I don't know if I am straight, lesbian, bi...does it matter? I don't want people to talk, but I want to know who I am and be okay with it. Any suggestions?
2006-09-13 13:23:41 · 15 answers · asked by Jay 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
For as long as your happy with whom you are, I don't see how it matters.
2006-09-13 13:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah yes, the confused question, been there, oh wait still there hahaha.
Straight: You like only men, woman are friends, but you can not see yourself be married or loving a woman in a sexual way.
Bi: You can see yourself in all situations with either gender
Gay: You can only picture yourself happy with a woman, men may be friends but woman are your heart.
Its your own choice, don't let other people try to convince you other wise. Self discovery is part of life. Its okay to be confused, most people are. Just try to be yourself and hope for the best.
If you ever need to talk I'm always avaible.
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2006-09-13 20:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by Aub 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about labels so much. As long as you know your attractions and are ok with them that's what matters. A word some people are using that I really like now is "queer." You're basically saying that you're not 100% straight without having to get specific. If they want to know more and you're ok with describing your preference in depth, then tell them specifics. If you're questioning your preference, then just take some time to sort out your feelings.
2006-09-14 11:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jordan my dear it does not matter.
No labels please. I feel so sad for people that think it is a bug deal. Kiss those boys, kiss those girls, smile at the back stabbers and the talkers and give them the fuger becuase guess what: Anyone that talks bad about you is just gonna bring you down so you may as well let it start now. The sooner you find the people that will love you for you and befriend you because you arent somebody else the sooner you will have amazing happiness.
Good luck, be safe, be true.
2006-09-13 20:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by aiji.tenchijin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend in college told me she didn't see herself as straight, bi or gay -- she just loved people and it just didn't matter what sex the person she was loving at the moment happened to be! It's a lovely philosophy but in our society it tends to make us happier to be able to label things. I agree with those who suggested you see a counselor to help you get to the bottom of your feelings. Good luck to you my dear, and remember there are plenty of people who will love and respect you for who you are regardless of your orientation. Don't forget that when the haters get you down. : )
2006-09-13 20:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of time and introspection to figure it out. You don't need to tell anyone, but talk to a guidance counselor or someone who will listen and understand. Good luck!
2006-09-13 20:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by a_soft_world 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not something another person can judge. If during sex which type of partner you feel great or very good, that is the type you are.
So have fun with all types, then you will know.
2006-09-13 20:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Rammohan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe that you do not know who your are. Are you attracted to women? If yes, your a lesbian... If not you are not a lesbian.
If you like both men and women, you are bisexual....
2006-09-13 20:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget other people u can only think of Ur self just be true to your self and u will know what u really want
good luck
2006-09-13 21:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by lost in love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try experimenting! Whichever one makes you feel best about yourself and who you are go with it! Follow your heart.
2006-09-13 21:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by Dragonfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋