A girl in my grade went to a wedding a few weeks ago with her family i from what she said someone put drugs in her drink so she couldnt remember anything from the night. So today she says she found out she was pregnant. With the exception of her best friends I was the first guy she told this to. She said that i was the only guy she knew who would have a practical understanding answer. She told her parents and they dont know who it might have been either. She also said when she has her baby she wants me to be the so called "Father Figure". What should i do to help her and what is the best way to help her?
2006-09-13 13:58:19 · 8 answers · asked by saintssuck51 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Keep being her friend through the pregnancy as best you can. Although it is clearly not your responsibility to help with the baby, you may find you get a lot of joy out of it. Also encourage her to involve as many people as possible in the process, so she does not come to over depend on you.
2006-09-13 14:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Tina K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's really sad ,I would be reluctant to go ahead with the pregnancy( I don't like abortion's but in this case ,she was a rape victim and deserves her life back)Look all you can do is be a good friend to her and see how it go's.She will have a hard time while pregnant and she will also have trouble bonding with the baby .I do know a girl who was the child of a rape and her mother never took to her ,she tried but it always came between them ,the only good thing in this is that she doesn't have the memory of the guys face ,its hard to except the child that looks like its father if you have been Thu a rape.If you can hang in there for a while till she sorts her self out that would be great and be like an uncle to the baby is fine but don't let her think it will be more than that unless you mean it,you cant be daddy unless you love her in that way,and at a later date she will move on and meet the right guy.
2006-09-13 14:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously it sounds like this girl is just trying to get you all tore up over her....Maybe trying to make you jealous. It is quite obvious that you like her and I think she knows that and is trying to manipulate you by making you think she was raped and is now pregnant. Does she have a history of being a "drama queen" or does she always demand everyone's attention be focused on her? Because she's probably making this up for attention. Ask her to take a pregnancy test and show it to you. Make sure you are there when she takes it so that she can't fake it. Typically you can't find out you are pregnant that soon after having sex.....so that makes me doubt her story is true. If she starts asking you for money then that's a dead giveaway that she's full of crap. If you have to...talk to her parents yourself. Tell them you are concerned about her...they probably don't even know she's telling people that crazy story.------another thing....people typically don't bring date rape drugs to weddings ....LOL....unless you live in West Virginia I suppose.....haha....Weddings are normally filled with trusted friends and relatives....so the fact that she supposedly got raped at a wedding is too ridiculous to be true....don't trust her as far as you can throw her is my advice....she wants attention and I wouldn't indulge her if I were you.
2006-09-14 17:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, now that you know that girls all want you to take care of the kid just because it's the right thing to do, now, here's the practical answer.
If you still refer to people as "in my grade," you're not ready to be a parent. Period. DON'T be the father figure. You don't need her coming to you and leaving a kid with you all the time just because you're a nice guy and want to do the right thing. I've seen how most teenage girls are with kids. They SUCK. Don't screw your life up with a kid unless you intend to be it's full-time father and marry this girl.
2006-09-13 14:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if I appear to be a little mistrusting about this you "be careful".
This girl who you go to school with went to a wedding with her family and they don't know anything.
I think the best way you can help her stay out of it .
All you owe her if she is a "trusted " friend is friendship.
Talk with your parents or a trusted adult if you are concerned.
Take care!
2006-09-13 14:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her with money a bit, but mostly with love. Do be a father figure. I feel bad for both of you. But the guy who medicated her drink should be arrested and should be at fault for the pregnancy. it will all be okay. You'll get through.
2006-09-13 14:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to find out who the man who did this to her is. they would have to provide child support and can go to jail.
as for you being a "father Figure" is very hard if your are not marriedt to her. maybe like an "uncle" or something but father figure is just to much to handle.
i no this isnt such a great help but it is a very hard desicion and can only be made by you.
sorry
2006-09-13 14:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing she needs to do is go the police and her parents should take her to the police department. next I think you should stay out of it you are in School and you don't need to worry about that kind of stuff. Please have her go to the police.
2006-09-13 14:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by fandj4ever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋