And all does times I changed and walked around in my undies in front of her. I'm okay if she's a lesbo but thinking to all those times when I stupidly asked her touch right below my boobs to feel the muscle I'm trying to form or when I talk about sex with her. Hell, Why couldn't I have seen this
2006-09-13 13:08:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her NO and change nothing. The fact that she likes other girls is OK as long as she understands that is not you. If she gets that, there is no reason she can't touch your "muscles" as before. You both just keep your heads about you. When you call some other girl a biotch, she can temper your vision of the situation as she see girls in a different way. Like having an inside track to a guys head for advice and assistance.
2006-09-13 13:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did she tell you this herself? If she didn't, it might not be true. Even if it is true, and she didn't tell you, GIVE HER SOME RESPECT! She kept her feelings from you so you wouldn't be freaked out!
And if she DID tell you, you should STILL give her some respect- maybe she wanted to tell you so you someone else wouldn't. Maybe she thought that you deserved to know, because she respects and loves you so much that she didn't want to lie to you anymore.
Also, you say that you're okay with her being lesbian (please don't use the word "lesbo"- it's derogatory!). I would have to disagree there- why else would you be reacting so violently? You're so freaked out over when she touched you and saw you partially undressed- but did she ever try to "get it on" with you? Did you ever feel unsafe? Weird?
Your friend, your BEST friend, is still the same person that she was before you found this out- it's just that how YOU see her has changed. Please, remember that, and all the awesome times you've had with her- all the laughter, all the tears. A friendship is too precious to waste over something like this.
Talk to her, if you absolutely know that this is true. Tell her you feel weirded out. Let her explain HER side of the story- it's probabaly even more painful and weird than yours. Then decide where you want to go from there- but remember, she is herself. You cared for her before you knew this, and you can care for her again.
2006-09-13 13:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by dragonheartsong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grin. Way back when I was in college, my boyfriend had a roommate who did not seem gay. He cooked and cleaned and sewed, but he said he liked to eat well, live in a clean surrounding, and the sewing not only calmed his nerves but he was the owner of a closet full of the most wonderful, unique, patterned shirts
When my boyfriend and I got serious, all of a sudden he roared "out of the closet."
He stamped up and down the living room, telling my boyfriend that the was crazy in love with him, and felt like he had been stabbed in the heart. "I cooked for you, I cleaned for you, I sewed the buttons on your shirts for you"
All my boyfriend could get out was a stuttering "I like girls"
They worked it out. They stayed together as roommates until the gay guy graduated and moved out.
I always received stabbing looks from him, but other than that things went smooth.
My advice to you is if she is your best friend and you are cool with her being a lesbo, sit her down and tell her you like guys therefore will never have the hots for her, but, if possible, you want to continue your best friend relationship.
Don't feel bad about not knowing earlier. My boyfriend had lived with this roommate for a year before we started dating. and he did not have a clue.
Good luck to you :)
2006-09-13 13:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rhubarb Colada 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a guy i ask, whats the problem? You know that being bi or bi curious is very pc these days, so you can indulge your curiousity or tell her that you are straight and not interested in that kind of thing. No big deal, be glad that she finds you attractive.
2006-09-13 13:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you are somewhat naive, and she was good at staying "in the closet"! Perhaps you were also in denial, and didn't want to believe such a thing about your best friend!
2006-09-13 13:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has she tried to ask u out go out with her guys (me) think lesbos r hot and u sid u changed and got nude in front of her and vice versa so u would be used to it
2006-09-13 13:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she likes women, get over it. Does it turn you on to know that she wants you? If it doesn't, just be honest and tell her. Why were you letting her feel "your Muscles" ?
2006-09-13 13:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make it clear to her you are not attracted to her.
Hopefully she won't go all stalker on you,
CT
2006-09-13 13:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats halariouse! but yeh it is a shock! wow...
2006-09-13 13:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Dragonfly :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have lunch with her at the Y
2006-09-13 13:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by chicken_plucker69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋