Ok here's the story. My sister is seperated from her husband and is raising their two children by herself. She has the kids all week, meaning monday through friday. On saturday, she has school all day and has no one to watch the kids. I can't because I'm in school too. So she asked him to just watch them in saturdays while she's in school, and he says "No. It's your problem. I need time to myself." Is he a selfish a s s, or is he just being a man? Opinions!
2006-09-13 13:59:20 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ps. Sorry for the men I offended. My last sentence wasn't right, but when that's all you see....
2006-09-13 14:25:15 · update #1
SELFISH SELFISH SELFISH.
He should not of help make them he if has no sense of Resposibility!!!!
2006-09-13 14:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by weirdgodess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not cool to say he is just being a "man"... I know plenty of men who are fantastic fathers, even if they aren't with the mothers.
Yes, he is a selfish jerk - and there isn't much she can do about it. HOWEVER, I seriously suggest she start a journal writing down all the time she offered to let him have the kids and he refused...because to be even more of a jerk during the divorce, he will probably fight for custody, because he can...and that will be a powerful tool against it. She needs to talk to a lawyer FAST and get an order from the court to force him to either take the kids, or have to provide financial support for their care...
In the meantime, she needs to either find a cheap day care, talk to other family members, see if any of her classmates have kids and what they do...see if ther are any seniors in the area that might be willing to watch the kids...or a responsible teenager.
2006-09-13 14:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too bad if he needs time to himself! He should've realized that before he had kids! Yes, he is being selfish and a terrible father. Most people would jump at the chance to spend time with their children, esp. since it doesn't seem like they have much interaction with him anymore. I don't know what to do to help your sis, but if possible, pay for a babysitter just for Saturday?? Or maybe have the kids go spend the day with friends, and explain to the other parents what is going on. They should be understanding.
2006-09-13 14:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by bunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's selfish. A lot of men believe that it's a woman's "job" to take care of the kids. My kid's father is the same. He acts like he's into equality but when he's pissed off he's like " well, you're lucky I'm even helping to take care of her, my mom never had any help and you should be grateful." He's an a s s, for sure.
2006-09-18 17:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I hope that all the men where you live arnt like that! Being a man as I am I take offense to that last part. All the guys I know would help out! I take care of my family as do all of my friends. Maybe she should move to a place where there isnt any dead beat dads like the one she found. Or maybe she just has horrible taste in guys.
2006-09-13 14:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by chris m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's a BIG A ss to be honest about it hell she raising the kids and have them everyday and he cant keep them for one day hell nawl ..i would take his a ss to court and ask for child surport and for daycare money since he cant watch them and she may jus have to pay someone to watch them so she can go to school..its a dayum shame that there are men out there that is like that but i wont say its a man thing its jus a dumb a ss thing
2006-09-13 14:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by mztampafin3st 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's being selfish. Tell her to call HIS mother and ask her to watch them. More than likely she will when she finds out why your sister needs the help. Then let his mother get on his case and spare your sister the headache of having to deal with him.
2006-09-13 14:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
selfish bas...being a man, no difference.
they should make a plan to meet each
others needs. He will not be 'sitting' hes
the dad. he did not divorce his kids.
guess we're in need of another million man march.
or a pop in the head.
2006-09-13 14:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by chupracabra'smama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is being selfish. He is not mature enough to take responsibility for his own children but maybe she really doesn't want them to be with him either.
2006-09-13 14:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is selfish. But maybe if he gets to know his baby better things will change. We cant rely on men.
2006-09-13 14:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he ever see the kids? there really isn't anything you can do abut it, you could try to take him to court and have the judge make him take them but this rarely works. He is an *** but like I said there is not a thing you can do to change it believe me I have been there.
2006-09-13 14:04:01 · answer #11 · answered by susan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋