

Question

The man I was in love with broke up with me last year, but it's still very painful.. Any good advice from someone who experienced the same situation but now is just happy? Don't want to believe it's only a matter of time.. Want to do something, and restart living my life! Feel he's still in my heart, and am missing him and the person I was that time, but also know I have to go on, that's the past. It's hard, a lot! Still cry, I believed in that relationship as never before. Not sure it's possible to feel again something similar, that's sad. Neither I'm interested in looking for someone else at the moment: friends say often that a new mate would help, that the world is big and I can find someone even better than him.. could be true, but that's not the solution,m living a sort of grief since something (that relationship) I loved just died, and that means that won't enjoy it anymore.. need help from someone whom could understand what I feel from personal similar experience, and now is :D

Answer 1

Have sex with his best friend. Or his brother.

Answer 2

It happened to me before.. i know how it feels.. u think like he is the best man u could ever meet and life could be so much better if he is arround.. I cried dunno how many times 4 my ex, i also asked him to come back cause i felt lost with out him. And it happened, he said ok and we where 2gether again... MISTAKE!!! the relationship wasnt the same... he changed a lot and he wanted to go out w his friends all the time while i was at home alone... he was actting really bad and then i realized our relationship was over in the past 4 a reason. And i brokeup w him cause i started loving myself and i understood my happiness was first. So i learned think r great when they just happen but if u push them thing r not going to be ok. Be patient, i know it hurts and i know sometimes u feel alone. I know u wanna call him and u dream about he and u being together. But things happen 4 a reason and trust me... there is a reason for u to be alone. Try to do thinks that will make u happy, give urself love and respect. Go out, meet people, get a hobbie... just relax and wait... who knows and maybe there is someone waiting 4 u... but now is not the right time...so dont hurry, and dont push urself to stop crying, cause is not gonna happen. Give urself some time. Time will heal ur heart. Good luck!

Answer 3

There really isn't any set time to get over heartbreak. I was heartbroken for about three years and experienced the same things you're now going through. The thing is that even if you are still grieving, you must consciously decide to want to be over it and happy. Do whatever it takes for you to get over that hump. Meet other people, go out, experience new things, get preoccupied in a new hobby or a new passion. It may not solve the problem all at once but as the days pass, it will make a difference in your outlook and one day, you'll wake up and find that you're okay and that you've moved on.

If you don't have a pet dog, get one. Mine is my best non-human friend right now and he has really helped me heal.

Answer 4

It is always painful to break up. No good way exists to somebody out of your heart or mind. Time drags for something that does not happen and somebody that never Comes. Sometime you feel that you missed his call when phone rings and u do not get it on time. Do not despair, time eventually will heal u. The younger ur, the easier the process. Try to avoid contacting him, accept he just abandoned u, most likely for other woman. Do not force yourself to other relation. It will happens, and everything become just a remote memory. Time, patience, faith, u r still healthy, u have ur family, friends, all this life, u r not alone.

Answer 5

Find some hobbies, meet new people(not necessarily men). After I broke up with my ex- I started doing things that I had wanted to do, but didn't. All of a sudden I found I had a whole new life and was able to move on.

Pick up some of those contiuing education flyers from the local high school, start cooking, painting, quilting, woodoworking....do something.

Answer 6

Find yourself. Revisit an old hobby, or get a new one. Spend time with friends and family, or make some new friends.

Find yourself, and find out why there is such a large hole in you, that you think needs to be filled only with someone else. then find ways to fill it in--at least partially, so you don't feel so insecure, that you can't function well.

Take a class, get interested in SOMETHING that will better yourself.

Answer 7

omg u dont even know how u begin to decribe the way i was a year 1/2 ago. the same ting happened to me. i just could not get over him. i never dated and my friends go really worried but to tell you the truth you have just go to say strong and try not to think about him. keep your mind occupied about other things. hang out with friends and just do what u use to love to do. you first need to fix urself and that will take a long LONG time but u have to keep telling urself it will get better and it had to get better. i know all of this sounds corny and crazy but it worked for me. im with the man that i trully love (trust me it will feel different when you love some one and they really love you back) and he loves me and i just know it. not buy words but by actions. and it took me FOREVER to even say yes to this boy. then i was ready and i realized that the other one really didnot love me. then when you get their that is when you actually stop thinking of him not till that moment will you be trully over him. im happly engaged to the man that waited 3 years to date me. we have been together for 2 years. you just need to get all ur crys out then start going back to ur roots because belive it or not u where a real person befor him and u will be after him. good luck.

Answer 8

well my dear g\f passed away on me 4 years ago i still have her in my heart and always will i did not leave my house for a long time i got me a little dog a i\g that did a lot for me she rides on my Harley she gos with me all over and now i go out with See and i can see past my nose now it will be hard for a long time to come you want to may be get a pet to take of it will get a lot off your mind I'm still looking but time will come soon i am vary lonely to sorry for you good luck to you you will be OK soon i hope

Answer 9

i had the same experience, it feels like you'll never be happy...and everytime you hear their name, or think about them you just want them back...don't worry, you'll get over it. it just takes time, for me it took about 2 years ( i know that sounds pretty pathetic, but i really loved him) and even now when i see him i feel a little something, you just have to be strong and realize that there is someone else out there that will be perfect for you!

Answer 10

You are enjoying wallowing in your self-pity so much that it's become a habit.

Every time you start to think about him, push it out of your mind. Keep doing that until you are thinking of something else. Do something that requires all of your concentration.

Move on with your life. Or enjoy your pity party.

Make a choice.

Answer 11

The best thing you can do is to concentrate on moving ahead with your life. Try staying busy,don't allow yourself the time to regret your breakup. you will be surprised how easy it is to get over someone when you have your own life to worry about. Time does heal all wounds.